exactly.

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Took the bed out of my room and into a room we don't use. I don't have a TV. But my laptop is just fine . I already got internet in my name so that isn't an issue



I hear what you guys are saying. Fine. I won't use any of her shit. I will get my own shit. I am with it Neo87. I will handle it like a G.

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Youtube: Esther Vilar: The Manipulated Man.

Put your headphones in, lay back and focus.. That'll give you understanding and put you into the mind frame to do what was asked of you.

It'll get tiring, but its worth it.

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I haven't completed the manipulated man yet but I will focus on that during vacation off work coming up this Friday.

Just an update"


We really don't talk anymore. I have been weaning off the things she owns and she lets me have it if I touch one frying pan of hers "I told you not to touch my shit" etc.


Just waiting on my paycheck to get a couple more things to be fully on my own.

I had sex with another girl while she was home. She has stated she is moving out in May. I either have to find a roommate or work extra hard to maintain the apartment rent until September when my buddy moves into the apartment. This is about to get expensive. And I have to decide on picking a random off of craiglist :/


To elaborate more on how that night went : My ex has something wrong with her lungs, not sure what, but she is taking medicine and shit. I told her beforehand that night I might have a guest tonight (it is a friends with benefits I have). My ex sold me her pull out couch so that was a good turn of events.

So I bring the girl home...not a peep from my ex. She tried to say she was puking and stuff before I brought the girl home and she wasn't feeling well through text , blah blah, and then she was like "my friend Jas might be here to take care of me if she can get a ride", like what does that have to do with me i thought. I bring the girl home and I take the girl into my room where the pull out is...and my ex's dog is clingy and prefers me over Brit (my ex). I clearly don't want to have sex with the dog in the room so I oust her out. I put on music and go to work. The dog is barking at this point.

She barks and barks and I feel tension growing inside of me because I know for sure that my phone is going to have a text tone any minute. And 10 minutes in, *Beep*, it's my ex. I read it after i am done with the deed and it says that she thinks i am a rude and sorry excuse for a man. She told me she was sick before bringing the girl home, blah blah, and the dog is barking because were being too loud and that she had to entertain the dog so the landlord upstairs won't be mad etc. etc.

I don't care.

I have the phone in my hand and think about sending a rude text back but I have my friends with benefits trying to go to bed and I don't want to get into a negative state. I don't reply and put the phone down and go back to sleep. It was easy, she hasn't shown me any form of respect the last 3 weeks so I could care less of what she had to say. I am supporting her moving out in May. She has to go. No business in my life since she doesn't make me happy anymore, so see ya. Adios.

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You did a great job showing composer and not sending the rude text back. If she can can get you to react, she wins... If you react to her negativity with negativity she is leading you down a path of negativity. So +1 for that.

I think you have a good grip on things bro, no one said it was going to be easy, but thats what life and being a man is all about. Turn them lemons into lemonade.. She'll respect you more and you'll respect yourself more increasing the quality of women that come into your life.

With every broken heart i've ever had i've only been shortly rewarded with a better woman - and access to higher quality women then i did before. Not necessarily in the looks department. The girls have always been attractive, but in the quality of person department.

Salute bro.

My final recommendation is to just keep the contact extremely limited this last month; she'll start getting cold feet and missing what was the closer the date gets. Limit it man, no real elaborate conversation.. Be polite, but keep your distance emotionally and socially. Hi's and bye's... Anything else just ignore unless its business or related to the place.

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Business as usual.

She has been mentioning that guy who has been orbiting her the last few months is going to be coming over this weekend and when he is in town often. So, I will treat him like my little brother and her like my little sister. This will drive her crazy. If we interact.

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Update: Warning, I need to rant.

Well, it might be official, May she will be moving out. THANK GOD. She stresses me out a little. For example, lately she has threatened to take away the two cats we adopted. THIS pissed me off....she wanted the damn cats early in the relationship, we got them, she never took care of them. EVER. I cleaned the litter box, played with them, and fed them. Now all of a sudden the last two weeks "oh, ive been feeding the cats every day, if you can't take care of them I will find someone who can".

Really bitch. I feed them one to two cups a day, because I think giving them unlimited access will cause obesity. But anyway, that is that. I also noticed she has been more "busy" so I am taking care of the dog as well. I have told her stupid ass to leave the dog home if she can't commit to it. She claims to walk her and feed her daily. It's like a 10 minute walk...and this dog has ALOT of energy. Needs at least 30 minutes minimal to 1 hour to really pass the f out for the rest of the day. Somehow, having dogs growing up (which ive noticed, her parents take care of and not her) makes her an expert. Everytime she comes home and bring her girlfriend over, I watch and laugh. The dog jumps on them and mouths them and they scream until finally my ex puts her in the kennel or they leave. It's ridiculous. She is delusional. And she has an Instagram photo where it says "when your husband asks where this dog came from and she's like idk"...the fuck, you don't even know how to take care of the one you have now. She is all about #lovedogs #wannasave them all. Fucking public relations right there.


I responded tonight to one text that pissed me off. So one of my redbulls burst in the freezer. It wasn't a huge mess, maybe an area the size of a cookie that I should have cleaned up. The counters aren't dirty but aren't clean. She bitched about that. Hmmm...but I mean coming home to the dog pooping and peeing on the kitchen floor because she doesn't want to kennel her anymore is any more sanitary...but I mean, I am a piece of shit, fucking pig, lets see, what happened to me I became a piece of shit, oh I hate your guts, I hate living here, same old shit in her texts. It's annoying. I want her leave already, I told her to leave in May. I'll figure out the money situation. AND she had the nerve to tell me I'd lose kitchen privileges if I keep this up? She must be nuts. MUST BE NUTS. She also had the nerve to tell me she would pay less rent if she kept being the maid...but she doesn't understands that most of the mess is from the dog...but it's easier to blame me.


