Hey Zip- Two questions for you...

1) I'm going to see Paul Oakenfold on Friday night- I have black shoes, a nice pair of jeans, black belt- not sure what kind of shirt to wear. I read your advice about a jacket but it's not really club attire.... any suggestions?

2) how did you come up with the name Zip?

I'm going with this shirt:



Still curious how you got the name Zip- have a great weekend everyone...

Hey, sorry I didn't get to help you out in time. Have fun at the concert, and feel free to ask another about what to wear.

As far as the name zip... it's a name given to me because it:
1.) fits my personality
2.) describes how I zip around a venue
3.) relays the speed in which I can get a set to "unzip" and let me in.

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I've wondered the same thing. Well, "Penny for your thoughts..."

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Pending from your point of view..Zip, when a guy you dont know approaches your set or whoever your with. Is it like, "Another loser!" or "Lets see what he has to say".

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depends on the situation. I try to keep an open mind, but I'm not too proud to admit that I do prejudge people sometimes. I think this is true for many women.... it depends on how we are approached. If someone comes up to us and smells like ulterior motive... we think "another loser." If he's coming across like a decent and interesting human being, we think "let's see what he has to say."

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Zip,

I am having some feelings and attraction towards someone I work with. My gay friend say not to mix business with pleasure. What would you as a woman think about this? I am a photographer, she is my muse...

Okay, I normally would say "don't shit where you eat" as far as work/personal interrelationships go. However, if you're dealing with her on an artistic level, no rules apply.

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Dear Zip,

1) Say you see an attractive man in the mall---could be in a store or walking down the main hallway. What are some things you do covertly to get his attention? What are some overt things, if any?

2) What are some things you and your friends would do to get mens' attention, if they have not noticed you in a venue?

3) This girl online whom I've been emailing recently keeps wanting to hear stories about me, but I gave her an ultimatum a few days ago to call me if she wants to find out. She agreed to do so this weekend---we've talked a couple of times on the phone before so it's not like I'm throwing the burden of first contact on her---but have not done so yet. Normally I'd next her, but there's something about her...anyway, could I have handled this differently, if so how?

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I'll make eye contact, hold it, break it, make it again... play the eye contact game until we both smile and he knows to come over. I'll also walk out of my way to put myself in his line of vision, of course, doing something so I look busy but approachable.

Of course, sometimes, I'll open him... just like you would open any of the girls you see in a mall. Direct game. Instant rapport. Playful.
We'll act like we're having fun, we'll use our body language to seem "inviting." We'll use the natural flow of the environment to our advantage. We'll actually call men over. We'll all make eye contact, break it, talk about the guys, look over again.... they have to come over at that point. We'll send a drink over to some guys, just to fuck with them.
Okay, I'm taking a page from Medic on this one... don't call her. The next time she contacts you online, you tell her firmly but politely that you don't give away your stories to someone who doesn't make the effort to call. You don't put up with people who make you an option rather than a priority. You drop that bomb on her, and leave it until she complies.

You've handled it just fine, of course, I could use a few more details about the situation to really feel like I could give you a good plan of action or a good critique.

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Zip,

I was trying out some storytelling techniques on her, kind of experimenting, using a little bit of NLP, and seeing if I can elicit some emotions in her with those stories. Some of the more complicated and logic based stories kind of went over her head but she related to others. Since then she's contacted me to ask me to tell her more of these stories, some of which are about myself and others about things more phantasmagoric. Without getting into details here, lets just say I think I may have neglected actual physical comfort with her before all the emailing/IM's. And I guess telling her all those stories might have been seen by her as supplicating, even though I enjoyed telling them as much as she enjoyed reading them.

So I'm attempting to establish that through voice and eventually a meeting. I emailed her telling her to call me, she emailed back that she would last weekend, then nothing (on either side). The last online contact from me was about a week ago.

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gentlemen,

I am in Las Vegas right now with a client and three of my friends.

I have many stories to tell you.

One includes a hooker. Speak to you all soon.

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Update:

She called me out of the blue earlier this week, we chatted, laughed, had a good vibe going, and set up a date for tomorrow. Then she calls me just now to tell me that something came up in her family and she has to cancel. I am disappointed by her decision, and by the fact that we will never get to know each other. Yep, Next.

Blah. Yeah yeah I know, I should have gone with my instincts from the get go on this one. But hey, I get a pass on oneitis once in awhile right? Right?!!

It just goes to show how important it is NOT to skip critical stages of the game like comfort and kino.

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Okay, absolutely next her. I'm all about giving people benefit of a doubt, but that's something I'd pull if I started to regret setting up a date. Family things do happen, but if she didn't come to you with the solution to that problem as well as the problem... it's not about the family emergency. It's about her.

Perfect sarges/day2's/MLTRs get boring. Fuck it. My favorite guys right now are the ones I fucked up on somewhere strategy wise and was able to use it to my advantage. However, you have to be able to next people sometimes. They are screening themselves out of your life by acting douchy.

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Update: I survived Las Vegas... got back at 2 this morning... catching my next plane to go down south at 6:30 pm tonight.

I'm going to need a vacation from this vacation. Anyway, point being I've been busy and will be busy for a bit but please continue to ask questions. I will get to them.

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