Ignorance is Bliss.
Though for me, personally, as long as my numbers exceed her, I have no problem. I don't dig virgin.As long she has been with 5 - 10 guys, Works for me.
That is her past, and experienced gained = Better sex for me!

For me, if it is for temporary gf, then her sex history don't really bother me. She can even have sex with other guys while in a relationship with me. But selecting a girl for a wife, then, for me, that will be a different story, don't you agree? For me, now, a girl for my future wife, i care less if she have a sex history before she is 20 (and she is still virgin after 20). Above that, no way!! My standard of my future wife is quite high. ha ha ha.

If shes a slut, i barely care, but if she has a reputation as one, then that's different.

I met this girl in a city of 1 million, didn't know the place well only just moved there. Anyway i fucked her she was alright good body, and then not long after i was talking to this dude and we ending up exchanging sex stories. Turns out he fucked her too and told me she was a massive whore and had fucked so many guys in town she was almost a minor celebrity.

He told me to go this sex site and gave me her username. Yep was her alright. I look through her history and see her forum posts. Every few days I'd see a new post from her looking to get gangbanged, heaps of guys woukd reply, and then the next dat she would post again saying she had a good time with the 6 or whatever guys, then a few dats kater shed be looking for more, this went on for months and months.

Her, yes her reputation ruined any chance of me dating her.

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No, no. I haven't asked her how many guys...I have been in the game for awhile to know when I am becoming needy. I wanted to run this question by the community is all. I guess Melodical kinda figured out part of the problem, I may get a little agitated my other people's opinion. But see the thing is, I haven't really had many girlfriends. I have had many flings but only 3 girlfriends overall.


And @ Xoved...I wouldn't really want to bang every cheerleader on campus...but I would bang most . Not every girl is worth the trouble, some girls aren't great in the sack.


And that's what I don't like about it, Vic. Who knows if you're dating a girl with a reputation as a slut until one day someone tells you. Then what do you do? I don't care if she is slutty in the bedroom...but a reputation...eh, that's kind of iffy.

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Yes. If she's slept with fewer than three guys, she's more work.

Virgins can be a serious pain in the ass.

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I'm in an open-ish poly relationship with three people. One is a virgin and I refuse to touch her because I am afraid of hurting her emotionally should we break up. (She is very sensitive and is a "wait till marriage" type.) Another slept with about 25-30 people. The other slept with over 500 people and was a former sex worker. My number is in the triple digits.

Honestly, the number of people each of my partners slept with doesn't matter to me, save for the virgin girl for obvious reasons. More experience means they know how to do more.

I haven't read all the threads but when I lost my virginity to this one girl I developed feelings for her, I was obsessed with finding out her past. I was so jealous, I wanted to know everything about how long she dated, where they went on dates, how many dates it took to get her to have sex with them, what sexual acts did she do, did she want to do, what they made her do, what she felt, just completely and unhealthily obsessed. Having studied sex and spirituality I learned just to accept my feelings of jealousy and pursue what makes me happy. I pondered this for a while, what I found out(and this is true for myself and probably other guys but not for everyone) was that I was jealous of her experience. I didn't want her to experience anything I was not capable of giving her: Treating her like shit, Treating her like a God, Making her happy, making her sad, giving her orgasms, and even having bad sex. I figured there were two ways I could get over this. The first was to have found her when she was a virgin, she would not know of any other guys and would never compare me to others. The only bad thing I could imagine from this is that she would be curious to find out what other guys are like. The SECOND way of over coming this is by getting more experience than her. Having 2x3x4x more partners than her, having read sex literature, I found having and keeping open relationships to be possible. Now I have two girls, one that I have deep feelings for and that I call my GF, I love showing affection for and a side girl who I am just having fun with.

My point is there are two ways of dealing with this issue, and yes the amount of guys a girl sleeps with bothers me but only if I like her. Much like the OP I could careless about a girls number if It's just about sex.

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For me personally, when I was a nice guy and never realized I was in the friend zone too often, it mattered a lot. Not sure why since I wasn't getting much. In the last 5 or so years, I have evolved to where I am not judgmental. If I like her I will go for her.

I'm going through similar issues. I'm very jealous over my girlfriend's past even though, objectively, there is not much to be or nothing to obsess about. And yet, knowing this, I cannot get over it. I imagine that a solution to this, like to many other insecurity/anxiety/depression issues is understanding the psychological mechanism leading to this reaction. Therefore, I'm trying to educate myself more on this topic. Can you recommend any books/articles/materials on the topic explaining this kind of jealousy - what's the source etc.? I'm not talking about some self-help advice-bullshit, but a solid explanation of the psychological mechanism.

It's an invitation to be jealous not a command; you can throw the invitation in the bin if you want to.

The thing is if her number is too high she can easily lie and say a low number or vice versa. You will never know the exact answer so why bother to ask? Just assume every girl is a slut and take precautions.

Believe it or not. Girls are worse than us. They go bareback all the time. So condoms and HIV testing are your best friends. OTC testing kit is fairly affordable.

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