everybody, I'm new to the forum, I hope you guys can give me advice or help me out with the situation I'm currently living in.

I'm an 18 year old from Spain. I don't consider myself an ugly person, and I'm often told by girls that I'm cute. Even though I could use some more muscle, I'm not fat or anything like that. I do have some small insecurities(just like everyone, I guess), but I'm pretty outgoing and make friends easily. I am completely comfortable talking to girls.

When I go to clubs, I don't usually have problems picking up girls. I go up to them  and start talking(sometimes I don't even have to talk) and I end up making out with them. I have also gotten girls I already knew from before, but only in party environments(most of the times it was before the girl wasn't even drunk)

The strange thing is I never had a girlfriend. Like I said before, I'm usually outgoing and girls have a lot of fun with me but the relationships never escalates. It's not like they friendzone me, that's not the situation. We have flirty conversations but I feel like I always get stuck. I'm not really in need for a girlfriend, but sometimes I wish I had a girl with whom I could have intimacy and feelings, instead of hooking up with some random chick from whom I'm most likely not gonna hear again.

What do you guys think? I would be really thankful if you could give me some advice!

Let me just get this straight before I give you a detailed response...

You are currently meeting girls and having sex with some of them... but when you try and make it anything more, they run away?

Or you are meeting girls and flirting with them but unable to turn it into actual sex... meaning you're not a closer?

It's strange. Most of the times I don't even get the number from the girls I hook up with at parties. The times I've gotten their number, we keep flirting over text but we end up not seeing each other again.

My point is why do I only get laid during parties and I'm not able to establish a relationship with a girl I meet in class or at work? As I said before, I usually get along pretty well with girls in class and flirt with them, but it never progresses into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

You're definitely getting stuck with escalation it sounds like, can you be more specific though?

Do you try to set up dates and just cant?

You're using vague terms man. If you want help, you need to explain.

Are you actually fucking (dick in vagina) these girls or no? You say hooking up with at parties... what does hooking up with mean? Cause I take that as having sex... and for a girl to not want your phone number EVER after you have sex seems a little bizarre to me. If retention is your issue.... then you probably suck in bed or you're too clingy.

Not really dates, although sometimes I invite them to parties, or they invite me. Sometimes I end up hooking up with them at said party but most of the time it ends up not happening.

Like you said, I feel like my problem is definetely escalation. I often don't know what to say to escalate the relationship.

You're using vague terms man. If you want help, you need to explain.

Are you actually fucking (dick in vagina) these girls or no? You say hooking up with at parties... what does hooking up with mean? Cause I take that as having sex... and for a girl to not want your phone number EVER after you have sex seems a little bizarre to me. If retention is your issue.... then you probably suck in bed or you're too clingy.[/quote][/quote]

Most of the time I only make out with them, but in a couple occasions I have had sex with them. I did get the number of the ones I had sex with. One of them actually kept texting me telling me that she really wanted to see me again, I told her to set up a date but for whatever reason she lost interest. The other ones I banged were british tourists that were here for a couple days and left.

That's the reason.

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Most of the time I only make out with them, but in a couple occasions I have had sex with them. I did get the number of the ones I had sex with. One of them actually kept texting me telling me that she really wanted to see me again, I told her to set up a date but for whatever reason she lost interest. The other ones I banged were british tourists that were here for a couple days and left.[/quote]


Okay.

So you're not a closer...

Why don't you try and actually have sex with these girls that night? You're already making out with them. Bring them somewhere that the two of you can be alone for 15 fucking minutes and rip her clothes off. Strike while the iron is hot dude. That's how you'll get girls who give you their numbers and want to see you again.

It's a matter of you not being such a pussy anymore.