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hey zipp, I know approaching girls at work isnt impossible, but I'm never really sure how to discern the sales friendly from the friendly-friendly unless i start getting IOIs. now im talking retail girls, and I'm kinda uncertain as to what the best way to transition with a girl in a retail store, would it be just like any other girl, just go from simple convo to comfort build?
Sorry I missed this question, didn't see it. I'll attack it when I get off of work.
Question: "retail girls" are you talking about girls who work retail with you or girls who come in to the store to buy shit?
I have a feeling you may be talking about customers...but while I'm waiting for your response, I'm just going to answer about co-workers because it's totally the more difficult scenario:
Okay, I have no experience in the retail world other than buying inordinate amounts of shoes, but I'm going to give a stab at this because I care.
I have a theory about women that may apply. Hell, it may apply to men too. It's called the microcosm attraction theory. I noticed it because I'm an actor, and I am frequently thrown into intense temporary closed cultures.
When a woman is put into a sub-community (i.e. the workplace, class, etc.) attraction plays funky tricks on her. She will become attracted to the best possible option around. Now, she may not have played with the idea of connecting with this person unless they had been sectioned off into the smaller pool, but the attraction is real (even if she rationally acknowledges the fact that she would not be interested in this person if they weren't in the subculture... like we all know... attraction is not a choice.) The microcosm attraction effect happens due to a mixture of evolution and boredom.
Discerning sales-friendly from regular friendly, I don't think this is the issue. Bartenders make a living shooting off fake IOI's and getting tips. Perhaps some retail women do this to a lesser extent to gain commission, but you're not a customer. Unless they're just being "nice" to you to keep their work environment smooth, but you could probably tell.
My advice: This may be like getting a girl out of the LJBF zone. You'll have to re-define everything with her because you have a pre-defined relationship (co-workers.) Neg, neg, neg. False disqualify. Push and pull. This way, you're squeezing out more IOI's. Compliance test. Once you're convinced it's not just "sales friendly" and successfully re-defined your relationship with her attraction, proceed to C1-C3 just like with a normal girl.
Hooking up with coworkers can be a total bitch though. You may have to deal with the repercussions if it blows up in your face. Balls are not optional in this situation.
Question to everyone: The new theory. Is this bullshit or should I keep on working on this one?