I dunno if you guys have situations where girl agrees to date with you and in minutes/hours before the date time she calls/writes you on internet or send you SMS that she is busy or something happened and she asks you to go out some other day. Well i used to be in that situations few times and i wondered what does it mean and how to handle it.
To be sure that you understand me, i'll give you an example, for my last time that i fell in that situation. this Saturday i was chatting with a girl that i met half an year ago, so after chatting she suggested to go for a coffee and we decided to go out today. After number exchange and few messages i said i have some work to do and i'll call her tomorrow (Sunday evening, cause that's what we agreed ), then on Sunday at noon, when i opened my facebook i saw her messages telling me that something had happened and she couldn't come tonight, so she asked me to make it the next day (This Monday). Well i didn't want to seem like very interested in her and not easy going, so i said i'm busy (but i wasn't bussy) and suggested for Tuesday. She was like:
Pfff, ok
Than i wrote her back "ok" and i closed my browser.
Than that conversation triggered a question in my head. Is she really busy, or i did do or say something that mess the things. Also how should i handle that kind of situations?

Generally when they suggest another day they mean it.

If they cancel and don't suggest a second date its trouble.

Same goes for asking them out. If you ask them and they say they can't make it that day. If they're interested they suggest an alternative.


There's one thing though...In this community guys don't want to seem needy. Which is fine.
But women do want to feel pursued and attractive. There's a fine line between the two.
I show I'm interested in women all the time, but don't need them. It sparks their attraction.
It also has to do with rejection. (Sorry to ramble)

Thank you for your reply. I appreciate it. Well what i did was, to tell her i'm busy the day she offered and suggested her the next day. But i wasn't lying because later i wrote with other girl (that there is noooooo chanse to know each other ) so we decided to meet today. Now i received message and sms that she got ill last night and now she has temperature apolagizing me that she can't come and she said she will make it up to. I replied something like "sorry, i wasn't close to my telephone and laptop, but remember you have to make it up to".
Then i called the girl that i was talking at the beginning and we decided to date later this night.

When a chick talks to you one of the first few things she is going to do is feel out your boundaries. She is going to analyze you to make sure you're you're safe, secure, can provide security(whether emotionally, financially, or intellectually". So when by time you get to asking a girl out she already knows in her subconscious what you will let her get away with. And if a woman believe she can flake on you and still get your attention she may choose to take that option. Its probably been a few years since I've dealt with a flake because a girl knows when she talks to me that I simply won't tolerate it. You flake on me and you're out of my life for good. No second chances. Its not something you "say" its just something that get sub communicated through your attitude.

So I would suggest that you stop trying to remedy individual problems and put more focus on fixing the bigger issue. Train yourself to NEXT girls the moment they even think about flaking.

You have to make sacrifices to get the things you want and you may have to next 7-10 girls before this behavior is properly indoctrinated into your character. But once it is.. you won't have to deal with too many more flakes.

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My game until now is: I agreed with Girl1 to go out, she said something happened, then i agreed with girl Two to go out, than she got ill and I called next day to Girl One, that to go out. Then i played a little with girl two, than she asked me to choose the time, place and day for our meeting. So now i'm again with 2 dates. One with the girl1 that is later this evening and second date is with girl2 next Monday. Also i showed both girls that i'm not in need of them, but i also have some attraction, as someone suggested me. Also the girl1 invited me to a party tomorrow that she is hosting. It seems that both girls are interested in me.

I have been getting this kind of behavior with one girl lately....it was two times. I texted her saying that if she really wanted to meet up...get in touch with me...because I wanted to use my time wisely and I didn't want to make plans if they weren't going to go through with it. She's been chasing me a little ever since...but as you can guess..I put her in the back of the line. I am focusing on girls who aren't flaky and more receptive...so we will see. Same attitude you should take. If you're okay with a few times like I am go for it. Or you can be a one time guy and just next her. Up to you, but I don't really tolerate it after two times. I let them know.

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