So there's this girl that came to one of my parties last September. We talked a little bit and I found out we both are trying to learn German. Added her on facebook and made the mistake of being a pussy and never talking to her other than inviting her to another one of our parties (which she said maybe to but never showed). But she keeps liking stuff I upload. So the other day I message her.

Me: (her name)! When are you gonna teach me some Deutsche?
Her: (my name)! Anytime haha
Me: It's a date! When's a good time for you next week?

Me 24 hours later: Don't be shy now. Time of your life I promise.

That last text was a last-ditch effort to get her to at least respond and I was not excepting it to work. Yes it was probably shit and borderline creepy but hey a 2% chance is better than a 0% chance. What could I have done better other than message her back in September like a non-pussy?

If you aren't going to strike while the iron is hot, don't expect much months down the line even if she likes your facebook posts.

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Well that escalated quickly. You never really flirted to her but fired a date invite in your second text?

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Good point RC. Probably shoulda thought of that. So I guess the exact same texts (the first two) are bad even if I sent them the day after I met her instead of four months later? I thought being direct, to the point and not having long text conversations that lead nowhere were key.

Think of it like this. If you want a girl to go out with you, she needs a reason. You didn't give her one. In other words, why should she have gone out with you?
There's a difference between attracted and interested. Trailers exist to get people wanting to see the whole movie.
Without them, you could be investing your time into something entirely mediocre and not know it until you're already there. You don't make that commitment just because the poster looks attractive.
Yes, however being direct means making your intentions clear. It means being flirty, and sending across the message that this is sexual, not platonic.
And no, don't have conversations that lead nowhere. Have conversations that preferably lead to her interested in you.

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What RC said. The "Date" mention was simply too soon, she wasn't ATTRACTED enough. It was simply too early. I understand you took her enthusiastic response for attraction, but it wasn't. She needed a bit more warming up time.

Don't worry about HER. Worry about all the other women you're going to be messaging.

Thanks guys. And yeah I won't be messaging her again. I'm an AFC but not that big of an AFC.

OK WTF she responded! And she said haha what time works for you? Since she took three days to reply to me I'm not gonna worry about replying right away but this is so weird I actually don't know what to say.

What are you going to do with her? Like where are you meeting her and what are you doing

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I just waited an hour and said I'm free at X time tomorrow. Let's get coffee. That was half an hour ago waiting for her to get back to me. I'm gonna be optimistic and assume she's just shy and not the type of girl to play those stupid games over text. Those girls are the worst.

Disappointment coming in 5...4...3...2...1...

I just threw up in my mouth a little.

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See what you get when you go for the date right away, and then back off!

hell yes.

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Fucking coffee?


Argh.


Where are all these men getting coffee date advice from? It's maddening.

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