Hello, Im New here and so far i enjoy my stay

So heres my (sad) Situation:
I had anxiety for about 4 years ( i am 18 SPAM), i don't have as much anxiety but im willing to get Rid of it (by doing the newbie mission and other missions) Get Self Value and Learn how to be attractive outside and inside.
Also,i met this girl a year ago (online) and we still talk ever since, but as all you can guess, it didnt go too well, i was a Nice guy and she even called me a pussy at some point and long story short it was a hellish situation, and now she has a boyfriend who gets jealous, fights with her because she talks to me (we are ..or were close friends)
I will be traveling next year, if not sooner. by coincidence im going to where she lives, since i like her, i want to have her, even though i seem like a total ass dick for wanting to get a girl who has a boyfriend, but i think i will be able to do much better.
now i am not here to "Get laid and get a bunch of hot girls", I simply want to Improve myself, be a better man and have enormous confidence, get that one girl that i want and end it there.

so i was looking for Advice, on where do i start? what will i learn? is it possible to do what i seek advice for?

Thank you all for reading!

Let her get out the relationship on her own, don't be the reason. If a girl is willing to jump from relationship to relationship she's got an insecure attachment style and don't be fooled into thinking she'll somehow treat you any different when the chips are down (e.g., she gets bored, meets a hotter dude etc).

So you're not here to get a 'bunch of hot girls' but you ARE here instead, to seek advice on obtaining girls with bf's ?


You simply lost your chance with her in the 1st place and have this big deep regret haunting you...

Man up.

This place isn't all about lay count, it is about obtaining:
• THE SKILL
• The confidence
• The competence

And then move on to the next area of your life.

Listen, move on to more girls. Go online and do the same thing as you did last time, but this time, Make the god damn move and avoid the friendzone. We all have anxiety. You just need to harness that energy and turn that shit into action. The guys who have the skill have earned this. It's your turn. BE GOOD WITH WOMEN INSTEAD

Get to it. Get it done

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No, im not here to get girls with boyfriends, im here for a Specific Girl, obviously i want to learn all i need to know and use this skill to get the girl i want, by being better obviously

She.has.a.boyfriend.

Getting specific girls is what the community calls 'oneitus' - look it up.

You earn the skill and if she happens to become single you can try again with your newly honed escalation skills

It's not the answer you're looking for but it is the best answer you're gonna get. I'm pretty sure everyone reads this is cringing as much as I am?

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Ironically, the best way to get the girl you want is by coming back a brand new person. Sounds like you are in the friend zone and my recommendation to you is to be less available. You aren't ready to tackle the girl of your dreams, but that is okay. Remember that girls are disposable. Stop putting them on a pedestal is one thing you have to ingrain in your head. Once you put a girl on a pedestal, unattractive behaviors manifest and since you are a rookie, it is pretty hard to catch yourself and you will end up digging a hole for yourself that will be hard to crawl out of.

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I can agree, i should stop investing so much, it already seems unattractive since there is a girl who pretty much is all over me and i find that annoying, what i have to do is sadly accept the fact she is taken and develop myself, when she is single again use what i learned to my advantage and "get the girl"
thank you for the reply, im still a rookie so i need to learn

Also,she knows i like her, so do i just lie about not wanting any sort of relationship or lie that i dont like her anymore and that i just want to be friends? how do i approach this?

Embrace the friendship. Don't ignore her, just act like a friend. I am sure she will invite you out on a night on the town and she might even introduce you to her girl friends. This never hurts. She could be your wingwoman in the meantime, remember to come back more attractive than the last time you have seen her. Don't bring up the discussion that you like her. I am sure she won't bring it up. Just embrace the friend thing.

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Indeed, i wont talk about liking her, but what if she asks if i like her still? my best response would be "lets not talk about that, i have no interest in relationships at the moment"
when i do meet her i will indeed be more attractive compared to my first time meeting her

If a man that has never shot a basketball a day in his life came up to me and said " Hey man, I need help. I have a basketball competition on friday and I have to play Micheal Jodran! I have to win this game man. I want to be a great shooter, a good dribble and a tight defender. How do I win?"

What could I tell him?

This is what you're saying when you - A guy thats never been too confident - is trying to get with a girl who both friend zoned him and is currently taken. Thats two strikes against you. You're driving behind her on a one way street asking how do you get ahead. And you have no prior driving skills before this moment..

This is where you have to be realistic man. I'm not saying not to try, because you have to try. This is what is going to build your confidence for the future. You go give micheal Jordan your best shot and take the lessons you learn from the experience to make you a better player. But you can't realistic expect to win the game man.

You have to be willing to lose the girl to get her. This is going to take months if not a couple years of building your confidence and self esteem to the level that will prepare you for such a battle.

Go out there and begin training. Do the newbie mission and come back for the novice mission. The sooner you get to work the greater your chances will be, but theres no direct advice you can be given at this level that you will successfully be able to execute.

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I am willing to do all it takes honestly.
if i will lose this game against Jordan, i can always train and train and come back and outplay him.
I want to Improve, because i want a better life, im tired of being sad over something like this, i rather face these tasks and learn from them and use them in the future to get what i want, it wont be easy, but im willing to try. thank you for the great advice