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Other thing is, some women (and men) are quite shy in reality. Some haven't had the experience, some are just emotionally closed off, haven't dated in a few years, etc. If I was dating a guy that was a virgin, let's say, and he told me he was bad with women, or uncomfortable, or whatever, I honestly wouldn't mind waiting 3-4 months for sex. Why not.
That seems very patient of you. Three to four months dating someone who is that closed off would seem like that person didn't care very much for you if they were that cold and couldn't stand to take a risk. It's understandable to fear intimacy when you don't feel safe, or feel like you might be judged or have no experience but c'mon, 3-4 months? That sounds like some hefty baggage, you might be able to help them through their issues and insecurities and support them when they are nervous, but if it takes that long how can you trust they can get over their fears and insecurities about intimacy if they take that long to open up?
That seems like a whole lot of work for someone that has some issues, when you could just go on another date with someone else that doesn't carry around that same bag of problems. You could just wish them well and hope that person finds someone else in a similar situation so they can face the unknown together. That sounds better than spending 4 months on someone who may turn out to have long term intimacy issues.