I lack a real good social group. Just scattered friends here and there that don't really fit with each other.

Regardless I'm looking to make new friends who might become part of a collective strong group. Where do I find such people besides "meetup".com, tried that and it's results are weak.

Also how do you go about making good friends? I know it's a HUGE thing for girls to know you have some friends so this one messes me up because though I have some we really aren't close at all and rarely hang out

Make friends at school, or at work...for starters...the bar...just be open to anything and friends come and go.

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I wouldn't go make new friends in a Bar of all places. It's not an ideal starting point.

Guy, if you want to meet new people, start going to places / events where the type
of people you want to meet, hang out.

If you're into gaming, goto game shops or game cafes.

If you're into sports, join a soccer team or something. Be sure to score alot of points
to show people you have talent and you're not just there for a day thing.

Etc etc etc...You get the idea.

Good question, and essential, a good social circle will sky rocket your game. Even one good wingman can up your results by alot and even your life.

Meeting women is all about social dominance.

Okay here's how i suggest cultivating your social circle.

Where are you in life right now? working? studying? Chilling?
What is your location?
Where do you normally run across cool people you'd like to hang out with?

ask yourself those questions.

Girls and getting laid or drunk is one of the things MOST guys have in common, also sports and bullshit.

Connecting with guys is not that hard.

You must be proactive about this, be the one to initiate conversations, be the one to show interest and be the one to get their phone number so you can hang out and party some time or watever.
Is just like picking up girls , except picking up guys is much easier.

Its even better if the people you are meeting live near by and you can do things together.

So just gather contacts and come up with shit to do, boys night out, gym activities, hobbies, any guys shit.

The KEY here is to be PROACTIVE

Build your army.

It can be easy, or it can take time, but just the fact that you're trying is good enough to boost your confidence.

Also i would make female friends aswell, same fucking way.

So yea im tired of typing i think i said it all

Be Proactive !

You will eventually land a good wingman.

Dont be discouraged about your current lack of friends, everyone goes through that shit

Keep working on your life, hobbies, and maximize the shit you can do on your on, work on your style, hit the gym and work on having a cool personal life that you can draw new friends into. Thats very key as well.

Then you will have lots of wingmen options and be landing more pussy than you can handle.

Also the more guys you meet as a PUA the more you can learn shit from, check out their style, see whats cool about them and implement it into your personality.

Very cool shit.

Having Role models helps with that too.

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I go through loner periods and which I only want to hang out with myself and women I'm talking to. So i disagree with the philosophy that women like to know that you have friends. What women really like to know is that you are secure within yourself.

And security will attract friends. What you're searching for is not friends, you're searching for a level of comfort within your own being.

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Agree with Eddie on the friends things. I almost never even bring any girl I'm seeing around my friends. I could be a total loner for all she knows. I will only use my friends when I need to, if the girl is just not up for going out with just me.

That said, it's good to have friends. Friends are mostly formed by spending a bunch of time together. And honestly, that's usually pre-planned, semi-forced time. Whether it's work, a sport, a class, a church, it's almost always some planned and repetitive thing.

If you're in college, join clubs. Especially a frat(assuming you can get into a good one). If you're out of school, consider groups. There are a lot, like nature conservation, church groups, amateur athletics, the list goes on and on.

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Having friends has nothing to do with getting laid. I've gotten laid ALOT without friends.

What i will say though is, if you want positivity in your life, growth, inspiration, motivation and boosts, you should sorround yourself with cool people.

Girls tend to look at your relationship with other people and judge you by it, if you have cool friends it can definately help you score.

Or if you have a good relationship with friends it can also help you score.

And if you have a social circle which you can hang out with and even wings who can push you, you can definately score alot.

As a seasoned PUA, i'd say... focus on having a couple of friends you can call for anything... wingmanship... hangout... ect ect. it will keep your life balanced and in good shape.

I dont understand guys who just focus on their girlfriend and never hangout with anyone....

wtf is the point of being a PUA if you cant even have friends.. lol

I personally have a shit load of wingmen i can contact... and 2-3 closer friends i see often.. gym buddys.. and the whole shit.

Why? because alpha males roll in groups... ever heard of the wolf pack?

That loner shit is for bitches. No disrespect to all the loners out there.

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dtrak answered this super well. I agree - it's easier to make friends with bros than to get laid by chicks (and getting laid by chicks is f-ing easy). The only semi-tough part is finding awesome bros. I'm picky when it comes to women and with who I chill with - I like high-quality people. But there are millions of decent, cool bros and chicks out there so there's no excuse.

