The value-driven branch of pickup teaches us that it's important to demonstrate your social value to women, usually in the form of intriguing, entertaining stories that are "spiked" with facts about yourself and your lifestyle people are likely to find attractive. Traditional DHVs such as mentioning your stripper ex-girlfriend, the fact that you used to be in a band or the time you pushed your friend out of the way of a speeding car all fall under this category of conversation.
The theory put forth by Mystery and others in that sect of the community implies that one should present their "best" and most high-value story or stories early on, and that doing so will build attraction with one's target.
I disagree enthusiastically with this theory on attraction-building, but that's a topic not within the purview of this thread. Instead, I would like to address the notion that you should throw out your best DHV spikes first. Put plainly: I think it's bullshit.
I think every man probably has
something that he intrinsically knows women will like about him. Maybe he's really talented at a musical instrument; maybe he's like me and is a hopeless romantic at heart. Whatever it is, I propose that this facet of their personality--their "treasure," if you will-- becomes a more powerful seduction tool the longer it goes without being mentioned or having attention drawn to it. This is the fundamental basis of what jsquared and I have come to call Pirate Chest Theory (PCT).
How does it work?
PCT doesn't come into play until after a solid amount of attraction has already been established, so one first has to build that attraction. If you're like me, that means creating a fun, playful vibe and projecting a sexual state. If you're an M3 guy, it means ignoring your target while displaying value to her friends. Whatever method for attraction-building works best for you personally, do it--just don't expose your Treasure.
The idea here is to paint a picture for her that is attractive but lacking whatever one component of your personality or lifestyle that you think makes you really great. That exterior facade, then, represents the outside of a pirate chest--not all that interesting on its own, but brimming with potential and mystery that is irresistably sexy.
The key is to make her believe that's all there is and close the deal on that alone,
then throw the chest open and show her what she's won.
If your "treasure" is a talent of some kind, it's best to let it be brought up naturally. Maybe she looks at your Facebook and sees that you are the CEO of a multi-million dollar company. Perhaps she notices the quantum physics books on your bookshelf and demands to see your intellectual side. Maybe a friend insists you perform jazz flute for the crowd at his restaurant. Whatever
If it's a personality trait like mine, you're probably going to have to show her on your own once you decide she is worthy of seeing it. Fortunately, the ability to present yourself attractively is covered in depth elsewhere on this forum and every other seduction website on the internet--there's no need to go into it here.
Dude, can you give us an example already?
The best example I can give you is a basic overview of how I put this theory into practice. Some parts of this next section may not be useful to you at all, since they're very specific to
my game, which is different than the standard practiced in the community to say the least, but hopefully it will give you some ideas for how to best implement this in your own life.
For my own part, I put PCT into practice by displaying only a portion of my personality in the beginning stages of a relationship--exclusive, fuck buddy, or otherwise. When a woman first meets me, she will in all likelihood enjoy my company but probably underestimate me as little more than a superficial playboy who creates a fun, seductive vibe she can't help but be drawn into. She may even doubt my depth as a person and be apprehensive about advancing our interaction beyond anything other than a one-night stand. That's fine, and ultimately makes exposing my "treasure" that much more effective.
Eventually, we will sleep together and I will invite her on a totally non-sexual day 2 (this is my standard operating proceedure--I do it to demonstrate that I am interested in her for more than just her body). The entire time, I am screening her to see if she has the emotional maturity and cognitive fortitude to appreciate the parts of my personality I have thus far avoided drawing attention to.
Assuming I deem her fit to see them, I will then show her the more substantially intelligent and romantic side of myself that she, by this point, is probably doubting exists inside of me. Like finding a $100 bill underneath the couch cushion, this unexpected surprise will not only spike her buying temperature in the present but ultimately make her that much more wildly devoted to me should I decide to make our relationship exclusive. If she liked me because of the vibe I created with her before, she'll
love me for the fantastic aspects of my personality that I revealed to her cooly and without pretention. She has the high-value guy she's always dreamed of and I have the freedom to take the relationship in whatever direction I want to. Everybody wins
Basic overview for everybody who skipped to the bottom of the thread
1) Build attraction without displaying the most "high value" parts of your personality
2) Close
3) Reveal the parts of yourself or your lifestyle you left out
4) Use the emotional capital from this to take the relationship wherever you want
Questions, comments, suggestions and hate-speak are all welcome! Post below
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