I actually don't seem to get asked this by girls that often, and it's great that the girl usually presumes I'm with someone. In crowded venues it can be quite easy to give the illusion that you're with others. But I have been asked it a bit lately. Sometimes, when I capture a girl, I can just sense, that if she knew the reality of my situation, and if she was sober, she'd be horrified.

Of course you could tell the truth. and that may be the option to resort to most frequently, but I'd like to know a few ways to lie. I did read some PUA say "they'll admire your confidence to go out alone." Hmmm, I don't know!

Often, I'll be having an interesting conversation with some girl(s), and I hear "oh, are you here alone?" The smaller the venue, and the less people, the more likely I'm to get asked. At that point, they may know that you're out to get girls - and that's fine I guess. But then it's a case of; what's my excuse for sitting by the bar for 20 minutes doing nothing? There are those moments when it's not possible (at least for me) to get in on other people's cliques. You know! They know that while everyone else is having fun, I'm sober, by the bar like a lion secretly watching for an opportunity pounce! I know they're not going to see me going back to my car alone later on in the night, but I guess everyone knows that that's often what going out alone means.

What's also interesting, is that when I am actually out with others, I often wouldn't be "with" them... if you know what I mean. But then in this case, I wouldn't fear such an inevitable question!

Thanks

No excuses, just say you're waiting for your friends to arrive. If you've been gaming the room they will forget about it later. Doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things.

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Why would you fear a question from a stranger? Or lie?

You are a man. The bull elk. You don't need to explain yourself.

Her: why are you here alone?

You: Because it's easier to pick up women.

Act like the prize. Say what you think, charming honesty. This line also sexualizes things quickly. Do not fear women. Do not put them on a pedestal.

I prefer to go out alone to meet women, usually I pick up hired guns. They are the more attractive women in my town.

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Mr. Assertive's reply is a good one, and one I used semi-truthfully many times when I went out on my own.

There is never any reason or need to use something fake or canned or make up a lie. You shouldn't ever have to make up an "excuse." There are 1 million responses that are true, that can convey what you need to without doing any of that stuff.

- I came here to meet you!
- I am out to enjoy myself and relax!
- I am trying new drinks!
- I like to dance!
- I like to listen to music!
- I came here to meet new people!

I could type forever, but you get the point. Pick one that's congruent with your reality.

Also, you should try not to sit at the bar for 20 min doing nothing. If there is no one at the bar you're at and you have no one to talk to I'm pretty sure you should find another one. Last time I was at a bar waiting for someone, I just talked to the strangers!

Most times when I was out with someone else trying to pickup, it usually sucks; they end up blocking my penis or logistically creating a problem. Unless the other person has some PUA knowledge, I much prefer to find women solo.

What's the truth?

This.


Real men don't lie. It's weak behavior. It's fearful behavior.

Lying is acceptable to protect financial interests and your career, but nothing else....especially relationships.

You speak your mind, and either women are on board with you, or not. Their loss.

Agreed. This is the way of the dominant male. 9/10 Women love men who behave like the bull elk, and not the spike buck frat boy.

So many men fail to realize truth is sexy. Shocking honesty is hot, and serves not only to let women know you have your own mind, you're a challenge, and that you'll get to the fucking point the bedroom, too, and lead.

Hot women are not used to this. They are used to guys hemming and hawing, never escalating, putting them on a pedestal, concocting fancy first dates is if the woman is royalty and he but a wee bitty peasant, agreeing with everything they say, etc.

The other night I was out to dinner with my gf of one year. A really cute waitress walked by, and I let my gaze linger a little too long. My gf said "like what you see?" a little angry, and I said "yeah. she's hot. It's just science."

My gf then said she respected me for always being honest with her. Later that night, while in bed, she started talking about the girl and what she would to do to her.

Be a man. Be honest.

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