So I have recently gotten into a new relationship, however I quickly realized I still have no idea of what I shud and shud not be doing to keep her interested and have her chasing me instead of the other way around.

Been together about a month and already I notice changes ex. She used to call me first, txt me first and actually make it seem like she's interested , now we are starting to argue about the past, etc every once in a while. She is 18 and I am 23. She pretty much lossed her virginity to me and I pretty much had her as my sex slave and it was "whatever I wanted" now it isn't quite like that.

What are some things I shud be doing ? Am I supposed to call her every night ? Txt all day or not at all?
How much space should I give her to do her and me do me? What are some things that I should deffinatly not say to her in the beginning of a relationship and how should I "punish" her when she "acts up" like takes way to long to reply or when she don't send me a pic when I ask? Pretty much I wanna make it to where she is hypnotized and will do whatever I say and respect me. And to not even think twice about leaving me , any tips?

Well, she didn't change. She is still the same girl that was attracted to you.

Ask yourself, why was she attracted in the first place?

Your coming down with a mild form of NEEDINESS!

Pussy dependency. The pussy is the reward, and she controls the pussy.

So I'm guessing your now rolling over to HER needs and wants, to earn that reward?

your young so you might as well learn this now.

The combinations of these problems WILL compound each other, causing you to give up the male persona.
The only known remedy is YOU!

Signs of Neediness:
1. Buying gifts.
2. Romantic gestures.
3. Expressing your desire.
4. Doing “favors” without reciprocation.
5. Chasing.
6. Over calling/text messaging. (no more than 1 to 1) EVER!

You need to get back to that mental place that you are an amazing guy, and that you don’t need a partner (or anyone else for that matter) to validate you, then you are on the right track. The woman you become attracted to becomes important for you, but not necessarily 'everything'. You don’t depend on her to make you feel important, or like a man, or even loved, because those things are already part of you. Therefore as a man you would still be capable of rational thought, and capable too of knowing that your relationship MAY come to an end, but you know that wouldn't be the end of the world, because you are a slick enough person to find someone else worthy of your affection.

The second part of keeping the attraction going is being able to continually flip her attraction switches during your time hanging out with her.

You need to get a life of your own and not depend on her for emotional stability, once you can validate your own life you won’t need her validation. Therefore you will naturally act as an attractive male as you should be.


Hope this helps you out,

Heywood.

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DO's:

1. Be awesome.
A relationship should be exciting , adventurous , interesting and most importantly fun.So don't be a jackas$ that never goes out and prefers to stay indoors watching movies all day.

2. Be yourself.
Yes. You read that right. You should be yourself ,because you are 23 and you should be doing all you need to be doing to have your life in check. That means you're supposed to be very pleased with your awesome self ,in which case there is no need to suck up to a girl by pretending to like stupid shit like Twilight just because she does.
If you're not happy with who you are and constantly feel the need to bend your personality to be liked by others , you have bigger problems that you need to focus on.

3. Conquer your moods.
Ever felt like sh!t before going out ? Like you don't really want to ? Get down , give me 50 push ups , get pumped and get into that godly state of mind. Basically , don't be a boring chump.

4. Respect her. Do you want a pet or a girlfriend ? If you wanna control her , then you're already setting yourself up for failure. If you wanna get her infatuated with you , then you gotta live up to that.


DONT's:

1. Don't overthink
Should you call every night ? Should you text every night ? Should you reply in 1-2-10 minutes ?
You should do whatever feels right. If you're at the gym breaking your bench PR and she calls , don't stagnate your progress and hard work to answer the phone. That shit can wait.
If you're waiting in line to buy lipstick for your girly ass and she texts , there's nothing wrong with replying. Don't go all "Oh I have to wait at least 30 minutes now".

2. Don't be needy / controlling / jealous.
Neediness is expressed in many different ways , but one of the most common & annoying ways to be needy is along the lines of:
Scenario:
You text her and she only responds in 2 hours. Do not start turning all Inspector Gadget on her ass. Don't ask why she didn't respond earlier , don't "OMG I was worried sick you took so long to respond" and for the love of god do not "Yeah,you know what , texting you is like texting a wall. You take forever to reply."

3. Don't go through her phone.
This is pretty self-explanatory.

4. Don't go berserk over her talking to other guys.
If she was a virgin that means her experience is limited. She probably will be curious of new experiences and the only way you're gonna stop her from going after that is by being a quality guy. So don't lower your value with chumpness.

5. Don't buy stupid sh!t for stupid reasons.
Gifts , specially expensive ones , are something you should not be buying her until she tells you that she loves you. Exception would be her birthday , other than that any gift is unnacceptable in the early stages of a relationship.
After the "I love you" , expensive gifts are still a very much no-go in my point of view.
However, if she has an adoration for something a little bit out of the ordinary , say Lilac flowers for example , buying her some of those just to put a smile on her face will never do you any harm. Unless you over do it. Or unless you do it to win something from her - be it sex , apology , pretty much any hidden agenda.


I could go on but this should suffice. Relationships are complicated and giving advice about them is almost useless , seeing as how most of it should be common sense. However , the most important advice anyone could give you is to be smart about it.

Good luck.

