I had a massive willpower fail and stayed up really late Wednesday night, the only good result of which was that I matched with a girl on tinder and we messaged a bit (at 3am.)

The next morning (aka later that morning) we did some more messaging and made plans for sushi that night... only between the complete lack of sleep and the extreme weather we had I really didn't feel like going out. Texted her to reschedule, she accepted and all seemed good. I should note that she seemed pretty enthused, even offered her number before I asked for it.

We proceeded to text a little more, getting to know each other and then she throws out "hey want to talk on the phone?"

Now, I was tired and I honestly hate phone calls... I nearly have a phobia about it, and usually get really anxious on the phone even if it's a business call or a friend. So I said:

"I dunno... I'm not really a fan of phone calls and I'm really tired. I should have gone to bed hours before I messaged you at 3am! "

Didn't hear back from her at all, and this afternoon when I texted her to confirm plans there was no response.

So did I just send a bad message by not wanting to talk on the phone? Or was it how I worded it? In the future should I just suck it up when a girl wants to have a call?

I used to hate talking on the phone as the well because it felt weird that I couldn't see their face and adjust my responses. I eventually got over it and it has definitely helped me speed up the comfort or logistic game. I would have talked to her on the phone and build a little comfort with her if she wanted to talk and I'm not busy. In general, you don't want to have too long or deep conversations over text because you can reward much more in person than through text for her investment. Just keep things short, light and playful and set up logistics over text until the date.

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She may have been thinking she was getting catfished as you weren't comfy with a simple phone chat. Next time keep things to a minimum when it comes to the texting and just meet up with the girl irl.

You have to get over that fear man. You're a grown man. Phone calls are a good way to gauge whether a not a girl will be a waste of time.

If you can have a 30-45 min phone conversation with a chick, the dates are going to go smoothly 9 times out 10. So long as they are resemblances of their properly angled photos. If you don't connect with them over the phone call then you know damn well you're not going to connect with them in person.

Your response probably just turned her off. Its online and women are matching with guys all day long, so if you can make a firmer connection than text message, do so. Its for your own benefit.

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