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So did you read the book Dragula suggested?
I just started reading it... he talks a lot about wanting women for validation in the first couple chapters.
Yes, I've recently started to reading the first part. I'll admit that it is a clearly spoken methodology for understanding exactly what's going on between a man and a woman in a relationship. There's an obvious message that nothing is ever going to work out until you literally don't give a shit on a constant basis. And relationships that do work out will turn to shit if you start to give a shit. I do appreciate the tone of the book, which is more along the lines of "get shit done". Have also been reading some of Dale Carnegie's books. They are way more general in terms of not giving a shit and improving relations with people, but I'm literally starting at nothing in terms of true social interaction.
It occurs to me I should probably invest in a thesaurus to avoid using the word shit 50 times in a row.
Whatever, another weekend is starting and I have an actual date tonight. First god damn thing I'll fix is to find the appropriate table to sit beside the girl, rather than across from her like I normally do. Second thing is take my usual anxiety supplements and approach it not giving a fuck, which is easy since she has a kid and is older than I'd like. Even though she is attractive, those aspects almost make it like going out with a fat girl, even though I'll have an attractive body to look at and perhaps a good personality to interact with. And third, I really need to fucking learn and use her name. Hard to believe I've lasted this long not even using a girl's name in conversation. As for the rest, I'm just going to have to wing it. I don't pretend to have some master dating plan or conversational topic bank in my head. Going to have to learn to not give a shit and adapt to the environment, or change the environment to my advantage.