Well so I went direct a few times last weekend and got some really good results, but I have a simple question. If you're being direct you basically give the girl the power over the interaction, I am not that good with my Inner Game to actually not care if I get the girl or not (despite knowing that there are 978675 other girls out there). Maybe I'm overthinking stuff but I want to start being more direct and if possible try and do it "right", because if you go direct the girl knows with certainty that you want her and that seems like a disadvantage to me. I'm having a hard time expressing this (due to english not being my first language) but is there a way to avoid this problem or is it irrelevant and i'm overthinking?

Hey mate!

Glad to hear you have grown balls and wanna go direct .

You misunderstand 'direct game'. Actually, the term is not correct, as the word game is totally not what it should be. Being direct means you are honest, towards yourself (the most important thing!!!) and then towards other people.

Being direct is not something you turn on and off, it is not a technique, it is a way of life. it is being honest towards yourself about what you want. Brutally honest about what is happening (example: you like this girl, but she doesnt contact you again.... brutally honest would be: if she really likes me, she would have contacted me already).

Being direct is also HAVING THE BALLS TO GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT! That is all there is to it, and then again it aint. It is breaking through that everlasting fear and go for what you want. You are a cannon of truth, you speak your mind (sometimes you do take down the sharp ends, you show tact) while you are concious of the consequences of what you say. You know them and you are strong enough to face them.

So basically, there is no right or wrong in direct game. The mere fact that you just state what you want shows confidence, even though your legs are shaking. The most confident people are those who face fear and conquer it every time again.

If you are being direct towards a girl, you dont give away power. you give her a choice and she will always have to power to chose, no matter if you go direct or indirect. Dont fool yourself by thinking that girls dont know what is going on if you go indirect. The still have the power of choice, to either continue the interaction or not.

You might even say that going direct towards a woman/girl takes away power from her! As there is no room for playing games, there is no room for manipulation of your mind. She either follows you in your desires or she doesnt. Maybe is not a yes nor a no. But you are looking for a yes, and since maybe is not a yes, you consider it as a no. Maybe is the one last resort they have for trying to manipulate. maybe.... if this or maybe if you do that!! or maybe when... naah, maybe not bitch!

Being direct will boost your confidence. If the girl doesnt like you, the time you spend with her will be very short. That might seem like a disadvantage, but if you think about it... is it really that bad?

cheers mate.

i hope i made some sense. if not, shoot!

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cheers dude, i really was just overthinking this, what you described is what i did last weekend and it really affected my confidence in a positive way and i wanted to keep on doing it. Yeah girls pick up on stuff either way and you can show her that you're a man that is honest about his intentions. Didn't think about the part with the playing games even though i already experienced this last weekend, anyways thanks mate thats what I needed to read/hear/whatever !

Great post LD really liked reading that

When I first started to go direct, I was nervous and my voice always shook while I opened to them. Eventually I realized that I'm not the only one, the girls were nervous too, especially if they are not used to being gamed in such direct method. I started to adopt this mindset of rather than focus on my own fear, I saw doing direct approach as sort of an experiment. It's fun to see how people react under different circumstances. I would just walk up to a girl, use some bizarre direct opener and just give them deadspan and an evil smirk. Try that next time. Once you see how nervous they will get or act, you forget about your own fear

And in your case, being direct isn't SPAM your power. You can't always get what you want in life, there are so many things you can't control. Being direct saves you time from meaningless courting dances, she either take it or leave it. Being direct gives you the opportunity to learn how to move on in life, rather than being obsessed and cling to things that you can't have power over.

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Direct game is actually easier. It takes more balls but it cuts the bulkshit and gets straight to the point.

Are you giving her all the power? Nope. How come? Because you are willing to walk away if she gives you shit or is not a potential suitor to you.

You make your intention clear, you are honest. And now you are qualifying her.

You can say something like "Hey, I saw you from over there and thought you were cute so I wanted to see if we have chemistry. Hi." here you are qualifying her to see if you two have chemistry. You hold the frame. You're leading. Either she likes it or not. If she does it's on, if she doesn't it's either a dead set or she rejects you. Either way you save time and you get what oh want faster.

I'm glad i've read this post, because i also thought i would give away my power by showing the directness. That's my issue, and that's why i've been friendzoned for too long. And you don't always have to go direct by SAYING it, if you escalate through touch, she subconciously knows your intentions, and you still express your feelings with your body language.

And by the way, complimenting isn't a bad thing. Even you like a compliment once in a while. Just don't do it too much.

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