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PostPosted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 7:21 am 
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The HB8 I was gaming asked me what do I think about saving sex until engagement or marriage because of moral reason. I made it clear to her that unless it's some sort of medical reason, I draw the line at 3 months max. She said then we wouldn't make it. I told her I respect her belief and we aren't in the same place so let's just move on.
How would you guys handle it?


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 8:19 am 
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I reckon you handled yourself pretty well there. If she wants to wait till marriage to have sex, than you either head straight to Las Vegas and get married that night and enjoy the best night of your life, or you move on.

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 9:45 am 
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nothing to handle. you handled it well.

lol @ marriage

lol @ no sex

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 2:06 pm 
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Sounds like she is a young girl (younger than 19 i assume). Women don`t actually believe that crap, neither should you. Its just a goofy phase girls go through. I say, still game her. I would try for the f-close (afterall, she did steer the convo towards sex lol). If you get rejected, move on to another girl.


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 2:28 pm 
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Hi,

You handled yourself well but if you want to achieve higher goals you should start pushing it.
If she said she wants to wait till marriage agree with her.
But next time you to are getting it on get her at the point and stop everything, do something else make a call do whatever,
Do this a few times and she will be gaging for it. At the end of the day girls want the same us men but they don’t want to be labelled as a slag.

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PostPosted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 8:21 am 
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Quick update:

So I moved on but one day we got talking again and before I knew it, we were in the relationship. She agreed we can have sex before marriage but it would take her some time to get ready. We kissed, we fooled around and dated for about 3 months now, we had phone sex like once a week but never the actual sex. Then she had to be out of town and will be coming back this January. We talked about how we wanted each other so much and assumed we'll have sex when she comes back.

But tonight, she asked me what if she don't want to do it at all. I didn't say anything, I just told her I won't force her to do something she doesn't want to. I'm at lost at what to do as she kept asking if she's worth the wait. I do love her but I'm thinking about suggesting open relationship with her or worst case scenario break it off. Any advice?

She's a virgin by the way.

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Are you like 15 or something? Its not a relationship if there is no sex.

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PostPosted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 9:04 am 
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Are you like 15 or something? Its not a relationship if there is no sex.
Agreed. The only reason I didn't push it like I always did because I know she was almost raped by some relative when she was younger and still a bit traumatized about it. But now that she wants me to wait longer than 4 months, I don't think I can do it.

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Are you like 15 or something? Its not a relationship if there is no sex.
Agreed. The only reason I didn't push it like I always did because I know she was almost raped by some relative when she was younger and still a bit traumatized about it. But now that she wants me to wait longer than 4 months, I don't think I can do it.

Did you know that you valued sex that much before getting into the relationship? Because the girl gave her frame of mind early on and if you value sex in a relationship well you picked the wrong girl to be with... It is up to you.

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You're looking at it all wrong. You have to first ask yourself if YOU care about her moral stance on sex before marriage. You want to have sex, but you don't really care how she feels about that morally. It's only a problem for you because you know it might effect your ability to fuck.

But you can't get too discouraged whenever a girl tells you one of her absurd beliefs. I had a girl who told me that baby jesus would come back again one day to rule the earth. She didn't mind that I was an atheist so her beliefs weren't a problem for us. The thing is with irrational beliefs, they don't actually believe them because deep down they know they are illogical. They have just been convinced by others to believe them. Your job is to unconvince them of the absurd shit that was put in their head.

I'd stick with her a while and try to plow through her pre-marital sex belief system. Tell her whatever you think it is she needs to hear. I would probably say that at least half of all girls who say that end up having sex before marriage. So how much of a punk do you think you'd feel like when she tells you she won't have sex before marriage, then you break up, then find out six months later that some douchebag with a motorcycle ends up banging her before marriage?

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PostPosted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 4:17 pm 
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You're looking at it all wrong. You have to first ask yourself if YOU care about her moral stance on sex before marriage. You want to have sex, but you don't really care how she feels about that morally. It's only a problem for you because you know it might effect your ability to fuck.

But you can't get too discouraged whenever a girl tells you one of her absurd beliefs. I had a girl who told me that baby jesus would come back again one day to rule the earth. She didn't mind that I was an atheist so her beliefs weren't a problem for us. The thing is with irrational beliefs, they don't actually believe them because deep down they know they are illogical. They have just been convinced by others to believe them. Your job is to unconvince them of the absurd shit that was put in their head.

I'd stick with her a while and try to plow through her pre-marital sex belief system. Tell her whatever you think it is she needs to hear. I would probably say that at least half of all girls who say that end up having sex before marriage. So how much of a punk do you think you'd feel like when she tells you she won't have sex before marriage, then you break up, then find out six months later that some douchebag with a motorcycle ends up banging her before marriage?
I was thinking the same. Normally I wouldn't think twice and move on if a girl tells me she want to wait till marriage. And I did with this girl, but we got talking again and she turned out to be a great relationship material and I understand her reason for wanting to wait. I respect that. I was planning to convince her when she gets back as we all know women are creatures of emotions. If I can get her horny enough, she'd fuck eventually.

But you're right. I was lost in the frustration of the moment and only think about myself. Such mindset would work in PUA but not in a relationship. I'll stick with her and plow through instead of burning all my birdge.

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next this bitch...

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Swear to keep your pants on and offer her to give her oral sex. Dont penetrate her in any way. Stay out and stay safe. Go til she reaches orgasm. Lay next to her and hug her. She'll think again.


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PostPosted: Thu Nov 29, 2012 11:02 pm 
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Who cares, respect the fact that she has self respect...you can't make someone do something they don't want to do. If sex is that important to you than perhaps she is not the girl for you? To be honest she sounds like she has her head on strait!

Another thing you need to remember is that what a women say's must be taken lightly! in the moment she means what she says but it doesn't mean jack shit! Once she grow close to you, feel comfortable, and trust you its just a matter of getting her turned on.

It might take a while but this girl could be a keeper, if after a few months she still is not into it than you have a choice (stay or leave). No one can make you stay correct? so enjoy the ride and take it slow!


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