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I'm interested to know for the guys who do fight through the failure and get there how many times you have to do so and how easily you can force yourself to change.
It doesn't have to take long at all, as soon as you get this part down:
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my energy and persona were way off
When you approach with a comfortable vibe and behave with them in the same manner you would behave around a girl who is your girlfriend, your energy and persona will be on point. You have to believe in your heart that you have so much to offer and that any woman would be so fortunate to chill with you: You are doing them a MASSIVE FAVOR by approaching them. You are making their lives way better then they were before they met you.
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guys get frustrated by the bad results and either start hating on themselves or get misogynistic, or both.
If a guy accepts the fact that there are tons of men succeeding with cold approaching - but does not find success initially himself - it takes a level of humility and understanding to press on until success is found, KNOWING that it is around the corner unless the guy gives up. Whether it's inventing the light bulb or cold approaching, the road to succeeding is take action-modify-take action-modify-repeat.
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I don't want to approach them and be a shitty version of myself that will prejudice them against me for the future.
There is an overwhelming abundance of women out in the world, more than enough to practice cold approaching with until you get good. If there aren't a ton of women where you live, perhaps you might want to consider moving to a new town. It's all out there for you bro - just like it is for each and every one of us.
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sales technique is all that counts and the product is somehow irrelevant.
Ideally the sales technique (the approach) and the product (the man) are a cohesive unit - they are one.
Quite frankly, the common term "cold approaching" is as wrong as could be if the approaching is being done effectively. Sure you don't technically "know" the girl, but you behave as if you do. The girl lighting up in the first 5 seconds of the approach is proof of anything but a COLD approach.