.......and generally speaking she gives them for ten seconds then we do other things.

We have sex constantly, I make her cum with toys and such every time I see her, she swallows after sucking whenever I want after sex, and she says that during college class she finds herself fantasizing about us having sex.

I have read in the forums conflicting views on this. I read if a girl doesn't give bjs she isn't submitting to you or totally in your frame. But mine says it is mine (her vagina) during sex and I dominate her. She initiates more than I do too, not to mention she swallows. Other guys say some girls don't like it and some girls do it to please you even if they don't, which is a huge ioi in itself.

Do bjs mean much?

Do they matter? Yes, to our dicks.

Preference is pretty far-reaching, man. Some girls LOVE giving brains, some HATE it, and then you got everything in between.

I think I've done such a good job of weeding out girls that might not be into giving oral, that I rarely get involved unless I know for sure she's down. And that is actually the best way to do it, to throw sometime out there to get a reaction out of her. Its either going to be "eww" or "haha/nice", and boom you got your oral insight.

And sometimes we all forget the best way to go about situations like this: conversation. What's stopping you from talking to her about sex? If you guys are this openly sexual, why not have a conversation about each others fantasies? Maybe all she needs to hear from you is, "I just enter a different world when you go down on me." Why does this help? Because aside from personal preferences of having dicks in the mouth, she now has another measurement for her reason to give head: you loving it. Women have a remarkable way of catering to a mans needs if she knows she has the power to influence you. By that I mean, the amount of power a woman possesses because of her sexuality is incredible...and women know that. So in a sense, to be submissive is also an act of power of the person she's servicing...she can stop at any moment and fuck everything up.

So make this "talk" into more of a fantasy sharing session. Watch some porn, take everything slow and talk it through. Women are stimulated less visually than men are...so that means we need to be talking, touching and massaging to get the blood flowing. And as you prime her enough, she attacks your junk with reckless abandon.

Another thing that I can attest to, is the power of chores, housework, tedious jobs etc. If you clean the bathroom or take out the garbage or clean up the cat nip, she will feel amazingly grateful...and NOT for the actual job...but for your effort that you expended FOR HER.

Good luck man.

Yeah , it's a matter of preference.

Some hate it ,some love it. Others are biased.


Now regarding your questions , "Do bj's mean much ?" , the answer depends on you. Everyone has sexual preferences that make them compatible or incompatible with other people.

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