Hi guys. I am new to posting here, so hopefully this is in the right forum.

Heres the back story:

Around Christmas, I take out my work friends daughter HB8 (hes been trying to pimp her out to me for some time now) to a bar. She is actually a cool chick and we had a great time dancing, talking etc etc.

During the night, we run into a few buddies of mine. I introduce everyone then head to the bar to grab a couple drinks for me and the girl. I left her with my friends because I knew that they'd talk me up and vouch for me.

On the way to the bar, I meet a cute cougar who apparently has been watching me with the girl for some of the night. We immediately hit it off and she gives me her # saying we should meet up some time. I think nothing of it and go back to the Hb8 and friends until I end the night at the bar. Only got the make out at the end of the night because she was travelling the next morning and had to drive for 12 hours.

Immediately after I drop HB8 off, I text the cougar saying how fun she was and it was nice to meet her etc etc. Things escalate fast. She sends me some pics of her in her pajamas and i tell her how sexy she looks and then boom, she sends her address and im off to her house at 230 am.

I get there and we drink wine/talk for a little while a movie plays. I make the move we make out for awhile, i lick her nips, play with her vaj and she is squirming around.

We do not have sex. She tells me that it is really late and she is exhausted from work/going out. She tells me she is a perfectionist at sex and wants to be at her best (Is this LMR? WTF is this).

I stay the night for a couple hours then head to work at 630am. Later that day, we are texting. I tell her Id like to meet again. She tells me she'd LOVE to and to let her know when.

A few days later, we text for a little on NYE. I ask her to meet this coming weekend.

She send me a response the next day saying that her she is going out of town over the weekend, but she still would LOVE to meet. She needs to check her schedule.

I call her a couple days ago to plan a meet up since she sounds so keen, but I have heard nothing.

Now for my questions to the PUA pros:
Why is she showing interest saying she'd love to meet but taking so long to respond and now, not responding? I guess that she is extremely busy with work (she owns a couple businesses and is very wealthy), or simply not interested.

I still would like to meet with her again because she is sexy and I want to fuck her. What do you all advise?

Also, can someone explain her reason for not having sex on the very first night? Has that happened to anyone?

Thank in advance!

First of all, congrats on being a boss and picking up the coug while out with another chick. Impressive stuff.

It definitely is strange that she didn't bang you the first night. I've fucked my share of late 30s early 40s women and they seem to behave just like any other 20 something: don't want to come off as a whore but will sleep with you the same night if you play your cards right. As for me, whenever a chick gives me her address to come over I guarantee myself that I WILL get laid.

Maybe you were lacking that conviction? It seems like you escalated well enough but didn't overcome the LMR. It was definitely LMR, women come up with stupid crap like that all the time. It's hard to say because I wasn't in the situation at the time, but I think you probably weren't assertive enough. One thing that you could have tried if you like doing it was going down on her. Cougars tend to be a lot more open to letting guys do that than the 20 somethings who are still insecure about their private parts. If you're halfway decent at eating pussy you could have gotten her horny enough to bang for sure.

You want to be careful at this point because it seems like you're being too eager about meeting up and losing the appeal you once had. Honestly, you may have just missed the boat completely. Generally in my experience situations like that (meet someone, go to their place the same day until the wee morning hours to hook up) don't end up being recurring.

Don't just keep badgering her to let you come over. Offer to meet her out somewhere because she's more likely to accept that. And then put on the moves and bang her

Thanks for the reply bro. Thinking back, I should have been more assertive. I just assumed it was going to go down since she invited me over so late! (no experience with cougars)

Thats my mistake. So yea. I will let it lie for a couple weeks and reach out to her to see if she wants to grab a drink or something.

BTW, do you always eat a girl out the first time you fuck her?

When she told you she is exhausted did you try to make her massage and make her comfortable of the situation, that slowly and continuously make her horny? Just asking if this didn't work.

Of course. I was massaging her legs and body and she was responding to it.

After we fucked around for a while she just wanted me to cuddle her because she was so tired. It was odd and a bit disappointing.

So I just got a text from her after calling her on Wednesday.

Cougar: Sorry -- This week has been crazy. My daughter has been sick and I have been busy with work all weekend .

My response is a hour later

Me: Sounds rough. Hope this week works out better for you



What do you all think? Flaking? Teasing? actually busy? advice for me?

Don't get needy...keep filling your time with other things. Cougars are great, but they do have kids and work so it can be stressful...wait it out...keep flirting...keep the vibe up. Eventually you will meet up with her. I have been dating older women recently and they do lead busy lives...only see em once a week...if my games tight a little more but there's a schedule. Keep living your life...keep them in the loop, they will want to be part of it naturally.

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