Guys, I really need your advice on this one!

There is this girl at work who is in a relationship for 5 years, and she is living with her boyfriend 4 years. That day we talked on work over IM and I was talking like her boobs aren't natural and I have to try them and those kind of stuff and her reactions was funny, I felt like she isn't like "I have a 5y relationship, fuck off".

We chatted whole day over FB and in the evening we started this sex talk and it came to the stage where I talked to her what would I do to her in bed and then she wrote the same things and basically I led her to an orgasm with some sex story. She told several times that she is a terrible person, I said "OK" and we skipped the subject. That night her boyfriend wasn't at home because he went to visit his parents.

So now, 3 days after she is on a vacation with him. I really don't know how to play this, we will see each other at work in about 10 days for sure and should I wait until then and try to escalate things again, even tough she wont be alone home again...or what to do? Because yesterday we talked and she was like "I did stupid thing, now I'm going to live with it" ...so what to do and how to act?

Leave it. There's plenty of other girls. You fell into recovery by getting sexual. She initially liked it because she was thinking emotionally and was turned on. Once she came to her senses, she was filled with buyers remorse. Conversations on Facebook are dangerous too. Good chance the boyfriend will look at the message thread at some point. I would keep things professional and agree with her that you guys should not have done that. Agreeing with her saying you shouldn't do it again is also the most likely way to move the subject forward anyhow.

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Oh quit it. There's no reason for him to leave it.


@OP:

Don't argue with her or try convince her otherwise. Just agree and even amplify whatever she says. If she says "I'm a terrible person" just say "Yeah, the worst kind".

Also treat her as if her boyfriend doesn't exist. He should be none of your concern. Don't even acknowledge his existence.

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You're going to fuck up another guys relationship just because you're a weak bitch with a scarcity of options? Lol. If she does it to this guy, she'd do it to you. Fact is, you'd deserve it.

If you're really gonna go with it... just let her comeback on her own, cause she definitely will. Unfinished business.

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Thank you for advices, I think I know the direction now and how to play this one.. we'll see what happens