This is mainly directed at those who have some and a lot of experience, but others feel free to chip in.

Ok guys so I've come quite a way, but there's one thing that's still stopping me from getting what's want. You could call it a sticking point. It's the fact that I still care too much. I just care. I care about the girl, I care about getting the girl etc. I'm direct and all that stuff. But I still care. Even though I've got a chick the new ones I meet and LIKE I want to get, I care if I don't get them. I preach the whole don't care if you get her or not and he outcome independent, and I try to follow my own advice, but it's still there. And recently some chicks that I could've gotten turned me down because I care too much.

I know some of you guys out there had the same problem an a lot of you still do. So to those who did once care and now not so much or at all anymore, what did you do? What does it take? I want to stop caring because mini-oneitis and oneitis sucks and controls me for a time. There's such a fine line between wanting the girl and caring if you get her. I know it's all mindset but how the hell do you get there? I rationalize about this stuff but somehow that isn't really working.

Any help and advice, especially from those who are experienced, is much appreciated.

You need to have a motivating Mission and goals in your life, including and especially things that have nothing to do with women. You also always need to keep putting in more numbers even when you meet some "Great Gal". You also need to ensure your body is at maximum energy levels at all times (exercise, sleep, water consumption, etc).

If you don't get those things handled, you will always have this problem. Only about 30% has to do with women, or even the particular woman you're getting excited about.

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I use to have this same problem because I was only talking to one maybe two girls but once I started gaming a lot of girls and talking/texting to 5-8 girls a day I had no problem about really caring about any of them because I had so many other options. Its always good to freeze some girls out if they think you care too much