striderr give me this chick's name so that in 2 months when she is bored of you and you guys get into a fight i can start fucking her behind your back and develop the same "connection."
in other words, wake the fuck up man.
you need to learn the word preselection. you do not ever enter into longterm relationships with women who exhibit even one of these traits:
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Her personality:
Has been in many relationships from a fairly young age. Lots of bad experiences.
Described as crazy by other people.
High anxiety. Deals with it by adopting a don't give a fuck attitude.
Doesn't filter her words. Doesn't pay too much attention to other people's feelings.
Drinks a LOT, blacks out and doesn't remember nights. Goes on autopilot.
Becomes verbally abusive when drunk and doesn't care what she says to people.
Gets moody.
seriously dude. i almost always offer gaming advice, even to the guys on here who are much better off simply finding another girl, but this is just absolutely insane to think you would lock this girl down for more than a couple months tops. she is gonna fuck guys behind your back. she will literally invent arguments between you two to cause strife so she can justify banging someone else on the side. some women are just wired like that, they have to have that drama and risqué activity in their lives.
she's "working" on breaking up with her bf? gtfo man, when this same thing happened to me, the girl left her bf in a split second and didn't look back. if she liked you that much she would have kicked her bf to the curb months ago. you are being used for whatever her current bf can't give her, but he obviously can provide her enough to keep her from leaving him to be with you.
so whatever you lack that this guy can provide, some other guy is gonna have to meet that need once she's your girlfriend. get it?
and the answer is: novelty and taboo.
you can't be either of those once you're dating this girl. and i guarantee you she'll still need both, and she'll still get both. but not from you.
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The next day she told me she did it because we weren't supposed to be hooking up (true) and if she didn't, it would have definitely happened (I agreed). So she was trying to distract herself from me using other guys... (is this bullshit or not? to be fair this is what our community do in order to lessen the feeling of rejection/investment of feelings)
lmaooo. yes. that. is. bullshit.... she was drunk and hitting on other guys because she craves male attention. those same guys will be fucking her once she's your girlfriend.
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I obviously do not want her to think she can get away with this shit around me (or do worse acts behind my back) and it's confusing because we have a very deep, genuine, connection between each other. I'm very understanding of her but at the same time I don't want to let her start taking advantage of me like she does with her current bf.
dude, you need to learn that women DO NOT THINK LIKE MEN. they are guided by emotion, not logic, and their thoughts and feelings toward things change literally by the minute. she can say (and genuinely believe) she has the deepest connection to you, then go home to her bf and realize she (genuinely) loves him and can never leave him, then later they get into a fight and suddenly you're the best man she's ever met, then she goes out to a bar and wow that guy over in the peacoat is gorgeous and we have so many similar interests, i really like him... and so on and so on and so on.
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And if anything I see this as an experiment/challenge. I like to see if change can happen within people who are kinda damaged...
this is a rationalization/excuse and one i used to use myself. you have feelings for this chick and you don't have other hot, interesting women hitting you up left and right that would keep you from having oneitis for her.
do not date this woman. she will cheat on you. there is absolutely nothing you can do to prevent it. nothing. so take everybody's advice on this forum and find a better, more stable woman to date long term.
CHAT
