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I've concluded that her non-monogamous behavior derives from early day breakups where she got hurt by several men, many times. This caused her to develop a fear of proper 'commitment' and therefore she runs around requesting open relationships with every guy she starts liking.
And she got herself into situations where she could get hurt many times because she was hardwired for this brand of drama since she was a kid. 20 to 1 odds are her mom is just a flighty and divorced.
360, you're a middle aged man. . . also divorced. And I understand your propensity to show off your manhood on a forum filled with confused kids but seriously. . .what is it with your "problem solving via fucking" advice? Is that why you divorced? Did you not fuck your wife enough? Is that why you couldn't 'improve' her? Has this forum gone mad? The majority of advice in this forum amounts to: #1. Tell girl you want to fuck her. #2. Fuck her. #3. Repeat 1 and 2. #4. All problems solved.
A woman is not a jigsaw puzzle or your dad's 78' Mustang. You don't 'solve' a girl nor do you 'fix' her; this is an impossibility. Perhaps a talented motivator could help her with classwork, resume, daily schedule, health habits, etc . . . but even these challenges will be difficult to manage. People simply do not change their emotional triggers as these things tend to be formed at such a young age, then continuously fortified through habits and consequences. The recent death of Mindy Mccready, as well as others in that Celebrity Detox show should offer some clues as to how difficult it is to shift habits, even through professional help. Really? Do you think those people merely didn't experience enough orgasms?
The kicker in this situation is that "fucking" is part of this girl's drama cycle. She's going to fuck, force a relationship into drama . . . just so she can go through the, "the dude really hurt me bad," drama over and over again. There is no fix.
You tell yourself that you like monogamy. . . stop here and think about this. If you like 'monogamy' so much, why are you so much in love with a girl who does not? Really? Do not believe that there are girls who are more talented and more beautiful, who also respects monogamy as much as you do? There are of course millions of girls who are just that. So why her?
Could you date a girl who eats dogs, only on Mondays when you are not with her? She's beautiful and talented, and even monogamous. . . and this eating habit of hers wouldn't even affect your relationship; she just eats dog meat on her own time. I dare say that you wouldn't fall in love with her. It's not even her 'values' but a different taste in a food product that will turn you off. Yet, you have DIFFERENT values from this girl (values that actually affect relationships) and you've fallen for her. See? . . . emotional triggers are difficult to control isn't it?
Relationships are not a big deal. If you wanted to, you could date until your 90. You will meet many people, date them, etc . . . but you won't change them; this is an impossibility. Professional sports teams recruit young kids and they can offer guidance, schedules, coaching . . . but nobody changes anybody's emotional triggers. A kid that gets off on Vegas and hookers are going to do that regardless of what their coaches try to teach them.
Accept and love who she has been because that is who she is and who she will be. Or find another. Or just go through the drama and have fun with it. Not a big deal no matter what you do. . .
*Yes. . . some people do change. . . but not through some teacher, guru, or boyfriend, and definitely not through fucking a whole lot.
CHAT
