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How does a guy who doesn't even know you, know you're good for a long term relationship? Do you meet strange men and think "Gosh, I can picture myself engaged to this man"? Because if so, you've got other problems. Flights of fantasy being at the top.
The only guy who would meet you and think "Future wife right here!" is a dude you don't want.
How to get a man to commit? Be awesome. Most girls aren't worth staying with for long, because they aren't well developed people and get boring very fast.
This is correct. And Versalis makes an excellent point --- we don't know you and can't tell you what you're doing right and what you're missing... And what makes it harder is that it's a moving target. The qualities I like in a woman are probably not the same as most of the other guys here.
I can tell you this: I've taken a grand total of 2 women home to my family - ever (and I'm mid-thirties). One of them I married (I'm divorced), and the other is the girl I'm with right now... For me (and I can speak for only me), the girl would have to be:
-Hot (though this is actually secondary for me)
-Smart, smarter than me - which isn't hard
-Sarcastic and witty
-Someone who can hear me use the word 'cunt' and not freak out
-Wants to hang out with my friends, wants me to hang out with her friends
-Awesome in bed
-Isn't a slob. Takes care of herself (doesn't have to be a marathon runner, but it's great if she's not Jabba The Hut)
-Is good to animals and likes dogs
-Can live without me for a few days
That list sounds cheesy, but it's actually true... When I'm just 'dating' or hooking up, this list is considerably smaller.
One other thing I *ALWAYS* do with anyone I'm looking to get into a relationship with, is get them shitfaced drunk one night while we're out having fun... and see what happens: Do they turn into flaming racists? Do they make out with half the bar? I look for red flags and disqualifiers.
This may or may not have been helpful - hopefully it was.