This should be a good lesson for all men. Unless you have a wedding date and sent out invitations, you should never move in with your girl and she shouldn't be allowed to move in with you. When things are great, you'd never expect to end up like you did. Get yourself in order, fuck some new girls and walk them to their car when they leave.

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Damn, I'm still surprised when cold blooded shit like that happens. As Jack said, message to other men.

Oh best believe it happens. When that oneitis kicks in, believe that if you aren't at the top of your game, orbiters will always be there. She will call them guy friends, she will believe they are guy friends and not think of their advances too much at the time, but that's how the cookie crumbles at the end. Sometimes they won't be in until you truly fuck up. Then you realize that the girl you thought would never do shit like that evaporates like thin air. You're right, Jack, never move in until you truly know, we moved in together after a year. That was not enough time to get to know one another, especially living together...We drove each other crazy after a few months...but we did like each other strongly, it was a risk, and that risk ended here.

Funny thing is, she knew the guy liked her, she didn't really make him back off and she did not do anything physical or met up with him with him which I believe. She just kept him around just in case. I just should have ended things awhile ago.

~Mr. Assertive out.

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I just thought I'd post an update..

I can't just up and leave out of the lease, I am searching for potential roommates to replace her...on craiglist... She has agreed to leave. One potential candidate can't get out of his until August and he's one of my buddies. I like him. So i don't know if I want to wait for him in August or get a random on craiglist and get it done.


Lately my ex has been trying to tell me her day and stuff...asking me stuff about her outfit for work..if it looks nice...Ive just been like yeah yeah. Not really sure what to do here, can't really tell her to buzz off can I? Or can I? I don't want to sound rude...we are roommates for the time being...alot of shit has happened that I didn't tell you guys. She was assaulted in August and has never been the same since. I am not sure what really went down as she gets touchy whenever I ask for all the details...I believe she isn't all there anymore, something fell off. I am not sure what to do here...maybe she is doing me a favor and letting me go. Giving us time to assess our mindsets..She doesn't seem to like sex anymore and I am a sexual person...maybe she was touched during the assault...I forgot to mention this to you guys and I apologize. She talks about home a lot and her family...maybe she needs to go away for awhile. Heal there...I can't seem to help her.

help me out dudesss.

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Stop digging the hole bro.

Just set your mind on how you're going to move forward. She's remaining in contact because she wants to make sure she's making the right decision. Why don't you bring a girl home? I think that would be a great idea. Unless you're "worried" about what she would think when you guys aren't even together. Which is counter productive to your currently level of attractiveness.

Go out and bring a girl home.

Treat her like a friend. Embrace it. Take your mind off of trying to get with her and be her friend. If she asks about her outfits, genuinely tell her what you think. Stop being bitter. You know have an opportunity to attract a woman who's more worthy. You should be happy. You're free now. Go out and get the woman. Don't try and wait until its completely FINAL. Thats what betas and unattractive men who find themselves in these situations do. Get right back out there and get you a woman more worthy. Bring a girl home.

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I love this piece of advice and would second it if I thought OP were ready for the psychological games she'll play once he does it. I guarantee this cold hearted woman will bring a guy home afterwards with the goal of hurting OP.

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Okay. Eddie and JackZero. Gotcha. I have to do something ASAP, and I have been trying to! If I stayed home..I know I would have been screwed even more. I have been talking to girls and yes, I haven't brought them home because I didn't know if how she would take it. Screw it. I'll treat her like a friend, I will swallow the bitterness...even though it is tough. Better now than waiting later. I have recently been talking to a girl that has more ASSETTS if you know what I mean, so that's been giving me a little confidence boost. I'll bring a girl home. I'll listen, be patient with me guys, I was once up there, I regressed...let me climb back. Keep helping. I appreciate it.

Just one more thing though, how do I explain my current situation to the girls I bring home? Do i just not tell them? Do i just tell them it's a girl roommate from school, we just got along so well we decided to get a place? It's not like I am going to be doing one night stands all the time....I have done those and it's uncommon for me to like those.

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Tell her it's your roommate. I'm guessing that your ex will make it a point not to make a scene because she is the one who started talking about bring another guy home.