I saw her on Sunday with a new guy. Seems consistent. She talks to this guy on the phone all the time, on speaker...which is weird. I handled it well. Guy said sup, I said sup, she drove off. She also got pissed that day because I was going to move her car out of the parking spot which we take turns each week using. Somehow, i am crossing boundaries...but seriously, she knew what day it was. I could have texted her but come on, it was the afternoon already and she went for a walk, lol. Seriously. Once again, she took advantage of that to send me a barrage of texts after she saw me come out with her spare key and by her car.

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It doesn't sound like you've changed much if you ask me. From this post, it's clear she is still leading you, and i'm guessing you become emotional and fall into her manipulative traps time and time again.
You're fighting fire with fire, instead of water with fire. It is not darkness that puts an end to darkness. It's light. I'd check them T levels.. And take a few steps in improving them.

May is just a week away though. So I guess this will all be over.

Salute to the strength you have shown though. You did what you could. Definitely better than most.

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You're still pretty invested in her judging by your post.

Then again you were stuck in one of the worst type of situations. Enjoy your well earned "freedom" once May starts.

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I'm not sure what I can do in these situations. Bitch is using money and my pets which right now are a priority. And she knows I love my pets, using the protector loved ones against me...which is dirty. Fuck her.

It is just stressful. The only way she is able to win is due to money and my cats which I have cared for (and invested time and money). I got laid off my second job so I have been stressing about having enough money for three months to keep the apartment until my new roommate comes into the picture. I just got a call from a potential job prospect yesterday so that feeling might change. Just have to endure until then. I could be like just leave and fuck off. But I mean...if I had the funds to do so, that wouldn't be an issue. I haven't been working out the past week because I have strained my shoulder, so I have noticed the change in behavior.

I am not invested in her emotionally like I miss her, I am invested because I still need to figure out how to keep the apartment. Then again, I can always tell her to fuck off...hmmm and figure it out. But if she's able to pay May rent then I'd just have her then.

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I get you bro.

I just think you're a lot more mad at yourself than you are mad at her. Thats something you may come to realize once she moves out and you have the clear mental room to review it.

She's only been able to do what she was allowed to do through your leadership. Back when you thought things were good in that old post we had, I was telling you that she was in control. I could tell by what you were saying. If a man thinks "Everything is just great. We get along, we take turns doing this and that" the woman is usually in control. And there is only but so much time before she gets sick of all of the responsibility and begins to resent the man who wasn't taking charge. She then seeks that elsewhere. I don't care what she "says" she wants. Its our job as men to give our women what they need despite what they claim to want. They may be a bit upset with you now, but they will love you later. Everything isn't going to be a cakewalk. Sometimes we have to make uncomfortable decisions or statements today for the betterment of our future.

Your public vulnerability is cool as shit though. This post is full of lessons for many to learn from. Make a mental note to return to this in 6 months. Set an alarm on your laptop or cell phone calendar. You'll be shocked. You'll be able to see then, what you may not be able to see now.

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For people that don't like each other i dont know why you guys wasted so much time living in the same household.

Wasn't always this way. It was a gradual decline. Like hanging off a ledge and every month a finger left that ledge. Until I fell..

Anyway, so far I have taken action. Been cleaning my room, keeping it clean, buying my own things, and overall taking my life by the horns. Just bought cook ware the other day. I went to walmart and got cups, plates. No worries. I have been visiting the thrift store as well, browsing at furniture. I decided to find a job serving somewhere to add the extra 200 dollars I will need biweekly. Even though I dislike serving, I will suck it up. On the other hand my main chick offered me to babysit her kids two days out of the week for some $$$, since she needs someone to watch them while she is at work, which is in the works and won't be for official for awhile. Might not do it since I know she will ask me to stay the night those two nights and I know she is trying to tie me down. She verbalized it, lol. She's funny.

In the meantime I think I just have to keep this momentum going. Get my ADHD symptoms in check and make sure my ass gets organized.

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Update:

My ex girlfriend is finally moving out this upcoming weekend, wow, a sense of relief is swelling up inside of me. She is a little to emotional for me to handle everyday and all I can really do is enforce my boundaries at the moment and remind her that if she wants to discuss something it is in a respectful tone. She understands that if she goes too far down the disrespectful route I will ignore her texts, so she has been improving a little with that. I have also gotten better at not giving her what she wants when she asks for it. I have become more selfish in what I want, she wants the money for the bills soon but I tell her to round it all up and I will give her a check on my payday, since it makes more sense to which she reluctantly agreed. She makes money, she will be fine if she waits a little. It is also inconvenient for me to give her money all over the place at random times. Not productive for me since I only have one job. ANDDD i think i have a second job coming my way this week. If it goes through, sky is the limit this summer.


As the date looms closer, she is coming out of the woodworks and being a bit nicer, definitely a better improvement than a couple months ago. She got real testy this weekend when I went out to get a haircut and didn't clean before the landlord and their realtor agent came along (they were talking about selling the house possibly, we will see). I already have a plan if that happens, have two possible roommates in the works and might move into a cooler apartment. The landlord might let me rent until September. I already talked to them and let them know that I am prepared to see the lease out until it is over and not to worry about payments.

Back to this weekend...in the end it worked out because I came home before the landlord and the agent got there. I cleaned up. She spazzed out in text before and called me useless, blah blah, and was furious when she found condoms on the cat tree to which she called me an idiot , that was rich. Ah, I love being a man sometimes.

I have been looking at furniture lately. I don't really want a pull out bed anymore, just not my thing, even though some girls ask why i have a pull out and others don't ask...either way, deed gets done.

Progress is progress. fuck yeah, I feel myself coming back.

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