| Do looks Matter? YES IT DOES! And the winner is the Ugly guy.
First of all I am not an expert on this, everything I am going to say is based on my experience with myself, my friends and my female friends. Lastly, Definitely don't take this as a guide line.
MINDSETS
Ugly Guys: Oh I'm ugly, if I don't take the initiative to approach women, I am going to be alone forever. Therefore, the ugly guy keeps approaching woman without the fear of rejection, because they know they are not good looking and would expect to be rejected anyways. Their mind set would be to get 1 YES out of 100 NO.
Good looking Guys: Man, why do I have to take initiative to approach women? Im decent looking, girls should give me IOI first, before I even consider going up to them. Or even better, they should come to me! Therefore, the good looking guys does not approach as much as the ugly guys do. And when they do, they fear rejection. Because they would start to self defeat themselves and question their looks in the case of rejection.
PS:
Ugly guys: The guys who are actually not good looking and they know it.
Good looking guys: NO! Not the guys who thinks they are good looking when they are not. I am talking about guys who are actually good looking, and they know it! Guys who get compliments from their friends and family about their good looks.
I too used to think that being good looking is a good thing when it comes to picking up woman. I had that mind set because whenever I hang out with my female friends as a teenager, they would constantly point of good looking guys on the street or in the mall. They make it seems like they want to have sex or marry that guy. Like that guy is their dream guy or something.
But as I grew older, I realized that all that admiring was just total bullshit. Good looking guys are just good looking, nothing else. All my female friends kept saying how they want their BF to be like this or that. But they all ended up dating some ugly guys, and they are deeply in love with these "Not good looking guys".
Because of this strong false mindset. I focus way too much attention on my appearance. Myself is not a good looking guy, but I do look good. Meaning that I do my hair, I wear clothes that are good on me, I workout to build muscle etc. Therefore, I look good when Im feeling good, or whenever I dont have a bad hair day. Getting compliments from my female friends and shit. I was happy at first, "Hey I can be good looking too." But guess what, that didnt do shit to me.... I kept screwing up dates with girls who clearly show interest in me, not having the guts to approach. etc
My fat "ugly friend" on the other hand, doesn't care about his appearance at all. He doesn't shave when he goes out, he dresses badly, doesn't do his hair. etc. He doesn't seem to be nervous at all! He just kept approaching women and getting atleast 7 - 8 all the time! When I talk to him about this, all he said was "Its all about confidence..."
This really changed my view on how good looks don't matter at all. Even if you are good looking, girls will just check you out and walk pass you and nothing will happen unless you approach with confident.
Last edited by marrybanger on Fri Feb 15, 2013 10:48 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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