It's true that you in some sense are "supposed to lead". But your gut feeling that something maybe isn't quite right still has some validity. The question probably still frets your mind - why doesn't she chase you? There are a few possible reasons I can think of:
1. She isn't interested. Being the leader here doesn't take you anywhere.
2. She is interested, but not enough.
3. She is shy and timid. In this case, just take the lead!
As you probably understand, case 1 and 2 all boils down to one thing - making that impression that lasts! It sounds to me as if you make a mediocre impression on the girls, so you probably need to work on that. Try to give a girl a night she will never forget (in a good way)! When I have made an impression, the girl can't wait for me to call her. Instead, she is all over me, texts me all the time, calls me all the time etc.
Doing such an impression can require tremendous effort. It's all about getting into state, or "in the zone", which in my case can be as hard as turning an oil tanker by giving it a push with my bare hands. But sometimes I'm just there without knowing how I got there. So don't blame yourself if you don't succeed everytime. Here are some things that make it easier:
1. Being in the right company, with people who give you energy, stimulate your mind and make you feel good about yourself.
2. Talking to girls who you have chemistry with, and makes you feel good too, and ignore other girls.
3. Gain social momentum by going out frequently. My best pickup ever was after going out every day for a whole week. I got better and better results with every night out.
When in state, my brain goes Speedy Gonzales and girls find me very funny and stimulating, and I have to step on the breaks and hold back. If I don't, things go out of control. This can be good to keep in mind.
CHAT
