I'm totaly with you, mindset is so important it affects everything your spontanuity, your energy -aura-, bodylaunguage, voice tonality.

It has such a massive effect, I reasontly had an epiphany like this on a day sarge. I'll be posting field report and associated discovery later. It's all about mindset.

Hell Yes.

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Great post! I've been trying this for some time now (though on a smaller scale) I'm a guitarist in a band that does gigs and naturally sometimes gigs go wrong and sometimes, including BOTH times I played in the hard rock café (with the cousin of charlotte church who uk guys will probably know of) it is a nightmare, the guitar kept cutting out, I messed up numerous times (usually after the guitar cut out) and all in all they were nightmares. However I then took a step back, out of my body (this was about a year ago before knowing of PUA) and thought "hang on, who else out of the 200 or so people in this crowd would have the guts to get up on that stage, play an instrument/sing, and stay focused while the equipment failed?" suddenly I realised that these gigs, although from a technical point of view were nightmares, in actuality they were tremendous achievements to get up infront of what is when you think about it, allot of people and perform.
This is now how I will approach pick up when I go for my first sarge on Saturday, I'm going to go for it with the mindset of if I open, I achieve, there are thousands if not millions of guys out there who won't but if I do that is an achievement, getting a short conversation is an achievement, a long conversation is an achievement, a # close and well you get the picture.

Basically what I'm trying to say is that/those musical experience(s) of mine I think has given me a great state of mind to begin my PUA journey with and this thread has only confirmed that it is the right state of mind. Sorry if I'm rabbling guys, I'm doing that allot this evening but I guess I'm just having one of those nights eh.

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good to hear this is helping people.

it's hypocritical for me to say this but i haven't been practicing this lately and i feel like a depressed sack of shit riding the rejection rollercoaster.
im starting up again this moment.


remember staying positive elimates:

-neediness
-rejection
-pain
-anxiety

and it shows confidence and alpha traits.

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The more beginners improve, the more they will realise this statement to be true. I've found that things just fall into place when my inner game is on form. The better my frame of mind, the less I need to worry about openers, and canned material, because my frame will be strong enough whatever I say...

Exactly. When your inner-game is in form everything is just more natural and you will have control over direction of the girl(s). Canned materials, openers, and techniques are just different ways/factors that help you in the process of building attraction, comfort, and sexual tension.

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.

The 80% mentality thing is true--the trick is being able to get yourself into that headspace when you need to. This is a whole different skillset in itself.

Generally I'm in an average mindset most of the time, if a set goes well I'll get into that almighty confidence mode which usually leads to more success. When someone is "on fire" they've probably had a chain of recent successes. Failure can still shake me out of it at times, the nice thing is that success helps your headspace geometrically, while failure only takes away from it arithmetically.

It can create either a torrent of success or unescapable failure. How often have you met an AFC that has such a bad headspace that he never tries, which hurts his headspace more and makes him try even less? How hard of a cycle is this to break?

I started to think positive, and i have to say i feel great. I feel positive energy everywhere i go and i try to keep away from all the negative energy. Everything is mental. Great Advice thank you for opening my eyes.

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Will someone explain to me what the 7 day thing recommend by chief or give me a link. I wnt to do it.

DUUUUUUUUDE

MAD PROPS. Im giving you rep points for sure.

Now before I had read this I sorta had the same epiphany that almost all of pickup comes from innergame (which mine was espicially weak at the time I had that thought), except I had no idea how to improve it. Now that I read this Im extremely happy. In the middle of your post, I found the thought that makes me happy and puts a smile on my face and gets all negativity out of my mind without even trying to think of it. It just came to me. My happy thought is of me, my brother and my grandpa fishing.

Honestly bro, this could one of those things that just turns your life around. Thank you

The 7 day positivity challenge is basically whenever you think of something negative or something that isn't going to make you appreciate yourself or your life, you immediately reframe and change your thoughts to something that will. After 7 days you will make this into a habit.

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Besch, u have just put into words what i feel everyone who is sucessful in PU goes through.
As a newb, u are likly feeling very negative about women yourself and generally life

Then you read some outta game things and go out and have a bt of luck, you feel a little better about women, but you still feel shit about yourself.

You then get good and think women are amazing and you can do it all with your game, but still you feel shit about yourself.

You then hit some unexpected answers to your game as you approch more and more women. You know your game works, so it must be you. You feel shit and want to give up.

Thats where 99% of people stop. It was proven that the tehniques work, they did it. They stoped working tho, so it must be them. That adds so much negativity to them that it becomes less and less effective.

Then, that 1% hits what you just typed out, they realise that its all about inner game. Its not what you say, its how you say it. Fantastic post mate. Although, with all inner game things, you can be told a million times what to do and how you should feel, but its up to the individual to change their mentality. Unfortunatly, most people cant.

/madals

Great post Bes, I have a similar mindset in PUA and in life and I can't stress how important it is that we acknowledge, reaffirm, and embrace the positive experiences, outcomes, and potentials in our lives.

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Wow, nice. I need to work on this, but in a particular way that is particularly bad. If you or anyone else has any advice I'd love to hear it!

My problem is not that I talk negatively about myself all the time, although I do a bit. It's more that I tend to judge other people and situations pretty harshly and pretty quickly. People have commented on how I'm scowling when I'm working sometimes - in fact I was doing it just then, and I've made myself smile now that I'm thinking about it - but my default expression is often a negative one because of how I'm thinking about other things, not because of how I'm thinking about myself.

Basically I'm an arrogant prick lol... Any suggestions on curing that one?

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Actually Poisson u have a good point there.
Its alright stopping all negativity in your mind about youself but what about when you think too highly of yourself? I will admitt that at times i can be a little over confident