| Guys:
I was really starting to hate all this PUA shit. I'm not in the game to be a Pick Up Guru or a Master. I just want to go out and have a good time and pretty much have my choice of women. I don't care to teach this shit professionally, or even pay to learn this stuff. This is something that should've come naturally to all of us, but it didn't. I would go out with a wingman and stalk the bars, doing everything wrong, approaching women I wasn't even necessarily attracted to. The nights were either boring, uneventful, or they would be completely horrible. Either way, I would go home feeling no better.
Even though I would read up on my mistakes and try to correct them the next time I was still missing one major fucking point. I wasn't having fun. All this PUA shit is NOT FUN. I was not having fun. I was not bringing fun to the people I interacted with. I was too concerned with which phase I was in "A1 A2" fuck that shit.
I dance. I dance well. I'm sorry if you don't. Mystery obviously does not because after reading his stuff I felt like girls were actually turned off by a man who danced. I'm sure I read it incorrectly, but basically my dancing ability is a key factor in the game that I'm developing for myself.
I like girls who dance. I just basically told a girl to go fuck herself because not only does she not think she can dance well, but out on a date with me refused to even approach the dance floor. She suddenly became the most un-fun-loser-girl in the place and I desperately wanted to ditch her to pursue my own good time, however it was a double date and I couldn't do that to my buddy.
I don't give a shit what you guys do to improve your game, but listen to my story of the past couple weeks and maybe it'll give you ideas on what is right for you, because there is no "one size fits all" PUA guide. We are unique and we need to channel that uniqueness in order to genuinely be attractive to women.
Last Week:
Turns out one of my buddies is an awesome wingman to have. He invites me out to a party for some friend of a friend of a friend. All girls. It's some lame ass bar downtown Manhattan. About an hour into the night a DJ turns up the music and plays some decent stuff. NOBODY is dancing. He and I grab some girls from the party and kick it on the floor. I dance hip-hop, he can't dance so he's just a goof. Girls respond positively to both of our styles. Girls with little dancing talent can get intimidated by me so they flock to him, and girls who are confident in dancing will step right up to me. The girls we have already are just our friends, but soon enough 4 random chicks hit the floor and start grinding on me and my buddy.
We were Preselected Alpha Males creating our own good time.
Grinding: I thought I knew what grinding was, but I had a revelation that night when I noticed I could feel the lips of this girl's vagina on my thigh. Another girl swabbed my crotch with her ass cheeks in some raunchy dance move. Various other girls throughout the night had their breasts against me while dancing. This is grinding.
More girls came to the party and upon being introduced to me, one Chinese girl was instantly attracted to me. She wanted to dance with me badly and I could see it the way she was staring into my eyes with her forehead tilted toward me. It was at that moment, I realized I could dance with any woman in the place. I was Mr. Fun. I had women visibly attracted to me. I took the Chinese girl's number at the end of the night.
This Past Weekend:
A similar episode. Surprise BDay for my buddy in Manhattan, plus a friend of mine is home from Iraq. So we all meet at this swanky hotel penthouse lounge. My good buddy and wingman is there with me, plus another dude in the group is a good dancer. I've always seen him bust a move on the floor and have his pick of cute girls. Until the week before, I had never had that kind of success. So this was my chance to observe him and try it again for myself.
It's 8 of us sitting around a table chatting, drinking. We have some girls in our group but my wingman looks around and notes "there are a LOT of attractive women in here". This includes our waitress. We get up and start dancing. Not with girls either. On our own. Our waitress comes through with an empty tray. I attempt to pry it from her hands so she can dance with me. She refuses with a big smile claiming she'll get into trouble. I see two fairly unattractive black girls swaying to the music and pull them over to dance with me. They resisted a little, but I wasn't pressuring too hard so they eventually came around. It doesn't matter how busted they are, it's still preselection somewhat, and if not I'm still creating my own fun time.
The waitress comes back again, I playfully bump her butt with mine and she swats my arm. When she passes me again she squeezes my tricep. When she comes back with drinks, she brings me a free Voss water.
Aside from the two black girls nobody was dancing with me yet. Two girls I know from work show up and dance with me. Instant preselection and suddenly every girl on the dance floor opened up. I danced with more girls that night than I did the week before.
A lot of people think you can't talk when you dance. You CAN. Just keep it simple like "stop being a show off" or "so you think you're hot stuff, eh?" If she's dancing with you and smiling and rubbing her reproductive organs on you, guess what SHE'S ATTRACTED TO YOU. You can leave her and come back. You can say your thirsty and get some drinks and chat while you drink.
I did not get the waitresses number, btw. I had to work early the next morning and my group was all leaving. So i tried to track her down to thank her for the free water, close my tab and get her digits, but she had actually gone for the night. It's too bad, she was really cute.
In conclusion:
I've always hated the idea of long scripted routines. They serve a purpose, and I understand that. Still I hated them. Now I found something that will work for me and I'm going to perfect it. This has revitalized my motivation. It's something that comes way more natural for me and it's way more fun than asking girls' opinions on things I never cared about anyhow.
Sure, this only works in a dancing environment, but in a night I can dance with 5 different girls and probably walk away with all of their numbers once I become more advanced. This ought to help fill up my social calendar with some booty.
If you guys are struggling with this shit and also not even enjoying it, maybe you need to step back and figure out a few things:
1- What are my goals?
2- What is my ideal fun environment?
3- Do my friends/wingmen compliment my style?
I'm gonna begin a guide about dancing based on my experiences and my observations of other people in a dancing environment. I think PUAs that can't dance have really sold dancing short.
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-Murdoc
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