You're really threading on thin ice as someone else said. Better to have made the invite in person. If you want to proceed, you gotta know you risk losing your girl and this girl. I can't tell if she really liked you but she's already covering her ass. Even if anything ever happened between you 2 get ready to be thrown under the bus

1. If she tells your girl about the facebook thing that means you have to proceed a bit more carefully.
-If your gf asks why you added her, say that all of yall are friends. Look at her wierd. If she brings it up after that, deny deny deny. Act like she is crazy for suggesting that there is anything behind it. "I have friends on facebook I haven't talked to in years, but we actually go out with Amanda, so I sent a request, quit over thinking this, it's facebook!" Keep that stance.

2. All contacts with this girl either over phone or facebook should sound innocent. All escalation should be in person, period. Don't leave a trail and give your self the ability to deny later in case shit goes down. Its not only that the girl could show it to your gf, it's also that Amanda's BF might see some shit. So keep that in mind.

I've done exactly this thus far. My girl was suspicious and I said we went out with her, I have hundreds of friends on fb, ect.

Problem is, Amanda hasn't accepted the request yet. To message or not to message, that is the question. I havn't asked her about the christmas gift thing yet.

Until she accepts I'd go no contact. Personally I'd let this die down a bit, and the only contact I'd have with Amanda is if your girl wants to invite her out again.

And seriously, put your foot down with your girl. Adding someone on facebook? Adding a girl you actually hang out with and has a bf on facebook? That should not be suspicious. Did she ask about it innocently or did she act like what you did was wrong?

Either your girl is extremely perceptive and can smell this shit a mile away or she has jealousy issues.

She has jealousy issues...and I told her I don't have to explain myself to her, its facebook and I have hundreds of friends.....she also shows jealousy alot and suspicion, and I let her talk about it to me but I don't change my ways to please her....she has trust issues, am I doing enough or should I do something else

she brought it up by saying "so I got a text from amanda of a guy who messaged her on facebook" I think it crosses a boundary a bit, it is like a window into my life and I am not on facebook so I want really nothign to do with it....if you post something on there it kinda reflects badly on me (about other girls or something)

it all came down to she is jealous of me having contact with her friend, tho.

Lol so you flirt with her friend, then add the friend on fb to fuck her and your gf has jealousy issues? Granted you said you aren't serious about her and you don't give a fuck.. She's just perceptive.

Keep your fram strong and keep at it.

Oh, and your gf isn't on facebook? Wierd.

And when she says "if you post something it reflects badly on me" call her out on that bullshit. That's a stupid way of saying it. "You might embarass me if you know my friends on facebook".

You can listen to her points of view, but do not change your actions. You don't want her to think that she controls who you are friends with and be the boss of whether you can be friends with someone on facebook.

Hey op if you dump this girl introduce her to me i like girls who don't obediently follow the masses i.e. having a facebook/twitter/and all of that.

So the friend accepted me. But I told my girl to tell the friend to accept, and she won't have a say in who I friend on harmless facebook. She says it was the friend who went to her and that she didn't think it was a big deal but that she doesn't understand facebook social dynamics.

As far as the "reflects badly on me" part, I think she is referring to my contact with other girls on facebook and such. She has expressed concern in the past regarding making her look stupid by talking to other girls ect.

I actually feel bad for the gf. When you hit up her friend to go out, the friend is gonna tell her and others so everyone is gonna say xs bf is trying to fuck me. Dump her or at least cheat properly. I dunno.. Maybe she's cheating on you too so it doesn't matter.

You're fucking stupid.

You play the game she wants you too play.

As a general close social circle game : never talk about what you do and expect everything you say to be told to everybody in the circle. Do you know how validated that girl would feel if you try it up on her? She is mean just fucking mean. That facebook screenshot is just mean.

There is no good end to the story unless you fucking man up and turn into ice to whoever is not your girlfriend.
I know exactly what will happen, if u do end up sleep with her she will have tons of excuses and will immediately tell your girlfriend. Obviously, they will both turn cold to you. Oh and she didnt accepted ur facebook because shes NOT your friend and I woûd highly suggest you to interact as less as possible with her just because she is not worthy. Beautiful outside means jack shit.

My word of wisdom :
Turn cold as ice right now.
Deflect any escalation on you like a gentlemen in love with someone else.
If you really need to cheat, find an unrrelated girl that cannot lnow much about you in any way or form possible.

Remember kid, nothing in life is easy... When it is... Usualy its a trap.

Oh and by the way, she proly dont want to sleep with you that much. Seriously trying will only make her feel validated and have the story of oh im so beautiful i didnt do much but ur 7 years relationship is bullshit we should both turn him off and the worst is that she is gonna be right... Why would she wants to be with you when u act like a total jerk to your gf.

Youre the one fucking them in the ass, not them.

Im telling you one last time, you will lose everything!!! Keep me in touch.

Can you clarify what you mean by "how validated she will feel if you try it up on her" and the facebook screenshot to my girlfriend is mean? Do you mean she was rubbing it in my girl's face?

Also, why stupid about the social circle thing, what did I say that was too much?

oh and it is not me who is in a 7 year relationship, it is my girlfriend's friend!

Anything you do or say that is sexual or romantic to your girl friends is too much. Just thinking about it is way pass the red line. I know you know this since highschool.

When a beautiful girl tells you how cute and cool you are. That feeling you get is what they feel 10x times when being validated. Your girl friend does not owe you anything and she knows.

To her, its very light to rub it in your girl face (but thats just because she is very selfish and mean deep inside). It is mean to you, it just proves how hard she has absolute no care of you. She has a boyfriend, she has friends, she does not need you in any way shape or form. Oh but i know one thing you can give her... Being validated! Getting her shot of emotional rollercoster! Saving her friend from the dark chode who does not love her deeply! She loooooves that story.

how does me just friending her validate her? I didn't actually ask her to do anything yet. She showed my girlfriend a screen capture of me requesting her as a friend. I told my girlfriend that I want to be part of her life and be friends with her friends too.