This Girl at work just does my damn head in, I ignore her (and have done for a while) but I still see her walking past my desk and looking at me (often at the same time of day when I am chatting with other Female co-workers) but here is where I just don't know how to act around her anymore, a few weeks ago I sent her a work related email and we ended up discussing some movies.

She was replying to these emails but come the next week and I am called into a meeting with my Boss, who said I know you were just being Friendly with the emails but he told me that she doesn't want to be Friends with me anymore and that she didn't know how to tell me, he asked me to stop emailing her and I have, he also said that she would be civil and cordial but if dirty looks and hanging around where I am is being civil and cordial then I am really confused.

I told my Boss that it didn't need to get this far (but she might have been exacting revenge as I spoke to my supervisor about the uncomfortable looks she had been giving me) and I asked her months ago to meet me for a coffee so we could settle our differences but she just ignored my message.

I am not leaving my job, I am good at my job and well liked and respected by many but this Girl seems hellbent on punishing me, paying me back and making it known she is pissed off about God knows what and she has cut off all communication so how the hell do I move forward here?

She has also got a few of her Friends offside with me, but I don't care as if they are weak enough to believe her bull**** then they weren't Friends of mine in the first place, she is really irritating and has got under my skin but I just don't want to pay her any mind anymore.

Why does she waste so much energy on me?, I just can't understand her or the situation and isn't this really unprofessional behavior on her part?
I'm pretty sure that management can see how petty this all is and it could have been resolved a lot earlier.

Also my lovely Wife and I are expecting and she was the only one on my team to not congratulate me.

Has this ever happened you?, what is your advice please?

I just want all of this BS drama out of my life, I have a child to think about now, how do I get her to stop and at least be civil in the workplace?

Ignore her?

And if it's work related just keep it work related?

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Why does she waste so much time on me?

Makes long winded post on forum.

Ignore her.

I don't think this is a problem you're having with her. I think its a problem that you are having within your ownself. There is no way should be allowing yourself to be pushed and moved by someone who doesn't exist in your life outside of the job, and has no relevance to your future with your wife and new born child.

You appear to be the immature one here. And she's getting off from the power she's able to feel from prying on your weakness. Its become a game for her, and now she's just having fun with you for a little excitement at work. You're falling for this hook line and sinker.

Whats stopping you from completely behaving as if she doesn't exist? Do you need everyone to like you? In what world does that happen?

I don't like everybody, so I don't expect everyone to like me. Let it go man.

Don't even make eye contact. Don't look her way, When she walks by keep your face on your work. It will be hard at first but you have to exert some self control here. This post sounds like it was written from the mind of a 7 year old child.

You're better than this man. Every bit of your life is tied in together so if you allow someone to effect you negatively at work, that stress will ripple into other areas of your life. Your wife wants to see you stronger than this and I'm sure you're child does.

PM me.. I have a little info I can give away to you to help if the whole "ignoring" is asking you for too much. .

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Please don't tell me it's the same girl from this post: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=184277
If it's the same girl, I warned you back in October that this is drama. If it's not the same girl, we are learning that you are the problem and not the women because a pattern is emerging.

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Busted.

I don't get why this is being discussed on a pick up forum? I think you secretly want to boink her

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Lolol nice find. Some people have to learn the hard way.



I been there and done that.

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Yep same Girl, I just wanted some advice, I realize that a Pick Up forum was not the ideal place for this sorry, but you Guys are experts and I just want this Girl to end all of this drama.

I am not leaving my work or ever going to cheat on my Wife and my Wife knows everything about this Girl, I just want some peace at work, if it is a game for her then why is she so quiet during the day and look really unhappy/angry?

The games are the looks and the petty trying to make me jealous by going for lunch and coffee with other dudes, but I just don't care.

I ignore her but I just want us to be civil you know?, she cut off all communication with me so I have no idea what to do but this bullshit affects other coworkers, management is now involved and I am just tired of it.

Thanks for all of your comments, Eddie Fews thanks for your brutal honesty...

"Don't even make eye contact. Don't look her way, When she walks by keep your face on your work"...that is what I do but sometimes we do make eye contact by mistake, I just look away.

Told you the above in October. I dont know who is the crazy one here, you or her..regardless, take the weird glances and dont say anything to her. You have a wife and a kid on the way...and a girl's staring at you or not talking to you is a problem?!

You well want her. You're the crazy one here

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The "experts" advised you before and you didn't listen. Instead you decided to listen to your dick and put yourself in this position. You need to grow up and make good decisions.

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No man, I want the awkwardness to stop as other coworkers have been asking me questions, I told her almost a year ago that I was married and have never come onto her.

I don't think I'm crazy and she has been hell bent on punishing me for whatever reason, I've had other Friends say to me that she feels like I rejected her, ignoring her is not working a double making me look unprofessional.

I don't want her, she irritates me and her voice and laugh make me cringe, I just want peace at work, we work on the same team.

Stop bullshitting. You wrote all of this:

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This is like when you see those girls that keep talking about that arrogant asshole that keeps teasing her who is full of themselve. But in reality, she is invested and attracted otherwise she would ignore them.

This is the same thing, you are defender of her purity, you like her but you don't want anyone else to have her. You like the taboo. I often thought about my gf's sister whilst I fucked my gf. It's kinda natural and common sinceem instinctively want variety.

This seed will grow in your brain and thrive, you probably fantasize about her when you fuck your wife. The more we talk about it, the worse it gets. You're expecting a baby, you got a wife. Secure that shit before it ruins your life. Accept that this chick is not gonna be single forever. Be happy for her. Move on. Seriously. You missed your chance and you have chose to be monogamous. Deal with it

Stop deluding yourself. So either you ignore her or fuck her. I'm not judgemental.

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That was months ago bro people can't change their minds?