I've had a girlfriend for over 7 months. We spent that Thursday together and everything went great I didn't feel like anything could go wrong. The next day(Friday) she had an interview with a cool guy. This guy played in her favorite musicband and after the interview she texted me that the interview went great, because he is just like her.

When I also read on facebook again how great the interview was. I was getting a bit jealous, but I thought:"I see her tomorrow again so I kept my mouth shut". When I spent that Saturday together with her. She again talked about how great the interview went. I just was happy for her and still pushed my jealousy away. I wanted to spend my next Tuesday with her since I noticed we were both doing nothing. So I asked her and she didn't need me. I went to her house Monday and asked her again to spend the Tuesday together. I missed her.

I gave her a flower and we had a long talk. I talked about that I wanted to see her and why she didn't want to see me next Tuesday. I always felt I could talk to her about anything, but this time she kept attacking me. And when I asked what she feels for me. She just nodded:"no" and cried. I couldn't do much then just hold her and wait when she calmed down. The feelings stopped she said. I don't feel like before anymore. And when she was she said:"I want to break up." I felt powerless. She said there is nothing I can do to change it. So I left after that.

Tuesday she told me she suddenly had doubts when I left her house yesterday about our relationship and she doesn't want to end it yet. Those doubts started Saturday after her interview(atleast that is how I felt it and she didn't say it like that) She said she needs time to think about us. I really want her back! Is there really nothing I can do? I think the relationship is over, but she still isn't clear about that. She can't face me anytime soon.

I think she has discovered new feelings for this guy she did the interview with since she felt that they are just alike. And that is why she is doubting her feelings about me. It feels like a heavy break, but not yet like a break-up.

She cheated on you with that guy. Maybe kiss but probably fucked him. Nothing else would cause that large of a shift if what you said was true about you guys having 0 problems the day before the meeting. If you want to actually get this cheating girl back, go no contact for a month and try again.

If you ask me, she isn't worth one more second of your time. GET OUT OF THERE

I'm no expert. But I've had a situation like this, in my experience the girl will just lead you on. She's doing this to have something to fall back on if her plan backfires. Dude it sucks. I know. But for your sake don't be that guy. Tell her you want a month break to get your thoughts straight. Then after the month if you rely still want her text her and see if she was just gonna use you as a secondary option through context clues. If she was do you really still want to date that?

First off, there is no clear indication she "cheated" on you. So hold your horses before you even come to that conclusion.

If you want her back, this is what you do. You tell her that if she isn't sure, then you two are probably not meant to be. And if she needs time to figure it out, then she can be single and figure it out on her own. But don't be threatening. Be casual. Be like "this is what's best for us." If she gets angry at you, do not throw anger back at her, and do not show desperation. This is a huge pull. Then, grow cold and quiet. This will have her running back to you in no time. Trust me.

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PS: I've been on the receiving and giving end of that strategy. Works everytime.

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Thanks, we're still thinking about eachother. I said I'm doing some thinking for myself too. I've not been angry at her. I said I'm still looking up and not giving up my hopes. She keeps saying she doesn't want to give me false hopes so that is why she did it this way(the break-up). I made her clear I want her to take her time thinking about this. And for now we are both single and I'm ok with how things are going. I said she knows where to find me. I'm not planning on saying anything till she will say something to me again.