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A post I wrote awhile back:

quote="Wolfwoodd"] Well, I think the underlying reason this forum exists is to come together and figure out what actually works as opposed to what society tells us should work. For me, reading the forums has been a huge help (specifically, the old MASF relationship forums.. I didn't find this place until that one became a ghost town). Here's a list of some of the more influential posts (I am standing on the shoulders of giants):

http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php? ... -old-forum

Obviously, there is no magic bullet. Everybody's situation is a little bit different. What we DO know is that society is very bad at preparing guys to handle dating and relationships. That's why we're all here. So now what we have to do is figure out all our bad habits ("dumb-guy mistakes") and fix them. If I had to narrow down some core advice that I have internalized since joining this community it would be this:

1) Learn to screen. Personally, I like the "Freaks, Hoes and Good Girls" classifications that have been around for awhile. Different women look for different things in relationships. Learn how to spot the different types of girls and treat them accordingly. Don't try to have a serious relationship with a freak unless you really know what you're doing.

2) Learn how to lead. Be confident and make decisions whenever possible. Most girls are indecisive and hate being the ones to make decisions in relationships. Submissiveness is a feminine trait and being in a submissive role makes most girls feel sexy. Don't argue with your girlfriend. Guys handle conflict logically while women handle conflict with their emotions. Arguing doesn't work and it only rewards bad behavior by giving her your attentions (which is what girls want most). Either change her emotional state (ideally, by having sex with her) or, if she is in the wrong, leave or ignore her until she cools down. Never accept ultimatums.

3) Be congruent. Know what you want and act accordingly. Set up your expectations early and stick to them. If a girl is a FB, then don't treat her like a girlfriend. Don't lie. Lying is beta behavior. Don't promise monogamy if you don't intend on being monogamous.

4) Know that nothing lasts forever. Monogamous relationships are mostly set up to fail. When we first meet somebody who we are attracted to, our bodies release strong hormones / endorphins when we are around them. However, this effect mellows out over time. The strong reaction lasts a good 2-3 years.. more if you have kids (think "seven year itch"). Sure, some people get passed it and have life-long marriages, but it typically isn't their sexual passion keeping them together (it's common bonds and comfortableness.. you see this work really well with 2 people who are equally co-dependent). Be prepared.

5) Always bring your A-game to the bedroom.. always try and keep sex passionate, interesting and frequent. Mix it up as much as you can. Be dominant and don't be afraid to treat her roughly.. most girls love that stuff. Get toys and restraints and anything else you can think of to add some variety to your sex life. Do some research and learn how to make a girl squirt. Learn how to properly introduce and perform anal sex. Talk to her about sex and learn about her fantasies. Be the guy that allows her to fulfill those fantasies. Touch her all the time.. as often as possible.

6) Don't fail shit tests! Don't ever show jealousy (and/or just don't get jealous of other guys.. that's beta). Don't tolerate or reward bad behavior. Giving her attention when she acts out or picks a fight is BAD. Do, however, reward good behavior (this is part of leading well). Don't be that pussy-whipped guy who can never hang out with his friends. Don't be her psychologist or the one she constantly complains to (that's what her female friends are for). You should be the guy who makes her forget all the bad stuff.. a vacation from the troubles in her life. Avoid being around her when she's in a negative state and refuses to get out of it.

How is that for tips? If you want i can make a whole different post about all the BAD stuff society teaches us: That there's only 1 girl for every guy. That the best thing anybody can do is to settle down, get married and have kids (and live happily ever after). That woman need to be won and put on a pedestal. Guys should pay for everything. You need to be rich or famous to get lots of women. Non-monogamous relationships are weird and/or immoral. I could go on and on.

-Wolf[/quote]

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Screening: drama-free-relationships-1-screening-vt124827.html
Bad Behavior: drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html

This may or may not make sense... But simply continue living your life. Let her feel that she has the choice to either get left behind or jump on the train to getting to the life you want to live.

You don't have to call or text her if you don't want to. The thing that turns a girl on the most is knowing that the guy she is with could be fucking any other girl he wants.

Thanks guys, this is exactly the kind of advice I've been looking for. Pretty much some of it is just in my head and I happen I have insecurity and needy issues to fix and pretty much just keep it real with myself and focus on being the man. Really appreciate it guys, and yes feel free to post more advice and common mistakes I should avoid.

Also how do I know when she is testing me? For example I missed her call and I called back about 5 minutes later and didn't get an answer. Perhaps she is expecting to send her a txt or confront her about why she didn't answer or something. The best thing to do would be to let her call me back right ?

don't call back, assuming she didn't ignore you on purpose then she will see the missed call on her phone, if you keep calling her back it looks needy. And if she ignored you on purpose then she expects you to call her back so if you don't it raised your value

that are some really nice tips ! I have read a few times that you can't reward 'bad behaviour' ( when she's mad or pissed off for no good reason ) but how do you do that ? When she texts something I don't like I simply don't answer, but when she starts an argument in real life I never know how to 'let it be' or 'ignore it', I always get emotional and therefore 'engage in the fight'... but that's rewarding because she gets the attention wanted.

How schould one handle it ??

The easiest way to do this is to physically remove yourself from the area. Leave. Then go and do something fun (and don't answer your phone or texts). Your time is valuable and you shouldn't spend it putting up with bullshit drama. Don't spend time with a girl who's not worthy of it.

-Wolf

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Screening: drama-free-relationships-1-screening-vt124827.html
Bad Behavior: drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html