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I agree.. but don't mention anything about her saying she would bring a guy. You're doing this because YOU want to do it despite what she was going to do. " We're not together. So I don't even see why this is a conversation "

And yes. I'm 100% jack. Tell the girls its your roommate and nothing more. And i wouldn't bring it up unless they ask. How she feels about this is HER problem. Not yours or the girls. You're a single man.

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Alright guys, I'll keep ya posted!

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Update:

I still haven't brought a girl home....but I F closed one at her place. I have been suggesting it to the girls I have been seeing that I will invite them over and we can cook a feast...so it's only a matter of time. I am talking about it actively.


As some of you know I got out of a relationship 2 weeks ago. Ever since then, I have been pushing myself to get my shit together. I have been dating three girls and some are farther along than others. The first girl I started dating just asked me if "on a scale of 1-10, how much do i think about her"

Now the way I saw it was....if I told her it was a high number....then that would send signals that I want her only....would that be a terrible thing? I responded with "I don;t know lol....we keep in contact regularly don't we?"...

she responded

"ok"
"nvm"

you think that was harsh? I have been telling every girl I have seen that I don't know what I want. Because I f closed a girl yesterday (this girl isn't part of the three I am dating) and I didn't even like the fuck buddy status....so I have been telling girls I don't know what I want because it is true! Even a one night stand doesn't seem to cut it right now...what do I do in these situations?

If all goes well...I am supposed to go on a date with another girl at the end of the week and that will bump up the 3 to 4....blah...I want to get a handle of things before things get out of hand.

And I have been focusing on my lifestyle lately, so it's not like I am chasing tail 100% of the time. I am in a rut and i don't want get involved with anyone too quickly. I am enjoying the company though!


~Mr. A

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Thanks for the update.

Going off topic for a moment here: alas the curtain is pulled back.

THIS is often the average life of a woman.

Some guys think any cute girl is awash with LEGITIMATE offers (as in, the guy actually has the skills to successfully pull off an interaction) and sure that is the case in some instances, but the reality is many times closer to the quote above. Guys who actually make their desires known and who possess the ability to manage logistics properly are in the tiny minority. And this orbiter who may or may not be coming over isn't even one of them.

Back to the thread topic, good decision to move on with your life, OP.

I have F-Closed five girls since my breakup. But I still live with my...until April or May. That is when my friend moves in.


I have brought one girl home when she wasn't around...that was last week...that was the first step for me at least. Then I brought another girl around when she was around...lets just say she flipped shit.

background.

My ex asked me if the guy who's shoulder she was crying on during the final moments of our relationship can come visit in February (month has passed I know) BUT she asked me this only one week after we broke up. I told her no, I don't think that's the right time. Okay, so couple months pass and we both don't bring anyone home. I never re addressed the issue about having people over. Then last night happened...I brought a girl home and she flipped shit. Called me an asshole, that I denied her having that guy to stay last month, but I told her she asked me too early for that. I was in no state to answer that then or be okay with it.





Anyway, she basically tells me and this girl to leave and I do. She owns all the furniture in the house and was going on about that she doesn't want me fucking on any of them, blah blah blah. She really can't handle stress, her aunt recently died, she is going to court to confront the guy that beat her up, and she can't take care of herself. It is really hard for me to feel bad for her when she acts like a child/victim. She's a grown adult...like fuck...get your shit together or suck it up. I did address the R.I.P for her auntie though.

I only leave because I don't want the drama it might have unfold if I said fuck it and took the girl into my room and banged her. She threatened to not pay the remaining rent and to put all the furniture in storage.


I just took the girl home and just made-out in her driveway and did some foreplay groundwork for next time.


Funny thing is...today she walks by and asks if I ever had Marcos Pizza...and says they are really good.........

I'm like, are you freaking kidding me?

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IMO you wussed out, but hey.. i'm a lot more reckless so maybe you didn't.

I'd just never let a chick threaten me into doing anything.

I'd have that conversation with her now if i were you... Just say it.. " Hey, I'm going to start having chicks over.. you're moving out. If you wanna put the shit in storage so be it, but I'm having my friends over" -

To be honest, it sounds like you're still being the guy she wanted to "leave" and this is why she has yet to come crying back for you yet.

Take charge bro. You're being a bit soft in my opinion. But maybe the peace is worth it for you.

I'm all for going to war to leave my mark.

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