#closed a 9 at the mall monday night. set was solid. texted her later that night(monday night). i always fuck it up here during text game.....need suggestion and help on some example of these so i can get her on a day2 this weekend so i can nail.


how do you break rapport, self amuse, how can you be engaging over text, how do you valiadate to and extent whats going over board look like, man to women frame over text, whats giving value over text like, over tex

First of all stop it with the stupid "lols" and "hahahas" and silly emotes. Since she knows what most of what you are saying isnt funny you are giving her the text equivalent of nervous laughing. Nervous laughing is generally considered subservient behavior in evolutionary biology used to lower tension with members who have higher status than you- super beta.

Secondly your conversation has no agenda or direction. While its nice to inset humorous asides most of your text is not funny and unfocused. The whole frame of the convo is basically wrong.

You should be focusing on being funny, slightly challenging, qualifying, exciting and looking to set up logistics for a live meet up. Again text is not a good tool to garner attraction and the more you do it, especially this unfocused, the more it seems like a aimless effort at rapport.

The very last thing you said was clever if that helps.

how exactly do i

"focusing on being funny, slightly challenging, qualifying, exciting and looking to set up logistics for a live meet up. "



i qualify her once shes invested right? how do i challenge her? how do i give VALUE OVER TEXT?

look through some other posts here relating to texts. You will see these elements from texts where the guy clearly knows what he is doing. Basically you have to have the proper frame when you text which brings up a lengthy discourse in framing which I wont go into here.

However whilst you study better texting techniques you can immediately stop the "lols" and "hahahas". Start with the end in mind as far as what you want to accomplish with this girl via this text thread. Sorry i'm not providing further detail but your asking questions that would take too long to explain properly

detox can you send me a link to what your talking about because i cant find it. the texting threads that will help me for my situation

sent her a text saying
"so pumped bc today is payday!! and look what i got " (my check was 14. and change)
she repiled "looll im waiting for my check to come in too"
"aha you know where im taking you out on a date now...." (about an hour and a half ago)
i was planning on saying Bk or wendy's for Mcdonalds

what do you guys think?

1) Never double text
2) Stick to 3 lines max per message
3) Keep the focus on meeting up. The conversation can start open ended then move to activity then to schedule and making an agreement about a time/place to meet up
4) Meet up ASAP
5) 90% or more of your game is lost over text, so forget about being self-amused/value/breaking rapport/investment, just get her in front of you again
6) Next time, set up the Day 2 while she is still by your side
7) If she sends multiple messages, only reply to the message that is most relevant to you meeting up with her. Let the other threads be. Text is basically a 1 thread game.

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Cdharders just gave you some great advice, everything he said I agree with and that's rare on here.

Also, as I told you before, stop with the gay ass emoticons. You already work at Diesel or Aeropostal or something as I remember so you don't want chicks questioning your sexuality even more than they may be already.

Finally you should have said something like

"im ready for you to take me out now"

or

"I'm ready to take you out now, do you like your meal supersized?" - although if shes dumb she may have missed the humor in that

thanks for the advice guys.....CD and detox....
im just gunna have to wait till she decides to response ha

how do i prevent flakes then over text??/

get to the point, confirm a date location and time, then the day of the date ping them with a lock in text like "wear your hot pants, not the mumu"

I have found its bad to convey emotion and talk too much over text, so I have kept it short, sweet and necessary. I am doing good now but if you cut out emojis/emoticons, does that mean cut down a bit or never use them? Because ive found sometimes e.g. without the odd wink face, the humour or comment can be taken the wrong way and/or they dont quite get your point.

Read my texting guide. It will answer most of your questions.

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