Hey guys,

Been a while since Ive posted a problem up here (been lucky I guess haha!)

So a few of you may have guessed that I talk to a lot of girls - but seem to struggle actually getting any closure.

One of these chicks Ive known for a while - Ive made some chump attempts which culminated in me asking her out with her saying she didnt know (good friends with a lot of her mates etc).

So recently we have been chatting (no attempts on my part just lots of games and fun).

Today i used a pancake day Opener for a bit of fun: via text it went like : Come and make me pancakes?

She responds with: I'm in a lectureeeee....

I play along with: Sneak out.

her: Impossible

Me: Impossible isnt part of my vocab

her (she thens proceeds to bombard me with messages, literally moments apart):
You just typed it so it must be
l will go out with you, remember you asked me in the car
Ignore me
I'm in a strange mood

I reply: I just copied what your wrote - it still isnt in my vocabulary

Her: Im boooooooooreed

Me: Making me some pancakes would give you something to do.

her: I'm In ####. Slightly large trip just for Pancakes...

me: pancakes + me = worth it

I am still learning and I have made some progress but I feel that this was my first major Sh1t Test so Im curious as to whether or not I handled it correctly.

Cheers for the continuing help fellas

Great.
Still great.
Less great.
I would've said:
I think you misspelled:"I'll be right there".
Still on that topic ? Move to a different subject.
Now you're just clingy and try hard.
At this point you're not even being CF anymore. You're being cheesy.You're stuffing yourself in her face.

So you started great , but you held on to much to it.
This is how I would've seen it go. Option 1:

her: "giggle* + positive response
You: joke around some more and when you feel the fun is dying out on that particular subject ,move to another.

Option 2:

You: I think you misspelled:"I'll be right there".
Her: No no , I spelled it right. Impossible.
You: Fine ! I'll make my own damn pancakes. And you can have exactly none.

And move on to something different.

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Cheers for the reply RC, Not so sure what you mean Carlton123.

I see where I did wrong, and this seems to be a problem for me i.e I stick with the same thread during the conversation, and I struggle to adapt (i think).

I know FB/text game is usually only for meet up/flirty and not for major conversations, however due to particular relationship we can't meet up due to travel etc, so my major point of contact is virtual.

I do believe that I made yet another mistake when she started talking me earlier today: for the sake of ease Il post the convo (bear in mind that I didnt read the replies to this point until just now).

her: Omg please save me from boredom in this lecture
It is torturreeee

me: poor little baby
I would but its quite far to travel just for you.

her:Talk to me then

Me: I'm typing this text very slowly, because I know you can't read fast...

Her: Hey! I red that suppeerrrrrr quickly!!
Read*

Me: you boredom is infectious...

Her:Hahahaha if I'm going down, im bringing you down with me

me:never! although I bet you can't entertain me

Her:When I'm bored, I really can't. I'm playing 4 pic 1 word and I'm stuck its so frustrating!

Her: Ok. How was pancake day for you???

Me: yea it was good, had a bunch of friends over so it was pretty chilled made my famous banana/orange sauce haha

Her: Oooooooo niceeeee
How was v day???

Me :the usual affair haha (Was unsure as to whether or not i should have told the truth that I went on a date etc
I take it you spent the day at home eating ice cream?

Her:Hey!!! I dissected a fish actually. And then went to badminton training and then made risotto
Excitinnnggggg

Me:sounds....exciting

Her:It was.
I'm soooo tireeeddddd

Me:same, i didnt get much sleep last night

Her: Good timesss

Me:I know right
your cooking me risotto btw

Her: No way! You are the better cook out of the two of us. You are cooking for me!!!!

Me: shhhh we both know I would never cook for you

Her: Whhyyyyyy?????
Meany.

Me: who are you calling mean?
-.-

Her: You .

Me: zeesshh who bit your ass last night!?

Her: no onneeee. i dont think

Me: haha, what do you mean you don't think? Have you checked?

Her: i will now

Me: I always knew you were flexible

Her: im really not can't even touch my toes


Me: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VcE5wjCrQ1c
thats what I think of you

Her: hahaha i take it as a compliment. that is one of the cutest things everrrrrr!!!

Me: your not cute.

