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1) (Warn the reciever of the impending attack) You know what, you didn't turn out the way I imagined you would from your first impression. (Her: why?) Ok, I'm taking a risk here, promise not to bite my head off?
I think saying something like that would lower her guard down, which is the opposite effect you want to have with the warning stag of Attitude Inoculation.
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2) (Weak attack) I sensed that you were kind of shy and I was worried that you might not be playful and fun.
3) (Get the receiver to actively defend the attitude) (Simply qualify her here, she should be the one feeding the interaction more) E.g. What's the craziest thing you've ever done? Are you adventurous? Are you spontaneous?
As a result, she is more inclined to qualify using this structure and you have also created a yes ladder (so you can now go for the swinggcat kiss close by challenging her adventurousness).
Yeah, I was thinking of the Yes Ladder the whole time there. Great point about the fractionation, by the way. Here's more of what I was thinking:
1. Set a certain frame of reality that's so strong that she gets sucked into it. Easy for any PUA. Done.
2. Make her put her guard up within the very frame you've created by warning her of an impending challenge to the new perceived reality. I think a Yes Ladder can be effectively applied in this stage with a couple questions about her commitment to this reality.
3. Ask a hypothetical question in an almost condescending manner (with a weaker frame) that serves as a weak attack. The fact that the attack was a question should prompt a response in which she defends her perceived reality.
4. Reward her defense with IOIs and amplify her state further with NLP.
I'll come up with an example later... this one's a toughie.