Hey Friends,

This is my first post in any sort of PU Community board. I come to you in my time of need

I work in management at a technology firm, and have a close female friend who has the same job title as myself. I have never run game on her, until about a month ago, where I decided to try some routines just for the hell of it.

Well... it worked; maybe too well. What was harmless flirting led to some serious conversations between the two of us, with her admitting that she has some feelings for me, but that she also has feelings for somebody else that she's been carrying for a year without doing anything about. I basically cut the flirting out 100% as I didn't want to jeopardize anything for either of us as far as our careers go. Fast forward 3 weeks, and we ended up having sex last night/this morning after about 3 or so dates with gradually escalating kino.

We haven;t really talked since the sex this morning, and I'm not sure how to proceed. I don't have the energy for MLTRs, and I have just broken off a short-term fling with a girl a month back. But we also work really closely together, and I feel I may have f*cked up and crossed a line that I can't come back from.

Any advice?

Thanks

False9

You can't have you cake and eat it bro.

You crossed a line and now you're going to have to deal with a bit of discomfort as you sooth this out. I've done this consistently in the past so I feel you.

So you're saying you got cold feet? Like after sex you lost all the passion to be around her? Because unless thats the case I think its a bit too soon for you to make a judgement call. Perhaps its no big deal to her either. Give it some time and see how you she behaves. If she gets a bit too clingly, meet up with her, look her in the eyes and let her know where you stand. Don't text or call it, because you have to work with her. Be respect and be honest to her face. She'll be hurt for a bit, but she'll respect the way you handled it and thus she won't be a threat to the work environment.

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Here's the part that confuses me. I told her previously I didn't want to become involved with her out of respect for her career and what she's built with this company...

After last night, however, I feel like I wouldn't mind pursuing her and seeing if there's the potential for an LTR. Should I be worried about this other guy that she admits she has feelings for? She says that's where she feels torn and unsure of what to do. Is the deck stacked in my favour because of how quickly we escalated romantically, and she's had 0 history with this other dude?

hah.. well aware this is coming across as a huge AFC post..

When you shit where you eat you gotta assume the consequences that come with it.

But yeah. You work with her. She's around you every single day for at least 8 hours. You had sex. Is the deck stacked in your favor? fuck yea it is.
I don't think you have to worry about the other guy.

Huge afc? dude, I've seen some shit on these forums. Don't worry, you're doing fine.

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Oh I wasn't familiar with the term MLTR so I took as you saying you don't have the energy for a relationship.

You're catching feelings after one smash man? Was she that good? lol

I think you need to chill and let the influx of your emotions settle before you make any decisions. You're acting like the majikcal method. Lol

Just relax man. She ain't going anywhere. And you're the one that actually fucked her, I don't see how you can see someone who hasn't as competition.

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Great points, guys. LOL thank you for putting my shit back into perspective.

And no... the weird part is that the sex wasn't good for me at least. She's in her late 20s, and while not a virgin, hasn't been with anybody for about 3-4 years. So experienced? Definitely not. And maybe that's why I'm so drawn, because it's refreshing hahaha

Thanks for the advice and perspective bros

Lol. Shots fired.

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