Hey guys, so I im in a classic game of powers here and need some pua advice on how to approach this, ill try to be as short as possible yet give the essential details.

Im 28, and ive been with this girl (21) for about 3 months, and its a tricky dynamic. I am originally from boston, and so is she but she goes to a college 2 hrs away, and is about to graduate. I was living in Israel when we started hookin up bout 6 months ago (knew eachother for longer tho), she came to see a friend, we hooked up all was great, then I came to visit my family a month later in boston, met up with her at her college, hooked up things were warming up. That vacation was over, went back to Israel, but I was planning on moving back to boston anwyay at that point and we also decided it would be a great opportunity to date, so i figured it was a a plus coming here and having a girl too. I made it clear to her I was not making this drastic move just for her (absolute truth, i got plenty goin on) so she dont get too pressured/scared. She definitely loved the excitement at first of havin a guy from abroad come over and what not (told her friends, family etc, introduced me, the works), and things were goin great at first when I visitied her couple times at college, but quickly she started to feel that college was gettin in the way of me and her, sounds classic, i know.

From the get go she had a tough time integrating me with her college life (and warned me this would be the case before I came over, so we knew what we were gettin into, sort of...). As the semester went on, and as graduation encroached, she began to feel more pressured about the relationship, and decided she needed space to figure things out (the prospect of graduating and losing friends, moving into the real world, making the most of whats left, etc, we've all been there, she thinks she's special...). In hindsight, I did come on too strong and didnt give her enough space throughout that time, but when things were gettin shaky, I asked her firmly if she wanted some space. She said no (and at that point, if not way earlier, I should have been slowing things down but i didnt), and later we got into another argument, so i suggested again we take some time off. She said no, whats the point, lets just work it out. Then two weeks later, and three weeks before graduation, things still goin down hill, she calls and says she wants to break things off (graduation just around the corner, and all the social craziness, stress was at the max). Clearly she wanted to be the one to break things off, and not take my suggestion (shes very dominant, and intelligent- which turns me on, but i gotta show her who'se boss). She will graduate soon and we will be both be in summer euphoria soon enough, and the agreed upon premise from the get go was that the best time would be in the summer after her college. Shes gonna graduate soon and gonna realize she misses me and want me back, but I gotta show her I got balls yet not push her away too much. I actually like her a lot, and I want to give it a real shot in the summer, but not when I'm her puppy.

What I was thinking is:
1. We talked a lot about her graduation party to which i was supposed to go of course. I think she will still want me there, but if/when she invites me, im gonna decline that invite and say something like "you didnt want me around when you were in college, so you can go ahead and celebrate your graduation without me as well".

2. Date/f**k some girls in the meantime, and bring it up casually, at some point. She will definitely be surprised, since she thinks she's havin all the fun right now with graduation excitement and parties, and presumes im here sulking and waiting.

She's super intelligent, so its tough to play games on her, but I'm decent when I try (I just wasnt trying untill now, I thought she was mature and past that crap, guess not). Any ideas how to play it?

Nothing tricky here. Just the same cliche advice that applies to 90% of the posts here. You need to forget about her and get a new girl. If she comes back, great. If not, then it wasn't going to work no matter what you do.

Never!

The minute you start to think this, your fucked.
Sure, Stop trying to please the pussy.

Especially when your not going to get any more of it. And Pal it doesn't sound like that's going to happen.

She wants a break? Give it to her.

Done is done.

That means no party, no text, no calling, no slobbery emails.

It's graduation I'm sure there be a bevy of fuckables floating around this time of year.

Quit the baby ass sulking, be a MAN and go do that.

What makes her the great prize? NOTHING!

She's hot, she's smart, she's cool.....bla bla bla. So are the next 100...10,000.

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Well said. Taken to heart, i knew it just had to hear it

Her: "I think we should take a break."

You: (figures out if she means it or if there's some actual fixable thing going on)

Her: "No I mean it, I have too much other stuff to do to hang out with you."

You: "Cool. See ya."

Then you leave. And don't contact her at all. For any reason. Ignore her incoming contact stuff for a while too. Then when she finally sends you something you like and want to explore, respond.

She might not come back. However if this was just a case of you being TOO AVAILABLE, becoming unavailable again for awhile will probably re-ignite her spark.

And ps, if she told you she needed a break as a way to get something else out of you, once you find out what it was, call her on her bullshit. Ask her, "if that's what you came here to talk about, why all the mind games and this crap about needing a break? Next time be a grown up and say what you mean."

Punish childish behavior.

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Title says it all.Same story,different scenario. Gonna go ahead and quote myself from a different topic.
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sounds pointless and sort of immature
sounds like a good plan minus the bringing it up to be spiteful, how about just hanging out with some new girls to enjoy it instead of trying to be spiteful and not saying anything to her about it at all
if she's super intelligent you are probably pretty smart yourself as like attracts like, maybe you should just stop playing the games and let this go, give a break a go and meet some more women and when she comes back cause she misses you and remembers how great you are, you can just make your choice

you can just be honest about how you feel about her and the situation at that time, and you can make a decision for how you would like your life to continue, the only way you can make your own decisions for yourself and others is if you remain true to yourself and others, if you have to try to manipulate people or do weird things that are not you, then you will have to keep being something you are not

if someone won't follow the path you have chosen for yourself and your life, then it's likely that isn't someone who is meant to be a part of your life for the long haul, just accept the transient nature of things and carry on with your head up and your mind on your goals

thanks for the honest replies guys.
After some time thinking [more] clearly, and some developments, heres whats going on:

Recap of break up day: it had been going downhill before that, and I suggested we take time off, she said no, then two weeks later- break up day, she called, she said she wanted time off... wasn't working out... maybe sometime in the future we could pick things back up... I agreed, said we needed time off, and hopefully we could meet up again in the summer. I maintained my cool, was very gentleman about it, and it surprised her.

That same night, I sent her an email kind of recapping some the things I didnt fully express when we were on the phone. I was thinking emotionally here unfortunately, and I was rationalizing what went wrong with the relationship, and told her if we are still single and interested in the future, i would like to pick it back up, etc etc. Came off as a bit needy, should have left things the way they were, but it wasn't a disaster, it was tasteful and mature.

About a week later she responded to the email, apologised for the delay, said she agreed with everything, and that she would contact me after her road trip in the summer- about a month from now. (Im taking everything with a grain of salt, she could be well over me and just trying to let me down easy... fully aware of that possibility).

I havent responded, have maintained NC since breakup day (almost two weeks), and intend to maintain that untill she contacts me, if ever. In the days after the break up it became utterly clear why she broke up with me. I was needy, plain and simple. I used to be a decent player in college, knew my stuff (david dangelo was my hero), and was always in control of my relationships, never thought I would be that guy. But after being in the army for several years and not dating, I became rusty, and kinda forgot about the whole pua stuff (big mistake). I did a good job picking this girl up, but became too comfortable too fast, and thats the bottom line. So far I have been keeping busy with friends, gettin ripped at the gym, working, and started dating a bit. Still thinkin about this chick a lot, and I know the only solution is time and to f*k other girls. I wanna show her I got over her, but not offend her.

That being said, this girl is special to me, and I will do anything to make it work (I wont make the same mistakes thats for sure). Any suggestions how to get back on top of my game, and most importantly, how to handle the time leading up to and the actual time of our initial contact after our time appart. The thing is I am more interested in getting back together than she is, and I have also already been needy in the past leading up to the breakup, so she definitely holds the power right now. Gotta reverse that somehow.

Sorry the verbosity, but I know you guys wanna help and need as much details as possible. Thanks.