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PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 2:47 pm 
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I have this girl I have met a couple of times, we were supposed to go out and grab a drink together this week. She sent me a text saying "anytime after the weekend would be good for me". I replied, proposing Wednesday, and then after 2 days of silence I sent another text.

Now, it seems to me that something is wrong (she either does not want to go out, or does not have time) but I do not know how to ask her in a confident, negging way so that I do not come across as needy. She is working at the same company so I could either message her internally or walk up to her. Would sth like "hey, you must be swamped with work since you are not even checking your texts girl!" be OK?


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PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 2:51 pm 
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Don't call her out on avoiding your texts! You have very little connection and that's going to come across as a bit emotional.

She doesn't sound very interested to me.


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Like everyone else said, don't call a woman out unless she's clearly crossing the line or expressing bad behaviors. Which in this case, she did not. She was just not interested anymore. If you still want a shot with her, just send her some funny text once in a while. But I doubt it does any good, if don't get her out in the next week or 2, she will probably delete your number by then. It's just how women are.

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PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 3:47 pm 
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SO you're saying being busy is out of question and I should just call it quits? or wait a bit longer and try again maybe in a day or two, but don't call her out but rather be playful?


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No matter how busy you are it doesn't take you 2 or more days to reply to 1 damn text , specially after you've just stated that you are free next week.

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PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 4:22 pm 
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SO you're saying being busy is out of question and I should just call it quits? or wait a bit longer and try again maybe in a day or two, but don't call her out but rather be playful?
Think of it this way, if you had tons of girls lined up would you really be sweating this one? Probably not. Texting her anything at this point just shows that you are hung up on her.

You said you work together, so if you run into her in the hallway or something just flirt with her there... but don't bring up the texts.


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PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 4:33 pm 
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Hm, women at this stage still surprise me :) Texts were not anywhere near AFC ones, so I guess she must have lost interest for some reason. Just seems strange that someone is keen and two days later that turns around 180 degrees... well, life's a bitch :p


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It doesn't matter how alpha your texts were. If you're the one texting her and she is the one choosing not to reply, then she is the one who is in control.

Move on.


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I have this girl I have met a couple of times, we were supposed to go out and grab a drink together this week. She sent me a text saying "anytime after the weekend would be good for me". I replied, proposing Wednesday, and then after 2 days of silence I sent another text.

Now, it seems to me that something is wrong (she either does not want to go out, or does not have time) but I do not know how to ask her in a confident, negging way so that I do not come across as needy. She is working at the same company so I could either message her internally or walk up to her. Would sth like "hey, you must be swamped with work since you are not even checking your texts girl!" be OK?

Hey bro,

The only way you can appear needy is if you actually are. I could call a girl 10 times and not appear needy. The girls I talk to would think ( he must be making some sort of joke/ his phones acting up etc.), because they know that I have other options. Even if they don't know directly, they can feel it, because of the way I behave.

Based off this post, I can tell you're a bit needy; and if I know it, then she knows it.

Call her, establish a bit of connection through talking before you just ask her out. A lot of girls are afraid of an awkward date, with "nothing to talk about". That way you don't waste each others time. Peace & Love

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I have this girl I have met a couple of times, we were supposed to go out and grab a drink together this week. She sent me a text saying "anytime after the weekend would be good for me". I replied, proposing Wednesday, and then after 2 days of silence I sent another text.

Now, it seems to me that something is wrong (she either does not want to go out, or does not have time) but I do not know how to ask her in a confident, negging way so that I do not come across as needy. She is working at the same company so I could either message her internally or walk up to her. Would sth like "hey, you must be swamped with work since you are not even checking your texts girl!" be OK?

Hey bro,

The only way you can appear needy is if you actually are. I could call a girl 10 times and not appear needy. The girls I talk to would think ( he must be making some sort of joke/ his phones acting up etc.), because they know that I have other options. Even if they don't know directly, they can feel it, because of the way I behave.

Based off this post, I can tell you're a bit needy; and if I know it, then she knows it.

Call her, establish a bit of connection through talking before you just ask her out. A lot of girls are afraid of an awkward date, with "nothing to talk about". That way you don't waste each others time. Peace & Love
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forget about her not texting... don't sweat it. If you show her it's bothering you it will kill any attraction between you 2.

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She made up her mind long ago... The good news is that women often change their minds about everything. The bad news is that if you had the ability to make her change her mind, you'd be dating her already.

Start from scratch... not with this girl... but with your skillsets for pick up. There's no hurry. You've got plenty of pick up and dating ahead of you. Take the time to figure this out.


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