I'm a female, not a PUA, but a tease and I need your input boys.
I'm a vet student, he's a vet resident and (then) my teacher. From Day 1, he gawked. For 2 months, his stares were intense. I never led him on, nor did he ask me out. After the semester ended, I found out he moved to another city. So I sent him a message.

For the next 3 months, it was a roller coaster with this man. He called, and called, we SPAM, great chemistry, but I was very clear with him - I could only provide a fling, he wanted a girlfriend. I told him not to call. He didn't.....until 2 weeks later.....then another 2 weeks later. That he missed our conversations, etc.

Finally, he came back to his city and called me. We went out for drinks.
It was so much fun - we were flirting, playing footsie, slapping each other playfully....He picked me up in his arms, tried to kiss me....but I tend to be a big tease and withdrew. It was really such a fun date, big time seduction. He wanted a French kiss and I gave him a peck on the lips.

A day later after our date, he calls, but with an aggressive undertone (he's a narcissist). I tell him teasingly I'm busy toying with another man (insider joke between us). He says cut the BS. Sends me a text later saying he's sick of mind games, he's done for good. 5 minutes later, he texts, then texts again. Goodbye for good.

I call him, he picks up and says later. Messages me a day later asking why I called. I get angry, don't respond. Few hours later, he calls, says he deleted my number, he's DONE with me but....is there something important I want to tell him? I say, you're done with me, why should it matter? "Of course I'm done but are you sure there isn't something important you want to tell me?" I tell him no.

I'm angry because I wanted to have a good time with him. It's like walking on egg shells with him at times.
Each time he'd say I'm not calling you again...then call.

Will he call me again? It was such a big seduction. He never got the French kiss, just teasing here and there.
If you've ever watched Dark Shadows, that's pretty much our relationship - hate with this underlying burning sexual tension.

He sounds like a guy who's been screwed with in the past, to me.

You'll find quite a collection of them here. It's a driving factor in a lot of guys who start to learn pickup.

Maybe he's a user here and will see your thread?

Seriously though - cut the shit. Mind games are annoying to the uninformed, and a lot of what is taught here is how to react properly to those games, and dish them out yourself. To flip the script and become the tease ourselves.

My advice to you would be to call him and have a serious heart to heart with the guy. Tell him what you want (sounds like you now want a relationship and not just a fling). He's probably been hurt before by the games - so don't play them if you'd like to make it work out.

Soooo....you're purposely teasing, toying and a playing games with him and you wonder why you're getting erratic behavior from him?

Chicks

I told him from Day 1 that I could only offer a fling. I repeated this over and over again. He said no, he wants me to be his girlfriend.
That's when the games started. I take responsibiliy for this.
I don't understand what's so difficult about having a fling, a good time and leaving it at that.

He's ditched out on me before so it's not like he's all innocent. Showing up late 1 hour for a date....not an angel.

You want a fling, he wants a relationship... ?

That's pretty much the end of the story, you are not compatible.

If a guy came here saying he wanted a relationship with a girl but she only wanted a fling, he would
swiftly be told to move on and find someone else.

Same goes for you, plenty of guys out there that are happy with just a fling (Hey ) - go and find someone you match with better.

He will call you back though, seeing as he hasn't stuck by any previous attempts to not contact you. But for his sake, I hope he doesn't .

I would of dropped you too.

Without thinking twice. You're trying to play some game. Sounds like you're following the instructions of some "how to flirt" or "how to seduce" online material from some woman who's probably just like you.

You're enjoying the emotional ride(because thats all you want), at the expense of his feelings and his honest investment. He'll call again sure, because he was foolish enough to let things go as far as they did. Why wouldn't he be foolish enough to call you when he's feeling bored, lonely, or horny.

If you want a fling, don't make a man over invest his time into to get any affection. The more energy and time a man invest the more serious he will become about you. You truly want a fling? Sleep with him sooner than later to preserve his investment and thus his feelings.

But truth be told, it sounds like you have some psychological "daddy" issues of your own you may want to work out before you consider dating anyone.

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Wait... Am I missing something here or was the initial post edited? Not really seeing how she played games...the guy sounds crazy and psycho.... Can you provide some clarification because I'm lost or missing something.

Are you the OP? Not sure why you would need clarification.. I think the best suggestion for you would be for you to give her your side of the story as opposed to asking me to explain my advice for her to you. Make sense?

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I told him repeatedly that I can only do a fling for now (long story behind why).
2 months back, I sent him a text saying we had to stop talking as I didn't want to mislead him.
He called every couple of weeks afterwards.

I did toy with his feelings but not in the beginning and only after I realized how easily it was to toy with him.

I like him but....I'm not comfortable being his girlfriend.

Then let him go. Sounds like my ex. Just go no contact. Let him know what's up and stick to your guns. I don't really blame him for what he is doing now. If you knew what he wanted you could have just let him be. I think both are to blame. He is foolish enough to keep going and contacting knowing you are playing games and you still toy with him knowing he can't handle them.

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Lol Eddie...why is it Everytime I ask you to clarify a point you get rude? Do you just say something and can't clarify where your conclusions come from? It's simple to say "oh I think she's playing games because she did xyz" Relax man...it was just a question and if you couldn't answer it better to just act like you didn't see it. Anyways..as I said my take was the guy sounds psycho. Hence I asked what's leading people to say she's playing games. OP you teased him for a kiss and even though you are mentioning the word tease and game I can't see how you teasing a guy for a kiss then he calls you acting crazy is your fault. This guy is just crazy and desperate from what this story sounds like. I'd advise you run from him. If he's acting nuts after SPAM some phone calls, a date and a kiss, the issues are with him not you. Sorry you may think you're a tease but you just found a crazy desperate dude who fell in love or some shit over SPAM. And Eddie..if a question is asked..just answer it dude..be able to back your opinion. Not come at someone sideways for asking you how you came to a conclusion.

Every time? Someones being a bit dramatic lol

And she's coming to post on a forum about a guy she's still interested in thats obviously nuts(i never doubted this, but he's not the one that came asking for advice.) and she's completely innocent? Like attracts like, if you're posting and desiring someone who's showing signs of crazy, wouldn't that reflect something about you? But of course she's not going to post her own faults - they never do. I'm reading between the lines; not taking something an emotional person is saying at face value.

The advice is for her, not you bro. If she needs clarification she'll ask, but maybe.. she knows what I'm talking about.

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Like does attract like. Not denying it that I too have issues of my own. Just that I always reminded him it's only a fling.
Just sad that it ended so nasty.
He deleted his FB so doubt I'll ever hear from him again.