Make a move on her.

When she is ready for an exclusive relationship, she'll tell you - it should happen naturally.

All you need to do, in the words of Corey Wayne, is: Hang out, have fun, hook up.

Trust me on that one.

Arrange one date per week (avoid over-texting) and don't do the whole typical dinner date thing. Do something in the evening, but something different.

After about 2 months I'd be shocked if shes not pestering you to see her daily (its ok to, as long as she initiates 80% of the texts/calls) and in love with you.

Sounds a little too "by the book" but it's the general rule that I live by, and it works a treat.

I think it may be against the rules to say this, but... go check out Corey Wayne on YouTube. He has his website on his videos, and you get a free copy of his ebook in the members section when you sign up (also, free) - read it 10-15 times like he says, and you'll probably get the girl. If not, you'll get someone better.

That book changed my life, and I thought I knew my shit before then!

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Damn it! I want out dancing tonight, and actually ended up with some pretty heavy kissing with an attractive woman on the way to her afterparty. It was a result of my willingness to do some suble kino on her while we were dancing, and she was the one taking the initiative for the kissing. It seems like there is actually a lot of "risk free" moves that one can make, sort of just checking out the temperature without committing to anything. This whole oneitis thing is temporarily totally suspended. I want to understand these dynamics to a much larger degree. This is only the beginning. I would never have done that suble kino on her if it wasn't for PUA knowledge. It seems like most men are trapped in some sort of "all or nothing" dichotomy, not seeing what a vast field of in-between suble moves / checking out the temperature kind of territory is going on. So grateful!

So yesterday I called my oneitis-girl, which I stopped hanging out with approximately 1,5 month ago because my feelings for her were too strong, and she had to tell me she didn't feel any sexual connection with me, she only saw me as a friend, so my plan was to tell her I needed pause, but actually drop all contact with her like forever, remove her from facebook, etc, in order to get over her.

However, she is moving to another city in only a few days, and I wanted to see her before she moved, so I called her and told her it would be nice to see her, so today we hanged out for 2 hours, and I used all the new things I learned, and we had so much fun together, and my feelings for her were actually not overpowering me like they have used to, so I was taking much more initiative, being proactive, taking charge in creating a lot of fun for us, in stead of waiting for her permission to do things. I also focused on interrupting her when she was getting lost telling about boring stuff from her own life, and brought our mutual attention more to something that was shared in the moment between us, creating more spark and eye-contact, instead of she spacing out into something boring shit and loosing eye-contact with me. I also told her much less about my own pseudo-therapeutic process with life, etc, and at one point she actually said "so what else is going on in your life? you seem so secretive!" She was annoyed and intrigued at the same time, and it made her invest more in me, asking me much more questions about my own life, and referring to stories of value that I had told before, because it wasn't for granted that these things were given to her freely and in too large doses. I also didn't speak anything about me wanting to be in a relationship with her, or any of that stupid fucking crap that I have killed the romantic vibe with so many times before.

So when we said goodbye, I lifted her inside again, so we could have a better position to give each other a long and good hug, instead of me leaning out of the door to hug her, and then the most beautiful thing happened. She totally melted into my arms like I have never experienced, and she was breathing really deeply and heavily, making sounds that almost sounded mildly sexual. So I stopped hugging her, looked her deeply into the eyes, and she smiled and laughed, so I rubbed my nose against her nose, and she rubbed back, and then I dived in to kiss her, and she kissed me back, and laughed mildly, so I kissed her once more, and told her it was so good to see her again, and she left smiling and with great sparkle in her eyes. Before she has always given very insecure and sort of rushed vibes when she has left, but this time, after our kissing, she seemed much more relaxed about keeping eye-contact much longer.

I had no idea these PUA things would have had such a great effect!

Especially reading Corey Waynes book has helped so much.

But I have also gotten very many extremly good replies on my question on this forum.

After all this tension and build-up that has been between us for 6 months now, I feel pretty confident that I don't need to do anything at all anymore. When I have given her all this crap for so long, and still she is capable of melting into my arms that like she did today, I don't need any confirmation that she really likes me. Also, I feel satisfied because now I can look back at it no matter what happens and know in my heart that we had something going on, and that I wasn't just some stupid friendzoned guy falling in love with someone way out of my league that only used me as a therapist and strait gay male friend. We have something real going on.

I guess we're going to continue to see each other now, and probably things will escalate on their own, and I'm not really so sure I want to be in a relationship with her anymore. Perhaps I would, but it is not so important, what is way more important is understanding all the different aspects and schools and practices of PUA, so that I can become someone who has cracked the code when it comes to women, and life, and masculinity.

Any thoughts, recommendations or motivational comments on this latest development?

This really rocks! Thank you so much, guys!!!!!

Dont go all oneitis/clingy mode. Keep your opttions open until SHE says that she wants to be in a relationship. Never get complacent and neglect her either - the courtship never ends.

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Solid thread dude. Similar situation to some degree on my end except my friend is 41 and I'm 30 haha. Anyway, I just decided to stop contacting her and that was because of the date she setup with me and cancelled several hours before without reschedule. We've been friends for a while and I actually started developing stronger feeling for her when I got back in town several months ago after being away for a while. I never actually knew there were PUA forums for dudes to get tips on situations like this. I mean some of these tactics actually work if put into place correctly. I can agree with @Eddie F when making moves.

My problem was that I had the idea for so long in my head that she was my friend and nothing other than that while hanging out. Had multiple opportunities to score but overlooked it. Well you live and you learn. I'm currently just on the back burner with this particular girl and just waiting to hear back. If she doesn't I won't contact her again at all. Meeting other women is the best thing you can do. Especially if you live in a big city. Sometimes they find us.

Yeah, it was the same for me, didn't think about her as anything else than a friend to begin with, although I think I wasn't really honest with myself about the level of attraction I actually felt for her.

So, dumping her as a friend for 1,5 month, to which she had tears running down her cheeks when we parted, and then, meeting again as a much more confident guy, etc, actually ending up saying goodbye with some very romantic kisses. Any chance those kisses, with all the background we have by now, could have been enough to activate "everything" for her as well?

I'm going to give her a lot of space before I contact her again. I think she will be afraid that I will start to chase her again after that, so probably giving her space to process seeing a different side of me is the way to go?

She is in the middle of a moving to another city process, as well......

Yeah I think it would be best to just keep moving forward. Plenty of other women out there.

It's funny as fuck how women are moving to different states to get away from you desperate morons.

WEAK

FEMININE

I USED TO BE LIKE THIS, JUST STOP IT. Start lifting weights or chop down a tree to feel manly again....!