So there's this girl, what's new right? Anyway..she's living with this guy and she's not only unhappy but feels trapped. We've known each other for about a year now and we really hit it off quite well. I'm trying to take things slow and eventually win her over BUT I'm trying to avoid over-stepping and look a fool. They are in one of those on-again-off-again relationships and are in her words,"not in a relationship" in the normal sense. I really care about this girl, and don't want to see some junkie keep her mentally locked down. I understand that this is a delicate situation depending on how it's handled as I've been in similar situations. In the past I simply flirted with the girl which led to her hiding it from her dude, thus resulting in getting her only to lose her to him again..understandable as she wasn't really ready to break up with the guy. This situation is a bit different, and she's very receptive and wants to take things slow-and-steady and has even accepted a date request to which I have yet to fill. She's been with the guy for 8 years give or take, and being that I've been in a similar situation I can fully understand how scary it is leaving, and the comfort in staying no matter the toll it takes on your own self-worth. I'm just curious if there's anyway to kind of...win her over without being over-bearing. I'm looking to kind of plant a seed that sprouts into something beautiful so to speak. Time is of no concern to me, as I am quite the patient person.

She won't develop any feelings for you until you have sex with her. So you need to have sex with her asap.

Just go with it. Don't think too hard. Do what you do best, you can't rush these things. Everything will come full circle. There's the straw man technique...look that up and give it a whirl. Later.


~Mr. A

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Quit being Captain Save-A-Hoe.

Ever think maybe she likes being treated like shit? Maybe she's comfortable in her toxic relationship? Maybe it only seems toxic to you?

Mind your business. Just do you. If she decides to leave dude and wants you to be her boyfriend instead... cool. But let her figure her own shit out. Don't do it for her.