| (TL; DR rant brought on by Ritalin and second-hand MGTOW below...need to take some easier courses next term and get my dick sucked. To quote Heath Ledger, "what doesn't kill you, makes you stranger.")
I think the big thing that tends to stop me has just been all the faux-alphas I've known who basically just borderline abuse their girlfriends to keep them around. The pathetic thing - in the sense that what makes you feel ashamed and sorry about the entire situation - is that because of how women apparently think, they just stick around to get used as toilet paper by these losers. This one kid I used to hang out with, right before we stopped hanging out found a girlfriend and it was just this downward spiral. He starts missing out on work because he's hanging out with her - it was the first opportunity he had had for anything like a real career, of course I wanted to help my friend so I had given him a lift to the interview and i told him, man, if you can't take the commute, borrow the money for a place closer to the shop and I'll help you move, then he basically throws in a douche move every fifteen minutes - it was to the point where she would loses weight and he would criticize the pace at which she'd lose weight. Then there was this other kid I used to hang out with whom after the fact it was pretty easy to tell had antisocial personality disorder. He'd basically just abuse and guilt trip his girlfriend into feeding and watering him while he rotted in front of the tube in the room his parents rented for them. Those guys are why I just have contempt for the sort of advice that portends to let guys get and keep girlfriends - because the reality is that it's some ghetto sociopath undermining some poor girl's self esteem so he can use a snatch instead of his hand.
Then on the other side, guys who do have their shit together and go for a committed relationship just seem to get fucked over - i.e. my rich uncle's fuck up son and his controlling bitch of a wife who isn't even his baby mama - I gotta say I basically lost any respect for him I had when he got married, and the grapevine gossip about "she keeps him in line" combined with the social snubs and rudeness basically paints the whole picture. I could kind of feel for what he wanted to do when he fought his baby mama for custody to keep her from giving the child up for adoption, but spending your dad's money to play house with some bloodsucking harridan is just pathetic. Then you can look at the guys from small ass towns with brutal social pressures shackling themselves to pretty meh broads strictly so they can say they have a gf - that sounds less appealing than a sandpaper enema and just makes me glad as shit I live in the suburbs. It's probably better THAN prison, it just doesn't SOUND any better. The older guys with whom I did construction would talk about how they would only let their wives suck their dicks since they cheated on them, or have a look of death on their faces, bitching about how their wife who was dying of some kind of terminal illness wouldn't do an open marriage even though she was at the point where she had no libido or talk about constantly having to police their girlfriends from nailing the even older guy who lived next to them. My impression is that it's definitely a tiny minority of more-or-less self-made people predominantly in and from professional backgrounds who seem to be the ones with functional relationships, and even then it's not like there's never a divorce and the prenup won't always hold up. Hell, this one kid with whom I went to high school now LITERALLY drives racecars for fun because of the success of what he built out of his high school business - sex life ENTIRELY built on that - the one fly in the ointment is his older wife who basically lives in his house and keeps taking business course after business course and breaking his stuff in fights while constituting this sort of perennial puzzle of what to do if she ever goes for the lawyers.
So...the way North America is set up as a society, the way our sexual mores and family law are set up, I think men are increasingly programmed to hate women. Real rapists can hide from accusations for decades and fake rape victims can rip apart innocent boys' reputations and futures in seconds. Maybe this is something that's really broken, maybe naturally gender relations were going to collapse to the point where a literal cad (in the sense of one who abuses the gentleman's book of signals for ungentlemanly ends) is a frankly elevating influence on how men and women interact, maybe the late-19th to mid-20th century version of respectable marriage with accepted and discrete outlets for male impulses was the exception and if dismantling it is a necessary corollary of the second sexual revolution, then so be it, I don't have any hate for guys who bat for the other team, but the bottom line is, game fills a niche on this continent. I think PUA sort of has this golden halo around it as something that promises to exempt the 99% of North American men who don't have a racecar out of the fucked-uppedness of what our culture has been turning into. Let's face it, some guy who's JUST a player, who JUST manipulates social signals to get consensually laid without commitment by women who meet culturally-determined standards of beauty and behaviour, is in a lot of ways one of the more optimistic and subversive figures in this part of the West. He gets to hold on to this slim thread of some echo of idealized uncoerced romance, and he gets to sidestep the relentless misogynistic programming of how North America otherwise sets up gender relations. The player can afford a sunny view of gender relations radically at odds with the reality for AFC 99%ers. He doesn't need to conform to materialistic norms or compromise his own legal or moral integrity - by temperament or effort he's been given a sunny spot unshadowed by the menacing social pressures on North America since, I dunno, the '90s or something. I guarantee you those hetcis males who are actually trapped in a real long term relationships under prevailing North American conditions are a million times less sanguine than players and playboys when it comes to the value of the other hetcis gender. There's either going to be some point where PUA advances to the next level to let non-elite heterosexual cisgender men on this continent continue to have at least a promise of their outlet, or the backlash against the rad fem critics and the family courts is going to become part of what turns our greater culture into something else. Things changed in a big way when they hunted down all the mammoths and giant sloths and things are going to change in another big way if they ever hunt down all the players. Men who have ethical coitus with more women are inherently more sympathetic to women's concerns. They can sidestep the whole coercive socioeconomic rubric that relegates a plurality of AFCs' perceptions of women to professional inferiors, social threats, or potential victims. I don't have to like how our culture is for it to be how it is. I don't doubt the women who want to be valued for their own legitimate merits hate it too. I still have nothing but high-fives for the guys who can figure out how to opt out.
(Cheap reliable consumer grade cloning and virtual reality would basically let both hetcis genders mutually exclude one another from their physical spheres of existence, resolving the legal and moral tensions implicit in the radfem popular orthodoxy, while satisfying human sexual and parental instincts. That or the champagne socialist bullshit against women selling their eggs is going to snap and we'll move to an explicitly transactional relationship between genders, where women who don't clear the increasingly high bar for other services demanded by the market will just literally become sources of and incubators for genetic material and explicit prostitution is mainstream. You can't eat radfem orthodoxy.) (That or North America will just stop existing as a culture - the American dollar and financial system will keep on going as the bedrock of global exchange, imperialism and consumerism will go on being social forces on a global scale, but America as a culture per se will just cease to exist and ex-Americans will migrate into either some more generic form of Western identity or else identify with the forms of some other civilization, perhaps the way Japan decided Chinese culture was the bomb in the first millennium, North Americans are just going to get sick of their own indigenous forms and adopt, I don't know, Muslim culture. You can't just keep presenting the 40% of your population traditionally expected to build the structures of civilization with a system designed to fuck them over and expect something not to give, and what doesn't bend is going to break. Nobody is going to defend a system that doesn't even realistically promise to benefit them.) (Alternatively, we go the route of classical India. We develop an ultra-conservative superficial culture, the real rape rate goes through the roof, and social mobility seizes up.)
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