Joining a sports team is ideal - and Meetup.com does work. I do the things I'm genuinely interested in. Sure - a lot of the people aren't who I would want to chill with (I go to a lot of health or SEO meetups) but it's a good time and you will meet people that way. Some of them are bomb-ass people.

I've done a few beach gatherings through it and made some cool friends. Just get out there and be social. And the beauty is when you meet a few cool people they'll introduce you to their friends (and cool people tend to be in groups). You'll get there, bro.

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A lot of people have either made the point that you need friends and don't need friends...i don't really have a strong opinion here either way. I'm close friends with a bunch of girls, and bunch of guys, but like periods of being alone as well...so while you don't need friends to get laid, it doesn't hurt to have them.

Plus, you will meet people through them as well, so you up your chances of meeting a decent chick through them (the fact that you have a mutual friend and they have 'signed off' on you so to speak works in your favour in some cases)...but I wouldn't put all your eggs in one basket and purely practise social circle game.

But to make new friends, you have to change your mentality. You have to take the 'outcome independence' you have towards women and transpose that to your take on making new friends. If you have an expectation that this guy your chatting to in the bar is going to be your new best friend, chances are you will try and force it and let yourself down. You don't want to come across as to needy. But as others have said, part of becoming friends is being semi-forced to spend time together, so its a balancing act. Try doing group activities with people you meet and their friends...it reduces the pressure on all parties.

Below are some comments on reddit that hit the nail on the head about how new friendships are formed.

http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comme ... us/cldgys4

http://www.reddit.com/r/stopdrinking/co ... er/cin0qzl

Female perspective here.

A strong social network is an extremely attractive quality in a guy, both when you're considering whether to date them and when you're dating them. It doesn't need to be a huge group of friends (although I'll admit it is attractive when some guys have tons of connections and seem to know everyone and everyone likes them), but at least 2-3 good friends that they enjoy doing stuff with.

I would never admit this to a guy I was dating, but I do find myself more interested when he can't see me because he is going to a game with his buddies, or going on a riding trip or ski trip.

It's not attractive when a guy seems to have no friends and is available all the time to hang out with me, but we have nothing to talk about b/c he hasn't had any cool experiences while we're apart. Having said that, I do believe that there is a match for everyone and you will find some girls who are attracted to loners, but if you are looking to increase your pool of women then a good social network is key.

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wow i liked that female perspective response, on point advice !

We need more females posters here haha

I may also add, i am currently working on expanding my social circle of friends and being picky about it awell, the same way im picky about the girls i date and the girl i make my girlfriend, the same way i act when it comes to choosing guys i hangout with and developing relationships.

I've also noticed that my "PUA" skills can be used to attract men as well - NO HOMO :p

Example : I'll open guys at the gym who i think are cool and get their # to hangout, obviously as bros, im not trying to fuck them so the difference is you dont flirt hahahahaha. And i do it very under the radar, like if we're using the same machine.

You can do this virtually anywhere, you just have to keep your eyes open for opportunities. I think is beneficial to have male friends. Due to this whole pick up community bullshit guys get stuck on just picking up girls and focus on just that, but the truth is you could be getting laid alot more than by just doing cold approach. Its all about life style and how you choose to live your life. Cold approach is a must have skill, but dont be so linear. It can be used for everything.

As you wisk away the layers of bullshit you realize cold approach is a tool for life. This goes beyond women.
Gettin laid is the most simple thing in the world.

But having a well rounded, happy, fullfilling life is a whole nother story.

I know guys who have been with houndreds of women, and i myself could do the same, but whats the point?

Set healthy goals. Find your purpose. Get shit done.

*Peace*

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Heres a cool clip that explains the benefits of having friends as a PUA

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Didn't read through all the replies, so if some of these are repetitive I apologize. I moved to a new town after college and didn't know anyone. One easy sure fire way I made friends is by joining a basketball league. Had played all my life so I like it, was good at it and enjoyed it. Dudes would always be going for a drink after so I started joining them.
I also really like to shoot pool and have done that my entire life so I would go out by myself with the sole intention to shoot a few games and drink a few beers. Met a ton of people this way, male and female. Going to the gym is also not a bad way to meet people.

Also work was a good spot, even though many of the people I worked with were much older than me, I would go to work functions etc and meet all sorts of people.

I would suggest that your knee jerk response to anyone asking you to do something should be YES. Just start saying yes to any and everything. Even if it is out of your comfort zone. Ski trip? I'm in. Rock climbing? Sure. Drink after work, your in, country music concert? why the fuck not...Weekend BBQ? Yup I'm Down. Need help moving, I'm your guy. You get the idea. Just start saying yes to everything and you will be amazed at how many people you meet.