Freezing her out isn't directing a lot of energy and playing games if he has the I don't care mentality and games other girls and letting his soon to be ex girlfriend be the one to iniate ALL the contact with him he has nothing to lose either she realizes that she misses him and makes more effort for him or she just breaks up with him which is about to happen anyway

So keep it up until she starts putting some effort forth and starts working for your attention again. And if she doesnt, continue to move away.

Ok guys, I have met a wonderful girl that I've been in a relationship with for 3 months now. Prior to this I was single for 3 years doing my own thing, dating women and making friends. I didnt have any game, or last I didnt know I did. So heres the story...

So after meeting this girl we dated for a month before I asked her to be my GF. She was great! Showed me a ton of affection, sent me cute text messages all the time, sent me sweet voice mails before and while at work, posted cute things on my Facebook page. She was totally into me.

Towards our 2nd month I noticed things were slowing down. She wasn't texting much or calling me at all. I also had noticed she was texting 2 of her male friends much more often. I had no problem with this as she had mentioned these friends to me before we made things official, they were high school friends. One night I noticed her getting repeated text messages from one of these dudes and I couldnt help but to react out of jealousy and insecurity... I told her I wasnt liking that she was constantly texting while with me. This bothered her big-time and although she was upset she was reassuring me that its only a friend and thats it. Later in the night I couldnt help but to check her phone and of course it was nothing but small chat about a band her friend wanted to see... I felt horrible and couldnt believe I did that. So I wound up admitting to what I had done and apologized to her for not respecting her space. She got extremely upset and threatened to go home, she told me that her previous relationship was a very controlling one and she wasnt interested in doing that again. So she basically gave me an ultimatum, that I stop or she was simply going to have to leave for good.

Now 3 months in and after a fantastic Valentines day and also after talking things over I had felt like things were getting better. She had started up again with the affection and messaging but it quickly stopped cold turkey. Lately its gotten to the point to where I now get almost no calls, little to no text messages or 1 word replies. When we hang out it just seems like shes distant and shows very little affection all over again. She also began texting one of her male friends a bunch, more than usual. Last night she stood over and slept on her back, seemed like she just didnt want to be there. Later in the night I woke up to use the bathroom and noticed her phone sitting on the side of the bed. I couldnt help but to look again... As I scrolled through her text she had been texting this friend from the time she wakes up to the time she went to bed. All small talk but small flirting included this time... He had told her that despite him being in a relationship himself, if he was close by he would do anything to see her beautiful face, to which she replied "youre so sweet, i would kiss you". Later in the afternoon I she had texted him "I feel so bad. Today I totally forgot I had a boyfriend, its that bad lol... I dont want to hurt him but I dont feel the same, like I dont feel the same in the relationship anymore". He basically told her to do whats right and she said "I just feel bad. This is what I hate about relationships. I dont want to hurt him because he treats me right and cares so much for me. I just dont want to lead him on. He got all upset with me because he thought I was talking to other guys and making moves on them. He doesnt trust me and his insecurity is such a turn off". Her male friend said "yes insecurity is very unattractive" and she replied with "Yes! Exactly". Thats pretty much where they ended their conversation....

So now I feel horrible. I know I shouldnt have snooped around her phone again but now at least I know what she's thinking and how she feels and that were possibly done

Do you guys think I stand a chance at fixing what I seem to have totally screwed up? If so, what can I do?

Please help, I love her a great deal and dont want to lose her :/

She just sent the following out of no where,

"Im sorry, but I dont know how I feel. Half of me feels like Im not fully into it anymore and the other half wants me to try but I find myself being grumpy with you and I cant shake it... I try and see past it but I cant. And the Im sorry is also because I know its not fair to you"

Thanks CMD.

So my question is, if she doesnt bother from this point on how long should I wait to start dating again? Should I just go straight back into it? We had a 3 month relationship, its not a long time but at the same time with the amount of feelings developed within those 3 months it feels like we were together longer.

If the relationship is lost, make sure to ask her what you did wrong. I know the keyboard jockeys will be like "nooo, screw her, move on" but my point is not to get you back together with her. My point is to learn from your mistakes. She is the one who can tell you from first hand experience what the problem was that pushed her away and that is one of the primary ways you will learn how to not do it again in the future. Do it when you know that it is time to fold your cards and call it a day.

And you don't wait at all to start dating again.. Keep on moving and keep on banging. It's funny when you have sex with another women how it places things into perspective. I think it has to do with the abundance mentality. Helps you detach yourself from the situation and see the bigger picture.

Dean.

LULZ

And now she just texted me

"Im sorry babe, I love you!"

So funny... I feel bad but I know Im doing right at the same time. I just hope that if this does turn out to work. That I dont go through this shit all over again, but I know I probably will.