Hey guys, cliffs on situation:

-Met girl at dance party
-She adds me on facebook, we start talking on here, she shows a lot of interest
-Asks my number on facebook, we continue texting, texting goes well, she stills shows a lot of interest
-Asked to meet up, she said she couldn't but she most likely could next weekend (This weekend), i say no problem

-Keep texting, 2 days ago i reminded her about this weekend, she said:

"Yeah i really need a fun relaxing weekend, unfortunately this weekend i really can't, school is just getting too much at the moment"

"So just to be clear, it's not that i am not interested or don't want to! Is it ok if i let you know when i have a bit more time?"


I responded:

"Don't worry about it, i understand school is important and is a priority, i don't mind!"

"But ofcourse, in order to make up for this, i expect you to come up with the most awesome date ever for us! "

I send that 2 days ago, she hasn't responded ever since.

She also hasn't read the message according to my SPAM

You can always see when she reads a message when the things next to the text become blue.

So she has been online a lot the past 2 days, has received my message but HAS NOT read it.

I am confused, if she did read it and didn't respond i would guess she is just busy with school and would just wait it out, but this situation is just weird to me

Is this some sort of game to see how i react to it? Or am i reading into it too much?

Any advice? Thanks in advance

Here is how to react.

Pursue other options.

Care Less.

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I agree with this.... although care less isn't a switch a lot of guys can throw

i'm guessing she read the text when it came in. a lot of phones will show you the message on the lock screen when they first come in. (but who knows if this is correct)

give it two weeks and send her a ping.....hey i'm out at this cool spot doing this cool stuff, hope you're well, i'll drop you a line in a few days

leave it at that and don't invite her out....

but most importantly

Thanks for the responses

It turns out i was worried about nothing

She just texted me

"Are you sure you want to leave that part to me? What if instead i promise to be the best date ever?"

"Then you will be the one deciding what we're gonna do! Because if it were up to me we would be hanging on the couch watching a movie, not that awesome haha"


I replied

"I see, you're not that original i guess! No problem just leave it up to me "


My guess is that she really was that busy with school and maybe on purpose didn't open my text because she didn't want me to think that she was ignoring me or something

Anyway, all is ok i guess

How does one "care less"? If it were so simple nobody would have attachment issues, period.

Women, generally speaking, are creatures of-the-moment. Don't get caught-up in the outcomes, focus more on the now - be present and understand that what someone feels now in this moment is transient (ever-changing).

She may have not felt like responding at the time you'd sent the original text, that doesn't mean she's not interested - life happens, attentions are diverted for whatever reason. Learn to sit in your own stillness instead of thinking the worst.

Do this and u'll be unimpeded.

You shouldve just said something along the lines of movie on the couch is great...blah blah some bs. That was your cue to just keep it simple and watch a movie with her. Granted if she is that busy, she may just be looking for something simple....not having to worry about this amazing date. Just bring wine or drinks to her place and bang. Stop making it harder for yourself. Sometimes girls are thinking "damn he's so energetic I probably wont have the energy for what he's planning for a while...I'd just rather chill with him." When she's busy...dont try to squeeze in this big mysterious spectacle.

Fuck you OP. The girl wants to get laid and you turned her down. Haha.

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A girl basically invites a guy to her couch for a movie and the guy rejects. Unless your goal really is just to go out and go on a carriage ride followed by a 5 course meal and then part ways, i simply don't comprehend the rejection. at. all.

With regard to wondering about her earlier non reply, she is living in abundance and you are not. Change that.

Hey guys, thanks for the feedback once again

And yeah lol, i understand your point about the movie at home thing

The thing is i didn't think about it that way because she is still a virgin and only seen me once, we've known eachother for 3 weeks. I doubt she wants to bang for these reasons, don't you agree?


I do agree with the other point tho, maybe she wants a relaxed date instead of some kind of adventure, when she wakes up im going to text her something like:

"Blabla, or was that a subtle hint that you prefer us coming together at your/my house?"

The only 100% guarantee for you to know if a girl is a virgin is when you have inserted your dick in her pussy. Her hymen should be intact.
I don't agree. Girls will ride your dick even when you have only known them for 2 to 3 hours for the simple reason that you made them feel horny.
No. You shouldn't call out girls on their subtle hints to get laid. It's subtle for a reason.

Just shop for some steak and red wine at a grocery store near her house, bounce her to 3 or more shops, and then proceed to watch netflix at her place or yours.

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Dude, OP, what the fuck hahahah.

She invites you for netflix and chill and you just turn her down? You think virgins don't think about sex? or atleast foreplay?

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Resist the urge to get caught up in text foreplay. Don't try to be overly cute. The main point of text should be for a meetup. Push for a meetup, and make it easy and convenient for her so she doesn't have excuses about time. If she is truly interested, she WILL say yes. The fact, however, that it's been 3 weeks since you interacted and no meetup may mean she isn't as interested in you as you think...YET.

And while you wait, make sure you're talking to other women. Please don't hang on to just this one hoping she'll reply.

You're not locked in fully in her emotional mind and she's probably talking to someone else. Its a simple as that. If she's not reading your message, she's not deeming it to be that important. And her flake wasn't as genuine as you may think. She just made it sound that way because women are talk not to damage the male ego. Her actions following her flake should've revealed that to you.

This is one of the reasons why I always get girls on the phone or on video chat. I never get flakes when its done like that. Back when I would text, flakes would come and go, because theres no real action. They're reading a screen just like they do for everyone else.

So there is no game being played her. You're just not seeing whats going. Charge her to the game and move on. Perhaps she'll pop back up later, but you won't be holding your breath.

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I think you also should start care a little less.. Dont respond or read her messages straight away either. Wait as long as she does, and a little bit longer. I know its hard bro, but its about not being som available all the time..