hey guys, so yesterday had an exam at my college and saw this HB8.5, i though its time to stop being a pussy,i asked her about some stuff about the exam and the course.
i talked really good and eye contact was good.
but i noticed that my hands were literally shaking after talking to her.
the problem is that i did about 3 approaches but none of them ended with atleast knowing each other's names.
so how to fix that and transition to something that leads to convo?
thanks guys

Don't worry too much about the transition just yet, focus on getting comfortable with approaching first. So for example when you're able to approach at will without your hands shaking, that's a decent indicator that you're now more comfortable with it and it's time to move forward. In terms of getting people's names, just introduce yourself and hold out your hand.

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first of all- you did an amazing job dude! congrats on popping your approach cherry

now that you KNOW FOR A FACT YOU CAN

its time to expand that and just get tons of little approaches under your belt and just be a "serial opener" just approach everyone to get you warmed up- dont worry about it not going anywhere until you get rid of the common "shakes" we all have from time to time

good job bro!! keep it up

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And you didn't die? Lol AA is totally irrational. Now I walk into all kinds of odd shit without even thinking about it.

Nice one, man. Being nervous is a good thing. I won't try to give advice from a place of bragging - I'm no expert with this myself, it scares the shit out of me and I usually wait for 10x the amount of IOI's that any other guy would. However, there's nothing wrong with just randomly saying "Whats your name, by the way?"

Don't give her your name.

You: Sorry I didn't catch your name? (or whatever you say)
Girl: I'm Stacey
You: It's nice to meet you, Stacey
Girl: Whats your name? <<<< IOI - If she doesn't ask your name, you've got work to do

^ Sounds a little daft, did to me at first too, but its kind of common sense really

Edit: Well done, for the approach. Takes a lot of courage to finally just do it.

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Thank you guys for the support and the advice, really appreciate it.
i have a question, how do you guys remeber the stuff that you read and what we should do,
cuz i have been reading PUA for maybe a year but the second i start the convo it is like i never heard about PUA. SO what did you do when you were noobs to remember the stuff ?
thanks

Sounds like you're still seeing it as an act that you have to put on... keep reading, keep watching, keep treating all women the same (yes, you can even be playful and challenging with female family members...) just make it a natural part of your personality. If you're charming to everyone, you won't have to worry about ACTING a certain way when you see a woman that you like, you'll just be being your natural self.

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Don't try to remember anything. When you're talking to someone, you should be in the moment, not trying to remember that witty one-liner you read on the forum last night. Social interactions are a back and forth between two people, listen to what they say and respond appropriately as well as notice their enthusiasm/lack of enthusiasm regarding topics you bring up.

In terms of when you're trying to work on stuff, just focus on 1 or 2 things at a time; for example "tonight I'm gonna work on my body language", that doesn't mean constantly be in your head thinking "body language body language body language", but when you're out and approaching etc, just every 5-10 minutes or so quickly think "How's my body language" then correct it if it needs correctly. Same goes for if you're practising your voice tonality etc. don't worry about remembering scripted lines because HOW you speak is way more important than what you say.

When you practice and practice and practice, what you'll find is that you'll naturally start to learn the common patterns which occur in social interactions, you only learn this through practice, you can't read your way to be able to recognise similar situations as they happen. I'm not saying stop reading about this stuff, but don't focus on that, anything your brain deems important enough to remember from reading these forums etc, you'll remember on the spot in the moment without having to consciously think about it.

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thank you guys for the help.
MUSTERION special thanks for you man you really get what i mean