i had this girlfriend for a bit more than 2 years. the love part started drifting away so we decided to take a break. During the break I started hanging out with a coworker more than usual. She’s has an amazing personality and she’s funny, besides being a HB9.

Never have I thought that I’d ended up sleeping with her. After we had sex 3 times I broke up with my girlfriend and pushed this one away too for a while. When we started talking she found out I had a gf at the time and was mad at me, but said she’s get over that.

The game is going on and off now for the past 3 weeks leading slowly to another round in the bedroom. Now she told me her best friends are pressuring her to have sex with another guy. After I “bitched” about it by saying that I don’t wanna share her with other guys she told me I am not in the position to ask for such a thing after what I did.

The mistake I did now was that I told her I care about her and that she should really thing if she wants to go sleep with the other guy. How do I fix it? Please don’t tell me it’s a case of oneitis because I know it is, hence I really want to fix it

PS: we agreed to no feelings, just best friends with benefits.

So stay friends with benefits. Fuck the living soul out of her every time. Give her the best sex she ever had and just let your amazing personality flourish while with her. You can't ask people to fall in love with you. But by being awesome with them , they will inevitably do just that. Show her a genuinely good time.

Until that happens she might go have sex with another guy. So what ? get over it. Trying to prevent her from doing that will only push her towards him. You ain't even in a relationship and already you're putting emotional pressure onto her.


Oh and please , for the love of God , stop declaring you feelings.

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i never asked her to fall in love with me, so i don't know where you got that one....but do you really wanna share your fuckfriends? I apologize if i don't.

yes i do know if was a mistake to tell her that i disagree with her sleeping with another guy. or telling her that i care. BUT i did learn from other relationships that not showing your feeling will fuck it aswell.

You agreed to the term "friends with benefits."

If you can't stomach all that entails, then walk away and save yourself the heartache.