| The most common reason why girls ignore you is that they think you have low value, either because you are trying too hard, being too obvious, too boring or something like that. All these have the same thing in common - your mindset. You have a frame of wanting. You want her, and that's why she has power over you by ignoring you, making you wonder what you need to do to get her, trying "harder" in some sense.
Pickup is actually a game of power. Good game is about giving and offering value, making girls want you and chase you. So you need to turn the tables. Try less, go out and just have fun, have your own party. Make people want to be part of that party, share the fun. One way to get into that mindset is by quitting pickup, and go out just for the fun of it. No goals in mind, no outcome dependence, no trying. The only thing you need to do is to be social and open, let people in.
A more specific advice, if you find yourself in that situation that someone is ignoring you... If you have trained your brain and RAS (reticular activation system) to focus on positive things, such girls will immediately fade out from you consciousness and focus on other, more fun people. It doesn't only make you happier in the moment, more fun and "value giving", but also takes the power from the girl since you are ignoring her as well, and gives you social proof from other people in the venue. So if you still want that girl, she will probably come begging to be with you after a while since she has no fun on her own. There is still a possibility that she is a negative person who will sit there the rest of the night being grouchy, thinking everything sucks and then leave. If that happens you can be glad that you didn't waste time on her.
To sum it all up, just ignore her and focus on something else, something funnier.
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