| Broke up with gf of about 3 years. (Context HB7.5, intelligent, 4.0, not a ton of friends home, her two best friends are bitches, her third best friend took a bit of a shine to me so that ended. Overall great relationship. She's 23.) She is in grad school currently in another province. Had about two weeks of hanging out in 5 months while she was away at school, one visit home, one visit up there. Went to Niagara, amazing, home was christmas time. Did the SPAM thing phone thing talked each day. She was dedicated to me and well i to her. We talked long term things, life together, etc. Christmas time an old flame started messaging me (was ex's ex best friend). We hung out a couple times (myself and old flame, didn't bang her, but heavy tension) and the thoughts of her and the distance from my now ex got to me. My ex went back to grad school after christmas. Christmas was strained, It was good, but I had a hard time sexually, was distant. Three weeks later i called and broke up with her. I let it all go to my head and think I made a hasty decision. She will be home in may for three months then back to school for one more year home occassionally. With me visiting etc. Same set up as before. Fast forward a couple months. I went no contact, stuck my head in my work, hung out with friends, definitely drank far too much.
She called two nights ago. A little drunk. Shit tested some. I deflected as best i could. She Asked if i was seeing anyone, i said a couple dates nothing serious, she almost asked if i fucked anyone, I finished her question for her, gave a half no, tried to keep it vague. She Talked herself up saying she looked great now blah blah. I kept it light. She almost got me when she asked me why i hated her and why i left her alone. She said she missed talking to me when i asked her why she called again. Was jealous of seeing pictures of me with my friend Lucy on facebook. So she's creepin me a fair bit. I ended the conversation told her to call me when she comes to her senses (about talking and getting back together never mentioned that once in the conversation). She said ok. Hung up. A see saw of A conversation. She called me late again last night but i was asleep. I messaged her saying "hey. I missed your call" to which she said 'musta been a pocket dial'. Yeah sure. I never texted her back yet. That was this morning. It's almost 11pm now.
I am not sure how to connect with her again. I feel she wants me still and isn't indifferent to me. She is pisssssed but she definitely still loves me it's pretty obvious i think.
I tried to talk with her post break up when she came and got her stuff while she was home. She wasn't having it at all. I finally gave up after being a big pussy bitch and went no contact. Been about two months and she has called twice in three days. Probably drinking for sure. But. Yeah. How do i go about this. She is home in a month and i know it could work. I fucked up and threw something away instead of trying to make the long distance work a bit longer. At least til she was home for the summer. Her calling me has me all fucked up now. I had a tinder date, meh. Kiss/number closed a girl at a bar, dinner, text game, nothing after that. The old flame was head gaming me and now wants nothing to do with me because she still "feels bad" that her and my ex aren't friends anymore because of Old Flames feelings for me. Women..
How do i go about talking. Texting. Calling. Whatever. I don't wanna push her away as she is chasing me. Also don't want to completely lose her to indifference.
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