Hello,

I met a woman at a festival 6 weeks ago and we live about 150 KM apart. A few weeks ago we scheduled a meeting namely from 30.09. to 02.10.

The problem is, last week on tuesday, she called me but i didnt answe (challenge, hard to get). I wrote her a message 4 days later, but she didnt answer back.

Then I made a small error and texted her 2 days later again and wrote: "Are we gonna do it?" She didnt answer this message too.

Actually i want to call her today and ask her whats wrong but at the other hand i want to wait till 30.09. and if she is not answering ill sent her a farewell message and "walk away".

Could I miss the "window of oppertunity"? Is she angry because I gave her not enough IOI and I always answer her several days later( i answer her just 1 time in a week)

I must mention here that I like this girl! I dont want to mess this thing up between us so I'm looking for advice!

Sry, but i tranlated these text with google translater!

der Text ist nicht nachvollziehbar, OP.

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ok, ill create a new text.

Is that the real reason you didn't answer bro? Sounds like you were either scared or nervous to me, because you relied on texting instead of calling her back. Either way thats ridicules. Its not like you're emotional established with the girl yet. Pick up the phone and get to the goal.

Not to mention, doesn't sound like you're that into the girl anyway, you're probably just bored or don't have anyone better to pursue. Just move on man. Close the window yourself if it isn't already closed.

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Sounds like you over-Gamed it. You played hard to get, and got nothing. Anyone can be busy at the moment a call comes in and be unable to take it, but you didn't even acknowledge it for four days! She probably felt rejected, and that does not sit well with women. So you needed 'punished' and the world set back to rights, which is what your subsequent texts allowed. Your best strategy now is to cease contact and assume your planned meetup ist kaput until further notice.

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Thx for the answers

I called her yesterday but she didnt react at first, she called me back 5 minutes later.

I did several mistakes:

1. We phoned around 45 minutes; i know that I have to limit it to about 10 to 15 minutes!

2. She said, she has no time at the scheduled weekend but one week later i shall come to her. At first she said she wants to come to my place but i said i dont want to have her at my place at first. Later she said that she she is afraid to trust me because she had bad experience with men and i was not very nice to her at our first weekend. At the end she started to cry because i asked her why she is staying with men which tread her bad and if she likes to get hurt.

3. Also i sad to her that we should stop our "thing" maybe because she shows not enough interest for me. She said that this is not true and she wants to see me again. I have to say that she takes over the company of her father and has much stress at the moment.

I suppose i mess the whole stuff up between us because she said Iam acting womanish! She said it because i said to her that we should split up cause "she dont move mountains to see mee". I think I got a major red flag! The problem is i like this girl! She has great characteristics: ambition, honesty, openness and femineity. I want to be with this girl and she is activating my protective instinct! Not with money; I am not a Beta- Provider and she knows this: She paid for our drinks and the first weekend

Shall I call her again today and appology that i made her cry? I dont want to " walk away"!

This is one of the stupidest situations I've seen.

Wtf

Yep.

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I need advise no allegation! I know Iam not good with humans! Iam blind for emotions and my impact on other persons!

Spill your guts, tell her how much you really love her. Hold nothing back.

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That is the advise of this PUA FORUM? I see there is no real advise hear......

Your problem is that you messed up the situation and you're looking for us to help you fix it. It's like you drank poison but are blaming us because we don't have the antidote.

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Thats an advice! How did i mess this situation up? What was my mistake?

IMO you respond to a call with a call, not a text, and not a text after 4 days lol. She probably thinks you are not interested or a coward.

Did you "game" her, or were you super nervous and finally after 4 days gathered the courage to give a text back? In my book you showed unreliability and disinterest more then "hard to get".

If i were you, and still very interested in meeting the woman, i would call her. Don't be surprised if she does not answer. Give some sort of excuse for your incompetence, and then talk about the things that made you 2 connect in the first place: what you did or talked about when you first meet, funny moments you had, etc. Something that would put a smile on her face while thinking of you.

Above all though, be honest with yourself. I don't buy that you tried to "game her" (where did you read advise like that?), or that you don't understand other peoples feelings; i think you are far more likely to be very nervous and scared. If you can't be honest with yourself you can't improve or fix yourself either.

You let shit go by because you wanted to play it cool like an idiot. Didn't even contact her in between dates smh. And didn't even pick up the phone when she called and it sounds like you were free at the time smh. Please don't ask us to come up with a save this situation strategy. I'll probably just laugh at it all. If she does come back, count your blessings.

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