Her: neither are you

Me: the minions are however

Her:totally

Me: right Im going to grab a shower and then die on my bed for little bit...don't go thinking of me in the buff and all wet!!!

Her: ew.

Me: haha

TIME BREAK OF ABOUT AN HOUR OR SO

Me: -.- Im beginning to think that my shower has it out for me

Her; probably does. most things do

Me: I will admit, that may have made me chuckle
nonetheless screw you###!
I better not see you coming at me with a knife!

Her: im weird. not crazy

Me:said nobody ever
your nuts

Her: why would i come at you with a knife then???

Me:cos your crazy
im scared now

Her:as you should be

Me:you really arent helping yourself here are you

Her:nope


TIME BREAK OF A FEW HOURS


Me: steak, fish or do I order out? :S

Her: fish. brain food

Me: I think you need some

Her: im not even going to deny it

Me: dw we can be dumb together

Her: except your clever
awkward

Me: who told you that I think Im normal haha

Her: you have told me that many times

Me: that Im normal?

Her: that your clever
your not normal

Me: I would never say something so silly

Her: nevvveeerrr

Me: never ever

Apologies for the conversation but i think it owuld have taken even longer to try and explian what I meant.

I know that I need help with this long distance game - so I would really appreciate it i could get some opinions on things etc.

I think she is attracted to me - especially after I took a long break where I froze her out and then came back and regamed her (I believe this due to the fact that she initiates most of our convos) - I am however afraid of losing this attraction before she comes to visit resulting in me becoming a text buddy.

Advice Is greatly appreciated

Nice reading... the convo is good but is it just me or it seems to lead nowhere???

You defenetly need a goal where to take that. Too many msges and no result.

Hey Jafa,

Cheers for reading mate.

I didn't have a target in mind when talking to her, as she has pretty much told me/promised me that she will come to see me next time she is in town.

If you were in my situation, i.e this chick is pretty cool, but is out of town for uni, what would you do?

All opinions are welcome

i agree with RCs analysis of your first conversation. stop beating the dead horse. cut off threads and change it up quicker next time.

also, stop insulting her. stop trying to be cocky/funny. its not working and youre just coming off as a douche. focus instead of being more fun and playful. be more aware of the conversation, too. she made a comment about you cooking for her. so instead of using that to escalate or at least playfully plan some kind of future adventure, you told her youd never cook for her.

so id say your biggest mistake is that youre just trying too hard. texting her first too much, not letting her end the conversation, trying too hard to be c&f and instead coming across as mean.

despite what i just said though, overall i feel like you have a decent grasp on text game. the problem is that youve become like dancing-monkey-text-buddy-entertainment-guy. shes not attracted to you (i mean she even says "ew" when you talk about yourself being naked), she just sees you as a text buddy and a person who is there to entertain her.

you need to get her attracted and/or take it sexual at some point (easier said than done obv). i think it was a mistake to not mention the date you went on. maybe it could cause some jealousy and spark some attraction and turn this around. if shes long distance and you know therell be no face-to-face communication any time soon, then the goal should be getting her aroused enough to send you pics and masturbate on the phone with you. or at least talk about her sexuality and get her excited enough that when you do finally meet up, she wants to rip your clothes off.

Hi ItsAlwaysOn,

Thanks for taking the time to read through and more importantly thanks for your opinion.

without trying to sound silly, I am now seriously working on being more aware of the conversation with not just her, but girls in general. (sometime I wish I could post things in real time to get advice!)

As you've pointed out, it seems like ive changed from the friend zone (from back when i used to see her regularly a while ago) and now into the text/fb buddy zone. any chance you have experienced getting out of this? or have some advice on getting her out of this texting buddy mindset and into a more sexual? I can't say ive ever managed to get her to talk about anything sexual mainly because she really never has had any sexual experience before - im pretty sure she doesn't even masturbate she is that much of "good" girl (obviously i cant say 100%).

At the moment, I am going to lessen the cf (i now now that I was overusing and overcompensating too much from a lack of previous knowledge), any advice on how to calibrate it so that future texts would actually get her aroused? as at the moment it is becoming more and more obvious that she texts me when she is bored Bummer...

regards

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